Have open relationships become normalized?

Open relationships are a fad. They thin its super progressive and revolutionary. You think you fight a lot with one girlfriend/wife?

try having 3 lol
 
12ga. said:
3 adults one child. Anyone besides me see a problem with that going forward?

Civilizational collapse goes hand and hand with post modernism - wont last and why religious and traditional families will always be with us.
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giving into desires of the flesh makes you more animal than human.

mastering those temptations is one of the keys to happiness.. and this isn't a strictly christian philosophy, many ideologies and philosophers agree with this.
 
moreorless87 said:
I mean I think its certainly true its possible to "cheat without cheating" in terms of falling in love with someone else without anything physical happening just as its possible to sleep with someone else without it leading to any attachment.

The big divide I would say is how much emotion is bound up in sex for you, for some people sex is so tied up to it that its impossible to separate, I admit I would be closer to that and wouldnt ever consider an open relationship as a result.
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I think this is why it worked for my friend. His friends have slept with his wife and he's slept with theirs, sometimes 3 guys at a time no emotion attached, they'd say bye at the end of the night and no fucks given, no drama at all.
 
moreorless87 said:
I mean I think its certainly true its possible to "cheat without cheating" in terms of falling in love with someone else without anything physical happening just as its possible to sleep with someone else without it leading to any attachment.

The big divide I would say is how much emotion is bound up in sex for you, for some people sex is so tied up to it that its impossible to separate, I admit I would be closer to that and wouldnt ever consider an open relationship as a result.
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Yeah I agree with you about the sex/emotion thing, and I also am not sure I could do an open relationship. The sex/emotion connection runs the whole spectrum. Example is a friend of mine, who suffered some abuse as a child. She’s gone to a lot of therapy and has dealt with that issue pretty positively. But she’s never been able to reach a point where emotional connections and sex can mix. In other words, anyone she’s mentally/emotionally attracted to is not sexually attractive to her. So she lives with a guy that is her “partner.” They’re emotionally close, share expenses, face challenges together like a couple would, go on vacations together, etc. But they have no physical intimacy. Both are permitted to get sex elsewhere but not bring a sexual partner home, nor can the sex they get be anything more than a fling (no emotional connection). It’s an interesting dynamic, and while it’s worked fine for several years, she is aware that the arrangement may not always work for him. For her, that’s how she prefers it.
 
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BFoe said:
Yeah I agree with you about the sex/emotion thing, and I also am not sure I could do an open relationship. The sex/emotion connection runs the whole spectrum. Example is a friend of mine, who suffered some abuse a s a child. She’s gone to a lot of therapy and has dealt with that issue pretty positively. But she’s never been able to reach a point where emotional connections and sex can mix. In other words, anyone she’s mentally/emotionally attracted to is not sexually attractive to her. So she lives with a guy that is her “partner.” They’re emotionally close, share expenses, face challenges together like a couple would, go on vacations together, etc. But they have no physical intimacy. Both are permitted to get sex elsewhere but not bring a sexual partner home, nor can the sex they get be anything more than a fling (no emotional connection). It’s an interesting dynamic, and while it’s worked fine for several years, she is aware that the arrangement may not always work for him. For her, that’s how she prefers it.
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So he wants to hang out with a woman who refuses to have sex with him? Does she refuse to have his children too? Sounds like she's very happy to destroy his life and future.

At least the chick in op had his kid.
 
FierceRedBelt said:
So he wants to hang out with a woman who refuses to have sex with him? Does she refuse to have his children too? Sounds like she's very happy to destroy his life and future.
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Lol don’t be so dramatic. At this stage in his life, he doesn’t mind. At some point if he decides to have kids, it could be a dealbreaker as she doesn’t want kids.
But at this point, no ones life is being destroyed. He has a partner he gets along great with to handle life stuff, he still gets plenty of sex, and he’s not interested in having kids atm so that’s not an issue.
 
BFoe said:
Lol don’t be so dramatic. At this stage in his life, he doesn’t mind. At some point if he decides to have kids, it could be a dealbreaker as she doesn’t want kids.
But at this point, no ones life is being destroyed. He has a partner he gets along great with to handle life stuff, he still gets plenty of sex, and he’s not interested in having kids atm so that’s not an issue.
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What exactly is he getting out of it? He's trying to play the long game and she's using him.

Give it 10 years. It'll blow up.
 
fingercuffs said:
I think this is why it worked for my friend. His friends have slept with his wife and he's slept with theirs, sometimes 3 guys at a time no emotion attached, they'd say bye at the end of the night and no fucks given, no drama at all.
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<Huh2>
 
No. Anyone that thinks this is watching too much porn. Log off. Go outside.
 
FierceRedBelt said:
What exactly is he getting out of it? He's trying to play the long game and she's using him.

Give it 10 years. It'll blow up.
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Oh it could certainly blow up. But so do a shitload of monogamous relationships. It’s funny that when a non-monogamous relationship doesn’t work out, it’s viewed as proof that those types of relationships “don’t work,” but no one feels that way when monogamous relationships implode left and right.

My overall point is that people are different and have all kinds of different wants and needs, and there’s nothing wrong with tailoring the rules of your relationship to meet those needs, as long as those rules are known by all parties, agreed to, and adhered to. I was once told here on Sherdog that my relationship is “pointless” since neither myself or my gf of 11+ years have gotten around to getting married and neither of us wants kids. I think that’s silly. The addition of children, or a ceremony with rings, doesn’t make my relationship any more or less valid.
 
Just patchwork. They’ll eventually have to face the reality that they aren’t into each other anymore...and then that their kid is going to be fucked up
 
I think dudes think they are putting out big dick energy "IDGAF" vibes by doing this kind of shit. Then they put it on Instagram and get more past prime meat curtain pussy from other people into the same low moral standards life style.

Honestly I think people are mentally fuckin warped by social media but I digress...
 
BFoe said:
Oh it could certainly blow up. But so do a shitload of monogamous relationships. It’s funny that when a non-monogamous relationship doesn’t work out, it’s viewed as proof that those types of relationships “don’t work,” but no one feels that way when monogamous relationships implode left and right.

My overall point is that people are different and have all kinds of different wants and needs, and there’s nothing wrong with tailoring the rules of your relationship to meet those needs, as long as those rules are known by all parties, agreed to, and adhered to. I was once told here on Sherdog that my relationship is “pointless” since neither myself or my gf of 11+ years have gotten around to getting married and neither of us wants kids. I think that’s silly. The addition of children, or a ceremony with rings, doesn’t make my relationship any more or less valid.
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Really? Well I hope you put them in their place.
 
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