At what age did you feel like an adult?

[Spoken]

Moved out at 17 but I didn’t feel or think like an adult until early 24-25

 

[moreorless87]

I would argue that the moment is when you realise that actually there isn't some magical "switch over" that's going to make all your insecurities and fears go away and that you just get better at disguising them.

 

[EndlessCritic]

Pro adult: 30. Married. Two kids. Lawyer. Six figure income. Own house in the suburbs. Net worth with wife is probably around 500k and increasing.

Con adult: Post on sherdog all day. Watch porn every day. Play videogames every day. Dislike wine.

imo I'm still an immature adolescent.

 

[Shaungotti]

In 40 now and it took until I was 30 to somewhat feel like an adult. When I look at pictures of my dad, he certainly looked like an adult at 22. Plaid shirt, dad bod, the whole deal.

At 36 my body started to feel older physically. My knees got a bit clunky, sore back, stuff like that. Just easier to hurt myself in general.

 

[phipps66]

I started to feel older at 28. Not sure what an adult feels like. I have 2 kids and a wife but still feel like I'm winging it. Maybe that's what it means to feel like an adult.

 

[Big Tuppy Hole]

Around 30, the birth of my son changed everything

 

[Renard]

I don't think I ever did. As a kid you have this view of adults as people who understand everything, have got all situations under control, have mastery of whatever they do. Then you grow up and realize that actually, everyone's just winging it and people don't really know much outside of maybe a narrow field of study/expertise. Also people are really locked in their ways of thinking and behaving, which opens up a bunch of blind spots, but there's nothing we can do about it, the human brain is very fallible.

 

[HunterSdVa29]

Left my family in NoVa after graduating HS to attend university in San Diego, meanwhile my family moved to Okinawa

so I pretty much was mostly on my own the moment I graduated HS.

 

[Midnighter]

No one really knows what they're doing, and accepting this is when you become an "adult".

 

[lsa]

Still sexy though.

 

[Alphaboy]

I don't think I ever did. As a kid you have this view of adults as people who understand everything, have got all situations under control, have mastery of whatever they do. Then you grow up and realize that actually, everyone's just winging it and people don't really know much outside of maybe a narrow field of study/expertise. Also people are really locked in their ways of thinking and behaving, which opens up a bunch of blind spots, but there's nothing we can do about it, the human brain is very fallible.

Many people have said that in this sub, but I'm not sure I 100% agree. Yea, no one is an expert on life, but we get wiser, more experienced. We don't fall for the sane okey doke, we learn to make better decisions. Mistakes are still there, but they're probably less frequent (and stupid) than when we were younger.

 

[Alphaboy]

I've been pretty much on my own since 17. Though I was living independently, I look back and see how much of a dumb kid I was... (You always seem more foolish looking back)

I started feeling like a real adult around late 20s. I was at a University judo club and I realized just how young the undergrads were at that point... Some of them weren't even alive when I was watching Power Rangers the movie in theaters, or when Sony first released the PlayStation 1!

That, and anatomical differences spurred on by second puberty really drove the point home!

 

[bufetadanacara]

And no longer like you were simply "faking it until making it?"

Probably 16 or 17, I was working full time by 16 and by 17 I was living on my own.
I have been treated as an adult since I was about 14 years old though.

 

[ElKarlo]

I'm 36 married with kids and sometimes I'm like wait, I'm the adult here wtf !

 

[Rjay]

Man, hopefully soon. Was just thinking about this yesterday. Still feel like a couple little kids in a trench coat trying to fool people. I have no idea what I'm doing.

Everyone is just winging it. The truest article ever written:

https://www.theguardian.com/news/ol...14/may/21/everyone-is-totally-just-winging-it

Everyone is totally winging it, all the time.