Would you ever raise another man's child?

[bigbangspiritbomb]

TS, you are like a savage lion that decimates another male's cubs to mate with the mother.


Truely a savage!


Meh, raising a kid is lots of trouble and resources, I'd prefer to raise my own too. Unless the mother is like.... a 10/10 with respectable cooking and BJ skillz.

Still not LTR worthy. They put out though and have lots of practice.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

I'd never raise another man's child as it was my own; you're setting yourself and that child up for a ton of heartbreak.

But I'm getting really old and if she's a quality woman with a child I'm willing to deal with that. I'm not playing daddy though. I'll assume the role of head of the household but that's her child and ultimately her responsibility.

If she was unwilling to have my children because she already had her children that would be a deal breaker.

 

[WalkenWouldOwn]

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[Krixes]

I personally would not but then again I'm married and have zero kids by choice. I have a lot buddies in there mid 30's who have a hard time meeting women to date without a bunch of kids. So they see things a little differently I'm guessing.

 

[bigbangspiritbomb]

A couple pics of @bigbangspiritbomb

Cucks gonna cuck.

Someone should shoop a baby into pic above for the lulz.

 

[bigbangspiritbomb]

I'd never raise another man's child as it was my own; you're setting yourself and that child up for a ton of heartbreak.

But I'm getting really old and if she's a quality woman with a child I'm willing to deal with that. I'm not playing daddy though. I'll assume the role of head of the household but that's her child and ultimately her responsibility.

If she was unwilling to have my children because she already had her children that would be a deal breaker.

in many a cases where a woman has a baby, ex is a dead beat since she is great at picking them, you have kids, you can be on the hook for both.

 

[FyrFytr998]

I'd never raise another man's child as it was my own; you're setting yourself and that child up for a ton of heartbreak.

But I'm getting really old and if she's a quality woman with a child I'm willing to deal with that. I'm not playing daddy though. I'll assume the role of head of the household but that's her child and ultimately her responsibility.

If she was unwilling to have my children because she already had her children that would be a deal breaker.

Sometimes that's all a kid needs. A decent role model.

 

[Mike]

I'd never raise another man's child as it was my own; you're setting yourself and that child up for a ton of heartbreak.

But I'm getting really old and if she's a quality woman with a child I'm willing to deal with that. I'm not playing daddy though. I'll assume the role of head of the household but that's her child and ultimately her responsibility.

If she was unwilling to have my children because she already had her children that would be a deal breaker.

Seems like in that situation you're being emotionally cold purely for the sake of it. So you'd have other kids with a woman that had a kid, but not treat her kid as your own? Yeah that's not going to mess that kid up.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

in many a cases where a woman has a baby, ex is a dead beat since she is great at picking them, you have kids, you can be on the hook for both.

How does that work?

Sometimes that's all a kid needs. A decent role model.

Agreed, but at the end of the day that's their mother's responsibility to seek out what's best for them. I'm going to do what I'm comfortable with doing and they need to figure out what's best for the children because at this point they're secondary.

 

[aldeniro78]

Your the one defending cuckoldry.

You argue this tribal horse shit but, who extracts more government resources? WHo initiated 80% + of divorce?

Society and college campuses promo single mothers &&& absurd majors like Women's studies that push the destruction of the nuclear family.


You already played the fiddle and followed the beaten path. The game is over my friend.

If your wife like the many who initiated divorce decided to run up with your children and assets, you are cucked, and while she is out getting carousel 2.0 your dollar is footing the bill.

You don't know the first thing about life, kid.

 

[mushishi]

Of course i would, why not?
Some here are immature and think it's some kind of dent on their manhood, where do they get these childish ideas?

From other shertards

Never realized so many sherdoggers had serious mother issues.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

Seems like in that situation you're being emotionally cold purely for the sake of it. So you'd have other kids with a woman that had a kid, but not treat her kid as your own? Yeah that's not going to mess that kid up.

I don't think so. I'd treat him/her with respect and I'd include them in my family but I'm not the final authority on those children. Unless their father is dead, there is someone out there with a proper claim to that role.

She can always pick up and leave with them and I'd have no right to them.
When they grow up and look for themselves I won't be a part of that.
I'd hope to be an influential mentor in their lives but their father I am not.

I don't mean this as an act of callous or hate.

 

[Mike]

I don't think so. I'd treat him/her with respect and I'd include them in my family but I'm not the final authority on those children. Unless their father is dead, there is someone out there with a proper claim to that role.

She can always pick up and leave with them and I'd have no right to them.
When they grow up and look for themselves I won't be a part of that.
I'd hope to be an influential mentor in their lives but their father I am not.

I don't mean this as an act of callous or hate.

It's just weird because presumably there's no dad around. And you're talking about maybe having your own kids with her. So your raising your kids with her at the same time as her kid, but you don't want to be a dad to the other kid?


