Sell me marriage...

[Graves The Elder]

So like early UFC without Jim Brown commentating?
Fuck that shit. I'll just stalk some grocery store lady when I'm ready for companionship.

you sir are out of line and in need of immediate intervention.
congratulations

 

[Cherry Brigand]

Greatest thing that has ever happened to me. 20th anniversary this year.

A lot of you sound like children you're so focused on your own needs all the time...and that's 100% the opposite of what makes a marriage work. Grow up.

 

[Robocok]

Greatest thing that has ever happened to me. 20th anniversary this year.

A lot of you sound like children you're so focused on your own needs all the time...and that's 100% the opposite of what makes a marriage work. Grow up.

Grow up.. classic shaming tactics to imply that a person is immature and morally reprehensible for not giving up their freedom and focusing their efforts to make someone else happy.

If you're self sufficient then no one can say anything to you. Do what YOU like.

 

[Strychnine]

Why I should sell you on marriage?

I've been married for 22 years and I dated a lot before I settled down. Until you find the right one (and make DAAAAAAAANNNNNNG sure they're the right one), remember this..

"These hoes ain't loyal."

I have my wife's back and she has mine. I've always got her in my corner and vice versa. Make SURE you pick the right one though.

 

[Canned Tuna]

I don't want to get married, but if I'm to play devil's advocate, it does give you some benefits. Maybe tax breaks, you can be covered together on the same insurance plan, you can pool your resources together, and if you have children, I'd say it's necessary in the modern world to be married for the benefit of the kids. A lot of people I talked to also argue that you'll be "less lonely" when you're old and decrepit.

But the question is, why would one want any of that? To me those are functional reasons and functions are useless to somebody who doesn't want said functions. One thing marriage really isn't about is love. Love has nothing to do with it despite what people might have been fed growing up. I'm not going to lock myself in an agreement to be with somebody for the rest of my life just because I'm afraid of my own loneliness. I'd just get a dog from the shelter if that happened.

I'm happily married and I agree with this post. Marriage is a choice you make. It's an agreement and you both have to uphold the agreement and it's not always easy or fun. If you don't want children, I really don't see a good reason to be married. I guess being a dual income couple without kids would be cool to experience having a shitload of disposable income and traveling the world together, but you can do that with a girlfriend. When I wasnt married, I had absolutely no desire to pin myself down to one woman for any period of time. I really just can't see any reason to get married outside of building a family. I'm also not someone who really requires companionship, though. I enjoy going places and doing things alone, which I've learned is kind of abnormal. I guess if you like having someone to experience life with, marriage is the best way to do that.

 

[TidWell]

Why I should sell you on marriage?

I've been married for 22 years and I dated a lot before I settled down. Until you find the right one (and make DAAAAAAAANNNNNNG sure they're the right one), remember this..

"These hoes ain't loyal."

I have my wife's back and she has mine. I've always got her in my corner and vice versa. Make SURE you pick the right one though.

How did you know she was the one?

 

[Strychnine]

How did you know she was the one?

This is gonna sound cliché but...

I prayed about it and she was everything I wanted in a woman. God truly blessed me.

I was young, wild, and unfocused... Still, she chose me. Her family welcomed me with open arms and she's always kissed my head when I did right and hit me upside it when I did wrong. I spend every day letting her know how much she means to me and how much I love her.

My mother-in-law came over to visit and she says out of all of her kids (My wife has HUGE family), she says she never worries about my wife...

Because she has me.

 

[nostradumbass]

If you choose wrong, it’s a badddd choice. Unfortunately, divorce data seems to show its roughly a 50% chance that you’ll make the wrong choice. And it’s actually probably much higher as plenty of people remain in unhappy, loveless marriages.

That said, if you choose wisely, it’s being with your best friend who loves you unconditionally and always has your back. I’m only 9 years in and I literally look forward to seeing her every evening after work and spending weekends with her. Occasionally I hang out with buddies, but even when I do, I find myself to prefer being with my wife.

Do you need to be married to have that? No, but it made her happy so I had no problem doing it and haven’t regretted it.

Well shit, I almost got married last year and it was nothing like that. My favorite time of day was when she'd leave and she kept gaining weight and then, big surprise, lost it after we broke up. Pretty glad that one didn't pan out.

Marriage is really nice in theory, once was in practice and still could be with a very very few select girls. Just know that if you noticing cracks of nagging, letting herself go/getting too comfortable while you're still dating, they'll only get worse after being married. I'd get married to a chick who would make a good wife, not some chick who's just hot enough now to overlook red flags.

 

[nostradumbass]

This is gonna sound cliché but...

I prayed about it and she was everything I wanted in a woman. God truly blessed me.

I was young, wild, and unfocused... Still, she chose me. Her family welcomed me with open arms and she's always kissed my head when I did right and hit me upside it when I did wrong. I spend every day letting her know how much she means to me and how much I love her.

My mother-in-law came over to visit and she says out of all of her kids (My wife has HUGE family), she says she never worries about my wife...

Because she has me.

 

[TidWell]

This is gonna sound cliché but...

I prayed about it and she was everything I wanted in a woman. God truly blessed me.

