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So when "wires get crossed" that's not a physical aberration, only psychological? Seems contradictory.
Your biology most definitely has a correlation to your psychology.
"...wires get crossed..." was a metaphor. But I agree that your biological makeup can play a role in your psychiatric issues.
The problem here is that it's not being treated. I'm not talking about weird "conversion therapy". I'm talking about the dysphoria largely not being treated with therapy. We have a society, or at least a loud and powerful portion of society, that pushes the identity politics. I'm not arguing that it's wrong or bad to be trans. I'm arguing that I know how tough mental illness is, and a lot of people are being told to embrace theirs. As though it's a personality trait or quirk worth admiring.
Again, I know many trans people. With and without transitioning, none of them are happy with it. Dysphoria can be crippling. Most of them who go through some various amount of transitioning are just trying to find ways to lessen that dysphoria, but often it's not enough. I know a trans woman who transitioned fully and still has crippling bouts of dysphoria, and she has talked pretty openly about how therapy is useless since she's "butchered" herself. Her word, not mine. Now that it's been done, she has no real hope of working towards useful treatment. And trans people like her are the ones who kill themselves. The dysphoria drives these people to go to great lengths to modify themselves to an image in hopes of feeling the way they feel might be "correct", and when you go too far, there is no turning back.
It's an awful thing to see happen to people. And I have seen it happen to people.
I'm not coming here from a place of "fuck trans people, they're fucking freaks".
I've supported trans rights since I was a teenager. I've had and lost friends who were trans. So I am certainly trying to come to this conversation from a place of sensitivity, but I also can't continue to pretend like it's "no big deal". It's not a game of dress up. It's not cute personality quirks. It's fucking illness. And it is ugly and devastating and society is doing a terrible fucking job at working towards fixing it.