I mean we're not talking about a random girl you're banging in this scenario, so that level of detachment is confusing to me. In practice it would be hard to even keep that level of emotional distance and the kid would only hate you for it

 

[cooks1]

Well, it has never come up in my life, and I have never sought out the opportunity as I already have 2 children, but I would like to think I would do the right thing if the situation arose.

Raising a child well -any child- is both a gift to the child and a gift to the world.

Personally, I would be mindful of the Karmic consequences of walking away from something like that solely based on ego driven reasons. That is the exact type of shit the cosmos likes to throw back in your face.

Dump some chick you really dig just because you can't live with helping to raise a kid that's not yours......15 years later the cosmos unleashes that kid, raised by a sociopath and beaten his whole life, upon the world. Now you have a small equity stake in all his malevolence. Malevolence perhaps done to you or those near to you. Bad Ju-Ju. I would need a much more compelling reason than my own ego to walk away from that.

 

[MaxMMA]

@Kardashians for female opinion please.

In all honesty I would never raise another dude's kid. To me, it's all about blood. I would raise my brother's kids if he and spouse were to die, because there's genetic connection there. Outside of a scenario like that, I don't think I would. I'm a savage old school type. If it ain't my uce I ain't playing.

It makes a man look bad if he raises another man's kid.

Jesus, another closet cuck thread.

How the fuck does raising another mans kid make you look bad? The only person that looks bad in this scenario is the "dad" that doesn't care that another man is raising his kid.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

It's just weird because presumably there's no dad around. And you're talking about maybe having your own kids with her. So your raising your kids with her at the same time as her kid, but you don't want to be a dad to the other kid?


I mean we're not talking about a random girl you're banging in this scenario, so that level of detachment is confusing to me. In practice it would be hard to even keep that level of emotional distance and the kid would only hate you for it

Yes, that is what I'm suggesting. The closest a step-father can ever be to child, in today's climate, is that of an older brother or uncle; you may have some level of authority but you'll never have the last word. I'm not saying I wouldn't try to mentor the child or spend time with him/her but I'd play my position in their life.

Why are we assuming there's no father around? Are we talking about seeing him a couple times a year? Once a year? Every few years? Never? Is the mother the one making that impossible?

I know you said your father wasn't around. Did you have a stepfather?

 

[Mike]

Yes, that is what I'm suggesting. The closest a step-father can ever be to child, in today's climate, is that of an older brother or uncle; you may have some level of authority but you'll never have the last word. I'm not saying I wouldn't try to mentor the child or spend time with him/her but I'd play my position in their life.

Why are we assuming there's no father around? Are we talking about seeing him a couple times a year? Once a year? Every few years? Never? Is the mother the one making that impossible?

I know you said your father wasn't around. Did you have a stepfather?

Well single mom sort of assumes no dad around anymore.I don't think most people classify a woman sharing custody of the kid as a single parent. If the dad is in the picture that's obviously different.


No, I didn't. My mom didn't remarry until I was like 17-18. As I mentioned earlier itt I didn't really expect him to come in and try to be a father figure, but he wasn't interested in even having a conversation with me or acknowledging my existence. He's basically ignored me completely for about half of my life. I'm not too interested in being around anyone in my family though so it's whatever.

 

[Damien Karras]

Your the one defending cuckoldry.

You argue this tribal horse shit but, who extracts more government resources? WHo initiated 80% + of divorce?

Society and college campuses promo single mothers &&& absurd majors like Women's studies that push the destruction of the nuclear family.


You already played the fiddle and followed the beaten path. The game is over my friend.

If your wife like the many who initiated divorce decided to run up with your children and assets, you are cucked, and while she is out getting carousel 2.0 your dollar is footing the bill.

I'm really curious to know how old you are.

I used to tell myself that I wouldn't end up with someone with kids but then I fell in love with one. Integrating their lives was a process, but I now have a terrific bond with them. On Saturday I took the oldest shopping for an Easter dress and we had an ice cream cone to celebrate our shopping victory (we found the perfect dress for her). My 20 year old self loathing the absurdness of what I have become. My 33 year old self couldn't be happier.

 

[FierceRedBelt]

Well single mom sort of assumes no dad around anymore.I don't think most people classify a woman sharing custody of the kid as a single parent. If the dad is in the picture that's obviously different.


No, I didn't. My mom didn't remarry until I was like 17-18. As I mentioned earlier itt I didn't really expect him to come in and try to be a father figure, but he wasn't interested in even having a conversation with me or acknowledging my existence. He's basically ignored me completely for about half of my life. I'm not too interested in being around anyone in m family though so it's whatever.

I take the single mom moniker to mean just that a mother who is single.

Caught me not reading the entire thread! That sucks though and I wouldn't do that. Also the age of the child matters significantly, a three year old has much different needs from a twelve year old.

 

[bigbangspiritbomb]

How does that work?

http://clementlaw.com/child-support/non-biological-father-liable-for-child-support/