SwtTeaStrangler
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I'll try to make this as tl;dr as possible.
Start new job.
Girl intiates contact several times, gives signs of interest.
I ask her out tonight, she says no.
I ask her a few more times, just to see if she's playing around or whatever. She's not though she was still giving physical signs.
That's cool, no biggie. We talk for a few more minutes, everything's cool. During that time I started making other plans for tonight. We go back to work.
Few minutes later looks like she's about to cry (even the manager was asking if she was okay and checking on her).
Saw her later on coming over to my department looking like she was trying to find me. (Extra info: I'm the only one that works in that department. We were closed, and she's just a cashier. No reason for her to leave her post or be in that area).
Looked upset the rest of the night.
Once we were going to clock out started acting like the way she did before we started talking and before I asked her out (standing close to me, playing with her hair, smiling at me and trying to get my attention.
Got to my car, called my buddies and headed out for the night. Fin.
So yeah, I don't even know. Maybe you guys can help me. My first thought was that she might've been trying to "neg" me, but she comes across a bit socially awkward. Her reason for not going out was she wanted to stay at home and play with her cat, and she had laundry to do. That just makes her seem lame or like she's being a b****. Like I'm not worth her time or whatever. Which I could see me deserving if I was coming across like I'm cocky or a player but I was being chill. But it's sort of 50/50 cause she kind of pwned herself too. It would be like some girl offering me sex and I say "no thanks, I'm gonna go home and fap". Yeah it's kind of mean to her, but makes me look pretty bad too, especially if she was being cool.
My next thought, and just being completely honest with myself, is she just flat out wasn't interested and I just misread everything. Which is cool. And I can accept that. But I don't understand why she would start crying then. It's not like we were "friends" or work buddies for months on end, and then like a lonely virgin I confessed my love for her and now she's been thrown into turmoil. We talked a few times. I thought she might've liked me. She obviously didn't. Okay, whatever. Now she's bipolar I guess.
Oh and I wasn't a dick to her or anything after she rejected me either. Like I said, we chatted for a few minutes after that and when I went back to work I backed off a bit. I didn't cold shoulder her or get all butthurt. I was still friendly. Still smiled at her and acknowledged her but her mood also changed within minutes. It wasn't like she started crying an hour or two later and it's something unrelated. It was within 5-10 minutes of us finishing up talking. And then she was moody the rest of the night up until we left and she tried to be cute with me again.
Any advice/opinions/criticisms are welcome.
Feels like you're leaving something important out here.
She was probably better off washing her hair.