should you be allowed to hit your kids?

'Allowed' is the word that bothers me. Idk know if ill b able to hit my daughter (18 mths), but the gov't shouldn't have a say in it.
 
Such an obvious troll. Stop making threads you fuck.
 
I have spanked my eldest (16) 3 times since she was 5.

My 5 year old once
 
Noob said:
When they are teenagers its one thing

Backhanding your son for pushing you or if a daughter calls her mother a bitch or **** and the mother slaps her daughter then yeah, i could maybe go along with that

But beating a 4 year old with a belt to the point where hes covered in welts and bruises is fucking bullshit
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Oh shut up. No one in this thread was even communicating disciplining a child until he's covered in welts and bruises. Stop crying.

Anyway, having worked at a retail store and seeing how parents turn a blind eye to letting their kids do whatever they want. They definitely could use a smack in the head once in a while. The parents too.

Smacks in the head for everybody!
 
As someone with two children, no I dont believe you should hit your children. I have before, but I immediately regretted it (once to both children)

Thats no way to teach someone anything, never mind a child.

I think of it like this, if you refuse to listen to someone else, as a grown up or are rude and talk back should they have the right to hit you?
 
In a few generations, this question will sound as ridiculous as "should you be allowed to rape your child". When I was young, even teachers could beat children; in my high school students got the strap regularly. Times change.

Children are your responsibility, you should teach and support them. If you have to beat one, you are not a good parent, and the child should be removed from your care.
 
Noob said:
When they are teenagers its one thing

Backhanding your son for pushing you or if a daughter calls her mother a bitch or **** and the mother slaps her daughter then yeah, i could maybe go along with that

But beating a 4 year old with a belt to the point where hes covered in welts and bruises is fucking bullshit
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Yes.....because clearly that's what most people have in mind. Not a swat on the behind , but a full fledged beating .... preferably with closed fist and elbows.
 
I don't think I could. Seems like it would be counterproductive. Violence shouldn't be used as a way to solve disputes in the household, and I feel like I'd be teaching him/her that it is by hitting them or spanking them.
 
The brain is very sensitive and constant hits in time will lessen it's useful capability. Instead a loud foot stomp or fist to the table not violently but sound will garner their youthful attentiveness and make them aware in time. :icon_chee
 
Sweet_Leaf said:
As someone with two children, no I dont believe you should hit your children. I have before, but I immediately regretted it (once to both children)

Thats no way to teach someone anything, never mind a child.

I think of it like this, if you refuse to listen to someone else, as a grown up or are rude and talk back should they have the right to hit you?
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Uh yeah, in some cases you should. If I was smoking right next to a "NO SMOKING" sign and you came up to me and told me I wasn't allowed to smoke there and I told you to fuck off and blew smoke in your face, you should be able to punch me right in the face. You can't, but you should be able to.

Thats whats so fucked up about where our society is headed. 20 years ago, hell even 10 years ago i wouldn't have been able to do that. But guess what, my parents never disciplined me correctly so I have no respect for you or the sign. because what are you going to do? Get a security guard to escort me off the premises? By the time you get back I'm done my smoke and I'm gone.

I try not to spank my kid. I try to handle it by telling him what he's doing is wrong, and that it's against the rules or he's hurting someone or whatever he's doing. Even after I've spanked him I always ask him "Do you know why I spanked you?" he always says "I was hitting mommy" or "I was poking the tv screen with my sword" or "I was being bad". He knows what he was doing was wrong but he does it any way. So he will deal with the consequence. Weather it's a spanking or me throwing away his ninja turtle because he threw it someone. I always do what I say I'm going to do.
 
thatone said:
I think hell yes!

its how kids learn. you touch a stove burn your hand and wont do it again.
you act up and get popped up side the head and will think twice about doing it again.

it is just natural way raising a child into a adult. animals do it to. it is obsurd that it is against the law in some places to physically discipline a child.
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I should beat the shit out of you until you learn to spell
 
I'll trust the experts on here over some internet forum users who cannot see this issue beyond their own emotional scope, or who can't provide any evidence to their claims of justifying corporal punishment other than anecdotal evidence.

And child development experts suggest you do NOT hit your kids because it can be worse for their development. And I agree with them.
 
Al Gorithm said:
Yes.....because clearly that's what most people have in mind. Not a swat on the behind , but a full fledged beating .... preferably with closed fist and elbows.
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To be fair I put gloves on both of us to make it as even as possible..
 
Yes, absolutely.

Though, there's a fine line between abuse and 'stern parenting'.
 
Sebchenier said:
I'll trust the experts on here over some internet forum users who cannot see this issue beyond their own emotional scope, or who can't provide any evidence to their claims of justifying corporal punishment other than anecdotal evidence.

And child development experts suggest you do NOT hit your kids because it can be worse for their development. And I agree with them.
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Always wondered about those studies. Do they state how many spankings need to occur before mentally destroying them? Is that number the same for all kids? Does spanking and immediately explaining why it occurred and how he/she can avoid it in the future avoid hurting their development? Because if physical pain stunts mental and emotional growth any kid thats ever stepped outside to play is fucked.
 
thatone said:
I loled because I understand. you sound like a good parent you are starting to discipline him when he is young and use spankings as the last result. its how kids learn they are simple minded when you cant reason with them because they are too dumb( not their fault they are kids) they understand pain means bad so what every they did to be in pain is bad and should not do it again.

the people who wait to discipline their kids until they are older are the ones who are really fucking up.
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holy... where do I even start

Kids are like sponges. They learn so fast. And guess what? They learn what you teach them! You can teach them empathy, or you can teach them vindictiveness.

Believing you can't reason with kids simply because they are kids is an excellent way to underdevelop their critical thinking. Congratulations, your mentality contributes to the dumbing down of America all while increasing violence and aggression as an acceptable manner to resolve differences.
 
I wouldn't parent in that way. Taking away toys/cartoons and times outs work too if you stick by it and follow through with it. Most parents don't so the kid messes up knowing he won't really get punished. I'm all for spanking if other people want to use it though, it works. I know I was raised on pure spankings and I knew the deal, it actually deterred me a couple of times thinking about it getting spanked if caught (Chances of getting caught high). I still did 80% of whatever dumb shit I wanted to do though regardless of punishment.
 
scrubido said:
Always wondered about those studies. Do they state how many spankings need to occur before mentally destroying them? Is that number the same for all kids? Does spanking and immediately explaining why it occurred and how he/she can avoid it in the future avoid hurting their development? Because if physical pain stunts mental and emotional growth any kid thats ever stepped outside to play is fucked.
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You are allowed 6 free spankings and then after that your kid turns into Ted Bundy.

Obviously I'm being sarcastic. Not every kid who gets spanked becomes violent. Not every kid who is raised in a household where corporal punishment is guaranteed to be a saint either. Just like not every soldier who see battles will develop PTSD. When it comes to the mind and our behavior, there are generalities are established through correlational patterns rather than by establishing cause-effect relationships through experimentation. I think the reasons for why they don't do the latter is quite obvious. It would be unethical. Yet somehow a large proponent of our society thinks it is ethical to inflict corporal punishment on their kids?
 
AS long as it's a boy then yes. I wouldn't feel comfortable hitting a little girl.
 
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