Ever caught anyone carrying out a affair?

[IIIIIIII]

i don't understand a woman (or man) who'd marry someone, be with them for years, then all of a sudden say that they are no longer "attracted to them in that way", unless maybe that individual changed drastically in physical appearance, to the point where it's beyond repair. if it's something else though, they should have never gotten married in the first place.

this is only speculation, but i think there is a lot of truth to it.

i think that two things happened, here.

- herself and her husband were obviously single when they first met. the guy was probably more confident and humorous then. but like all marriages, the sparks began to dissipate. both partners went from a single to a married lifestyle. the husband is satisfied because he has consistent vagina with a woman he finds attractive. the woman is no longer satisfied, because he lost the qualities that made him attractive to her in the first place.

nothing kills attraction to a woman more than boredom. maybe females who are reading this can expand on this point.

- this woman that i am talking about places financial security as paramount. the husband is a doctor and makes great money. if they were to divorce, i get the feeling that she would begin to experience insecurity, and may fear the loss of her current standard of living. it's a choice that each individual has to make. and like i mentioned, she doesn't want to go through the ordeal of her family relationships falling apart.

we've talked about this at length, and i tell her that she needs to make this decision on her own. how important is her financial security when it directly affects her needs as a woman?

 

[Bolshevik***]

To be fair, it can get stale. But it's something you're supposed to work around, it's not a death sentence for a relationship. And, guys' "personalities" do change due to circumstances as well.

i know what you mean, but if that's the driving factor in the marriage, or enough to end it, it was a mistake to begin with.

 

[Bolshevik***]

this is only speculation, but i think there is a lot of truth to it.

i think that two things happened, here.

- herself and her husband were obviously single when they first met. the guy was probably more confident and humorous then. but like all marriages, the sparks began to dissipate. both partners went from a single to a married lifestyle. the husband is satisfied because he has consistent vagina with a woman he finds attractive. the woman is no longer satisfied, because he lost the qualities that made him attractive to her in the first place.

nothing kills attraction to a woman more than boredom. maybe females who are reading this can expand on this point.

- this woman that i am talking about places financial security as paramount. the husband is a doctor and makes great money. if they were to divorce, i get the feeling that she would begin to experience insecurity, and may fear the loss of her current standard of living. it's a choice that each individual has to make. and like i mentioned, she doesn't want to go through the ordeal of her family relationships falling apart.

we've talked about this at length, and i tell her that she needs to make this decision on her own. how important is her financial security when it directly affects her needs as a woman?

i can see that. the problem is that people should consider those things before they get married. if they honestly think their partners are going to expend the same amount of energy and effort as they did before they got married, they're dreaming. obviously i'm not saying that married people should just sit around and get fat together, but priorities change, and sometimes they need to deal with that. it can't all be fun and games until they die.

 

[neverwas]

a womans interest in her other half is in proportion to how much he earns.

 

[KOCowboy]

it wasn't the cheating side of things that annoyed me,it was the bull shit and lies that bugged me especially when i caught her out.if your man enough to cheat,be man enough to own up when caught.but the bitches can't take responsibility for what they do,cause as far as there concerned it was a mans fault anyway.

spaces after punctuation would be cool please.

anyways

what hes saying is truth

the bullshit that goes along with the affair the lies, the cover ups are what really fucks with you.

its not the thought of your wife with another guy (although that sucks bad)

its thinking about all the fake i love yous, that time she held your hand and wished it was his, and that time she went to "visit her parents" those are the thoughts that fuck you over. atleast in my case

 

[KOCowboy]

a womans interest in her other half is in proportion to how much he earns.

funny my wife loved me much more when i made much less

but then again you said intrest... not love

 

[neverwas]

spaces after punctuation would be cool please.

anyways

what hes saying is truth

the bullshit that goes along with the affair the lies, the cover ups are what really fucks with you.

its not the thought of your wife with another guy (although that sucks bad)

its thinking about all the fake i love yous, that time she held your hand and wished it was his, and that time she went to "visit her parents" those are the thoughts that fuck you over. atleast in my case

dude seriously, are you gonna pick me up on punctuation? i really do have dyslexia plus i've been drinking.but at leasst you know exactly where i'm coming from,so i salute you.and the next beer i raised to you,and all the other men that have had to listen to a womans bullshit.