I was young, wild, and unfocused... Still, she chose me. Her family welcomed me with open arms and she's always kissed my head when I did right and hit me upside it when I did wrong. I spend every day letting her know how much she means to me and how much I love her.

My mother-in-law came over to visit and she says out of all of her kids (My wife has HUGE family), she says she never worries about my wife...

Because she has me.

you are good man, you the guy who posted the pic of you with your baby right?

Are you from America? or overseas and just moved here?

One thing I look for is to study the family and friends of a woman, if she has those wild gossip controlling female friends for me that is a red flag, they will brainwash her and feed her seeds of doubt

 

[TidWell]

Well shit, I almost got married last year and it was nothing like that. My favorite time of day was when she'd leave and she kept gaining weight and then, big surprise, lost it after we broke up. Pretty glad that one didn't pan out.

Marriage is really nice in theory, once was in practice and still could be with a very very few select girls. Just know that if you noticing cracks of nagging, letting herself go/getting too comfortable while you're still dating, they'll only get worse after being married. I'd get married to a chick who would make a good wife, not some chick who's just hot enough now to overlook red flags.

With experience comes wisdom, you either learn from your own mistakes or from others experiences and mistakes
What are some red flags for you

 

[Strychnine]

you are good man, you the guy who posted the pic of you with your baby right?

Are you from America? or overseas and just moved here?

One thing I look for is to study the family and friends of a woman, if she has those wild gossip controlling female friends for me that is a red flag, they will brainwash her and feed her seeds of doubt

I've posted a pic of myself but never my wife and son. C'mon man! Sherdog is MERCILESS!

I'm from Southern Georgia, USA, born and raised. I met my wife in Germany though, her family and her are from the Philippines.

You're right though. Watch the company that is around your girlfriend/partner before you pop the quesiton.

 

[nostradumbass]

With experience comes wisdom, you either learn from your own mistakes or from others experiences and mistakes
What are some red flags for you

There are a bunch. Mood swings(that's every girl, so you have to gauge what kind), weight control, poor decision-making, and the biggest one is asking for your complicity in lying to other people. Don't think she only lies to other people and wouldn't to you. Also, too many exes has to make you wonder why no relationship has worked with her, and if she checks facebook all the time, that's probably your cue to leave. And of course has a different group of friends all the time who are nothing like each other. We're dealing with a sociopath in that case who changes personalities entirely based on who can benefit her when.

 

[RockstarChris]

I was going back and forth with someone who deeply believes in marriage. Sadly for most parts the argument turned in to personal insults and the argument turned in to a flame war and overall, it just felt like a shitty conversation.

Now I just got back from meditation and I am in a mood to open up to a new concept and take it to consideration. Would love to hear from all of you who are married or in long term relationships. What is the biggest advantage of being married/

 

[RockstarChris]

I think the idea of one vagina for the rest of my life is very...ah, fuck it.

any woman that would marry me, i dont want to be with them

 

[TidWell]

There are a bunch. Mood swings(that's every girl, so you have to gauge what kind), weight control, poor decision-making, and the biggest one is asking for your complicity in lying to other people. Don't think she only lies to other people and wouldn't to you. Also, too many exes has to make you wonder why no relationship has worked with her, and if she checks facebook all the time, that's probably your cue to leave. And of course has a different group of friends all the time who are nothing like each other. We're dealing with a sociopath in that case who changes personalities entirely based on who can benefit her when.

Social media has brought out the narcissists in women. Its hard to find a hot chick who isnt obsessed with posting on social media today

A big key for me is monkey branching, never be with a girl who cannot go without being single, if she is constantly dating guy sand having a boyfriend thats a huge red flag

 

[wlu.29]

You’ve only been married for about 2 minutes, man.

Yet you brag about getting sex daily

 

[Cherry Brigand]

Grow up.. classic shaming tactics to imply that a person is immature and morally reprehensible for not giving up their freedom and focusing their efforts to make someone else happy.

No. I described selfishness. And you have done the same...only with more precision. Not wanting to focus on someone else's happiness so you can focus on your own is exactly what selfishness is. And wanting to celebrate your own selfishness is definitely something that should be shamed. And yes. Most definitely it is a sign of immaturity. So yes, grow up.

 

[Philo-Publius]

I was going back and forth with someone who deeply believes in marriage. Sadly for most parts the argument turned in to personal insults and the argument turned in to a flame war and overall, it just felt like a shitty conversation.

Now I just got back from meditation and I am in a mood to open up to a new concept and take it to consideration. Would love to hear from all of you who are married or in long term relationships. What is the biggest advantage of being married/

I have a relative who has been married 5 times and has 7 children. Don't do it.

 

[Robocok]

No. I described selfishness. And you have done the same...only with more precision. Not wanting to focus on someone else's happiness so you can focus on your own is exactly what selfishness is. And wanting to celebrate your own selfishness is definitely something that should be shamed. And yes. Most definitely it is a sign of immaturity. So yes, grow up.

Do you let homeless people live with you? What percentage of your earnings do you donate to the poor? I'd like to know how much of what I work for I should give away in order to qualify as a real man in your eyes. The concept of 'manning up' and signing the marriage contract which gives away half my wealth plus possible alimony payments fascinates me. Explain this more.