Social Adult content creators and male loneliness

[liner]

He was into her. At least he told me so after they had left the party. Gaydar doesn't go off when I'm around him but I've wondered that too.

He's always sending me pictures of girls he matches with on dating sites and they are absolutely disgusting. He said he can't even get a 5/10 to meet up with him for a date. Then he finally gets a situation where this super cool LA 7 lands right in his lap and he just locks up and does nothing. This girl could not have made it easier on him. She was witty, funny and completely engaged with the people she talked to. She wasn't one of those "you better impress me or you can't hold my attention for more than 2 seconds" types.

It's really a mystery. I've known other guys that have really struggled with girls and it's pretty easy to figure out why but I can't figure out for the life of me what his deal is.

It sounds like guy has no confidence and is terrified of rejection. Not a good combo for asking women out. He needs a girl to make the 1st 2nd and 3rd move

 

[Loiosh]

Poor guy needs to do some pushups my goodness

Not sure that's all it takes, I used to do 150-250 a day and not sure where it got me.

 

[Rob Battisti]

Not sure that's all it takes, I used to do 150-250 a day and not sure where it got me.

Hopefully not addicted to OF.

 

[Loiosh]

Hopefully not addicted to OF.

I'm not.

The pushups did that? Time well spent, then.

 

[Natural Order]

Shouldn't take long to go from this to a sex-bot.

Nobody is accounting for maintenance....

What do you think the cost to buy something like that would be?

 

[Rob Battisti]

I'm not.

The pushups did that? Time well spent, then.

100% the pushups

 

[Loiosh]

100% the pushups

 

[Zer]

Nobody is accounting for maintenance....

What do you think the cost to buy something like that would be?

I bet when they do come out they'll ruin it by making everything subscription/payment based like on apps, where it's like if you want a handjob it'll cost you 50 credits, a BJ is 100 credits, a Cleveland Steamer 500 credits ... and if you don't pay up and do it anyway it calls the police. And regular human women actually become the cheaper option

 

[NoSmilez]

Nobody is accounting for maintenance....

What do you think the cost to buy something like that would be?

I think it's AI.

 

[Natural Order]

I think it's AI.

Let's hope it stays that way.

 

[pugilistico]

Most lonely guys only have themselves to blame.

My coworker is trying to hook one of our single coworkers up with his cousin. The single coworker is tall, decent looking, charismatic and funny...yet he struggles mightily with women. I met the coworker's cousin at a party one time and she's attractive, engaging, isn't obsessed with social media and loves heavy metal, despite you never being able to guess by looking at her.

We got the two of them talking at the party and he barely said anything to her. I got them hooked up to play this party game together and he just stepped aside and told me that I should play against her instead. The coworker and his cousin were then going to an afterparty and she invited the single coworker to go with her and he said he had to be up early the next morning (lying, it was the weekend).

She then adds him on Instagram and he doesn't message her so she unfriends him. We're going to a local concert this weekend and we invited the single coworker so he can hang out with her again and he's pretending to be busy.

It's not often you get a dude offering his cool ass cousin up like that but a lot of younger guys these days are just pussies and can't put themselves in uncomfortable situations to get what they really want.

Maybe the coworker is gay?

 

[Romulas]

Adult content creators and male loneliness - both of these goes hand in hand.

The latter is fuelling the former. But what is fuelling the latter?

Loneliness and emotional connection. Often single, introverted and socially isolated individuals will opt for this type of... entertainment/engagement? You call it.

And I'm one of them, single, introverted and socially isolated beta boy. And by the looks of it I'm just a drop in the ocean. Adult entertainment market is valued today at $172 billions which is expected to grow to $248 billions by 2030. Big numbers. Myself alone I can easily spend a half to 70% of my wages on that stuff each month. Lots of my friends which are alphas experience increased difficulty in dating lately and funny enough one of them actually blamed people like me for that, for fuelling this trend and indirectly encouraging more women to follow. (I'm quite open with my friends about these matters).

A lot of women are increasingly more picky as well as social media creates an image of a gym toned body guy with expensive car and a lot of women see it as a benchmark. You can probably as well recall a lot of women posting pictures saying 'know your worth, don't settle for less'. Not that I want to blame women but then again if men didn't faced such dating issues then realistically I guess men would spend much much less on stuff like that. Myself I mostly pay for personalised videos from adult content creators as it helps me cope mentally with loneliness and I do accept that I'm part of the problem.

But then again, what else is there left for me?

How much extra income do you have monthly that you spend on that stuff?

 

[Renard]

You're trying to turn this into a social commentary but really this is about you struggling with an addiction. Blowing 50%+ of your income isn't just entertainment or a lifestyle choice. It's not any different from someone blowing all their money on gambling. Running away from the problem and using stop-gap measures (porn + parasocial relationships) instead of tackling the issue head on.