 

[Lionidas]

Messy situation here TS. My advice is to stay well out of the way of that shit storm.

Getting yourself involved is going to get super ugly for you.

 

[KOCowboy]

no
but that is what was being complaining about i dont care about a comma or its misuse
but type a coma, then a space or a period. then a space

dont use commas make every sentence a new line

i also have dslexia mild but characterized by shit spelling and slower reading as an adult


a beer... well i guess it is 5 oclock

when did you find out about your wife?

 

[neverwas]

no
but that is what was being complaining about i dont care about a comma or its misuse
but type a coma, then a space or a period. then a space

dont use commas make every sentence a new line

i also have dslexia mild but characterized by shit spelling and slower reading as an adult


a beer... well i guess it is 5 oclock

when did you find out about your wife?

i have shit spelling,even worse writing.b and d look the same to me and i put an e in where its not supposed to be. also mix past and present tense. its been a while now we aren't together anymore, but i guess that was the way it was gonna go.this will probably say more about me,but the sex thing really didn't bother.in fact it was quite a turn on,but the other stuff you said,that really stings. it's 2300 over here.uk time.

 

[Nonsense]

a womans interest in her other half is in proportion to how much he earns.

This is fiction.

 

[Bolshevik***]

i have shit spelling,even worse writing.b and d look the same to me and i put an e in where its not supposed to be. also mix past and present tense. its been a while now we aren't together anymore, but i guess that was the way it was gonna go.this will probably say more about me,but the sex thing really didn't bother.in fact it was quite a turn on,but the other stuff you said,that really stings. it's 2300 over here.uk time.

cuckolding, eh? not my thing, but to each his own.

This is fiction.

i've always thought that women like guys who can make them feel good about themselves. i'm not claiming i'm an expert, so take it for what its worth.

 

[neverwas]

This is fiction.

really? how many pictures have you seen of normal working guys with stunning wives vs pictures of old rich guys with stunning wives half there age?

 

[neverwas]

cuckolding, eh? not my thing, but to each his own. i never thought of it that way,but you made me laugh!

 

[minute bull]

really? how many pictures have you seen of normal working guys with stunning wives vs pictures of old rich guys with stunning wives half there age?

Only stunning wives count. NO UGGOES. THEY DON'T COUNT.

 

[Nonsense]

really? how many pictures have you seen of normal working guys with stunning wives vs pictures of old rich guys with stunning wives half there age?

So is your statement about women, or about stunning women? Are you rating the quality of women exclusively by their looks, so that when working class men have average looking wives, they are settling for a woman of lesser overall quality?

That's mighty hypocritical. I hope you see why.

 

[Bolshevik***]

really? how many pictures have you seen of normal working guys with stunning wives vs pictures of old rich guys with stunning wives half there age?

Only stunning wives count. NO UGGOES. THEY DON'T COUNT.

you like apples?

how you like dem apples?

 

[Nonsense]

Only stunning wives count. NO UGGOES. THEY DON'T COUNT.

Aw, it's like you reside in my mind.

 

[neverwas]

So is your statement about women, or about stunning women? Are you rating the quality of women exclusively by their looks, so that when working class men have average looking wives, they are settling for a woman of lesser overall quality?

That's mighty hypocritical. I hope you see why.

no,my point was that there are many women how only have there looks to go on, and they do this ruthlessly.and to the other pot with the pic,is that you and your wife?

 

[Bolshevik***]

no,my point was that there are many women how only have there looks to go on, and they do this ruthlessly.and to the other pot with the pic,is that you and your wife?

if i was married to christina hendricks, yeah :wink: