Why does she never text me first?

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There are two strains of advice in this thread

1. Don't text her wait for her to text
2. Be assertive and ask her out

Just do the second one, because why chat online for months without any chance of doing something in person. Whatever the response is, do the first one after until after you meet her.

 

[Robocok]

There are two strains of advice in this thread

1. Don't text her wait for her to text
2. Be assertive and ask her out

Just do the second one, because why chat online for months without any chance of doing something in person. Whatever the response is, do the first one after until after you meet her.

You are basically correct. It's the man's job to initiate the first couple dates. After that, the female should do 80-90% of the pursuing.

 

[ocean size]

You are basically correct. It's the man's job to initiate the first couple dates. After that, the female should do 80-90% of the pursuing.

The way I see it: Girls like assertiveness and you have no right to complain about her not coming after you until you show you are into her and want a date. Not just some slimy, bet-hedged lets meet up with mutual friends or a bunch of my friends, just an actual meet up with it clear you are interested in meeting her.

After that, if shes lukewarm, she's can make up her mind but being a puppy dog and messaging all the time won't help. If she's into you, she will just message.

Problem solved, shit or get off the pot, and no time sitting wondering whats going on. If she doesn't know you are into her, you can't expect her to go out of her way necessarily esp when you are some random and she probably has plenty of friends to message, but after you let her know that you are into her, if she's into you, you will know it.

This is old bull-young bull shit - the kind of thing that doesn't change with new technology and generations.

 

[Robocok]

The way I see it: Girls like assertiveness and you have no right to complain about her not coming after you until you show you are into her and want a date. Not just some slimy, bet-hedged lets meet up with mutual friends or a bunch of my friends, just an actual meet up with it clear you are interested in meeting her.

After that, if shes lukewarm, she's can make up her mind but being a puppy dog and messaging all the time won't help. If she's into you, she will just message.

Problem solved, shit or get off the pot, and no time sitting wondering whats going on. If she doesn't know you are into her, you can't expect her to go out of her way necessarily esp when you are some random and she probably has plenty of friends to message, but after you let her know that you are into her, if she's into you, you will know it.

This is old bull-young bull shit - the kind of thing that doesn't change with new technology and generations.

You are absolutely correct.

This man explains it perfectly.

 

[Madmick]

You are on her back burner list, once she runs out of options she’ll text first.

If you text so much why haven’t you at least had her out for coffee or someshit?

Bingo. She likes you, but she isn't crazy about you. You're not the guy she thinks about when she touches herself, and you never will be.

You're the backup college.

 

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Bingo. She likes you, but she isn't crazy about you. You're not the guy she thinks about when she touches herself, and you never will be.

You're the backup college.

oi! not so quick. he just hasn't met her in person with his tried and true trademark basketball shorts with no underwear so she can catch the outline of the invasive tree snake in the corner of her eye. Or Profile game just isn't on point it's probably a truck.

 

[Madmick]

oi! not so quick. he just hasn't met her in person with his tried and true trademark basketball shorts with no underwear so she can catch the outline of the invasive tree snake in the corner of her eye. Or Profile game just isn't on point it's probably a truck.

I don't want to discourage the young buck from trying to catch her on a 'bad decision' night, and score that Hail Mary 3am delight, but it sounds like his flights of fancy entertain a relationship, and I'm suggesting that probably isn't going to be a fruitful pursuit.

I could be wrong, but in my experience, when a girl has you slotted into the "backup" filter, you should slot her into the "I'll catch you in a moment of weakness" filter. Aggressive pursuit with this dynamic is counterproductive smothering. Usually not the right play. But there are also some girls who need to be chased and drawn out.

That's why this shit drives men crazy.

 

[Kardashians]

Yeah tbh I think she got other options going on that she’s more interested in. I know personally if I like somebody I’ll message frequently to talk. If somebody isn’t interested in talking to you they just ain’t gonna bother man. Better dudes to be chattin with ain’t no time to think about you.

 

[Rhood]

You and many other guys are the main reasons why females never leave the house anymore.
They are getting tons of male validation online without putting any effort in.
Facebook is really the main culprit of this, but it's just ridiculous how many people these days choose fake interactions over real face to face interactions.

I spend time on sherdog because I don't come across many people in real life that are into MMA. It's incredibly rare.
That last guy I talked about MMA fights in person thought Khabib was fighting some real estate agent.

 

[thehighking]

Your username and avatar aside, here is the deal:

Don't text her. Let her initiate conversation. If she doesn't, she isn't interested. It's pretty simple, rookie level shit.

I disagree with that, sometimes you just have to be the conversation maker. You can usually tell if they're not interested with dead responses

 

[GtehMVP]

Either she doesn't like you, or she's doing that annoying feminine thing where they're unable to be assertive. I've asked many girls why they don't initiate convos more, and usually the answer is "I don't want to bother you", or they just don't like you, or believe it or not, they're just busy and you're not a priority in their life, which ties back to "not liking you".

When women like someone, they'll find any excuse to contact you, or bump into you, whether personally, or via proxy.

OP, the girl likes the attention you give her, nothing more, move along

 

[Goonerview]

The way I see it: Girls like assertiveness and you have no right to complain about her not coming after you until you show you are into her and want a date. Not just some slimy, bet-hedged lets meet up with mutual friends or a bunch of my friends, just an actual meet up with it clear you are interested in meeting her.

After that, if shes lukewarm, she's can make up her mind but being a puppy dog and messaging all the time won't help. If she's into you, she will just message.

Problem solved, shit or get off the pot, and no time sitting wondering whats going on. If she doesn't know you are into her, you can't expect her to go out of her way necessarily esp when you are some random and she probably has plenty of friends to message, but after you let her know that you are into her, if she's into you, you will know it.

This is old bull-young bull shit - the kind of thing that doesn't change with new technology and generations.

I agree.

But, I wouldn't overtly say to a girl "I like you and want a date because I'm interested in making you my girl". You will most likely get rejected.

Keep it light, casual, ask her out on a one to one coffee/dinner/wine. Give her a compliment and get closer slowly. You have to be calibrated.

You want to set a premise. Covert communication.

 

[Goonerview]

I have known this girl for few months now. We got to know each other accidentally through Facebook. I have never met her irl but she has seen pics of me. When I text her first we always have long interesting funny conversations but what bothers me is that she never texts me first. What to think of it? Should I move on?

Ask her out on a one to one.

If she says yes, you got a chance. If no, move on.

 

[DoomPatrol]

The phone is strictly for setting dates. You're friendzoning yourself by acting like the woman. Study Corey Wayne and he will change your life.

Wait one week to contact her and schedule a definite date. You need to meet her in person if you want to bang... unless you're content with being her gay male girlfriend, then by all means continue what you've been doing.

Any man that needs to study another man's books to have game is on the top ten list of cuck losers.

 

[Otto!]

You’ve never met her irl? She probably has a 10 inch schlong. “Surprise!!!”

 

[DarkneT]

But it won’t be his.

Girls these days all in social media have a steady stream of hard dicks pestering them non stop.

Playing hard to get still works in person in a bar , club , party or other personal surrounding but over the phone/social media you got to be assertive

Fuck living in that world

 

[Amerikuracana]

Give her the chance to do it. If she doesn't, next.

We've all played the fool at least once. Don't stretch it out. Stretch her out, if you can. Quick. If it takes longer than a month, move on.

 

[Amerikuracana]

You’ve never met her irl? She probably has a 10 inch schlong. “Surprise!!!”

Hey.. You gotta appreciate 10 inches.

 

[bad mojo]

The ugly truth about women is that the only thing they really fall for are men who sincerely don't care. Nature has give them much sharper intuition, so it's next to impossible playing games with them in a long run. Once the woman knows you like her, you're done. If you're a good looking dude ( and all Sherbros are ) you'll get enough of them to the point you become immune to pussy. Once you've reach that state, they will come to you begging. In meantime, get ready to suffer. Don't text her first, ever, see what happens.

 

[CodeBreaker]

Turn the tables around. Don't text her.

It worked for me in the past, most of the time.
She'll eventually text you, and ask how were you doing lol