Would you ever raise another man's child?

sgt jumpy said:
Interesting. I've thought about this a lot lately: well, having children in general.

I want to have my own children, someday. I didn't always feel that way, but I've grown softer as I've matured... and I'd really love to have my own family.
Truth is, I don't know if I'm capable of having children. For years and years I had unprotected sex, and I don't think I have ever once had a pregnancy scare. I'm not sure if it was my immaculate timing on the pull out method, her baby maker, or my baby batter, but for whatever reasons, and only as far as I know, there were never any occurrences of pregnancy.

So, I may end up in a situation where a gal and I fall in love and want to have children, but I could be unable to make little ones. If that is the case, I'd probably want to adopt. On the other hand, I've never dated a woman with children. I do, however, have a step father, so I can relate in a sense. He definitely didn't raise me, I was 15/16 when I met him, but he has had a huge impact on my life and I am thankful for and truly love my step dad. I'd probably take a similar approach: I'm not going to try and be your father, especially if the kid has a father in their life still, but I will do my best to nurture, protect, guide, and love this theoretical adolescent.

If my hypothetical lover has a baby, say toddler aged, then we would have to have a discussion: is the biological-father going to be in the child's life? Would she like me to adopt the baby so we're officially family? I think that is important, but regardless of the outcome of that conversation, I'd still do the same for the kid as I mentioned above: nurture, protect, guide and love.

So, the answer is yes, I would raise another man's child, depending on the circumstances. Blood is important, but what really matters is how everyone feels. Do we all love and support one another, no matter what? Then we're family, and I don't give a shit who your biological parents are.
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I think there is something in our evolutionary psychology that makes men want to protect and mentor children, and the urge is stronger than blood. Ever notice how older guys are constantly trying to teach you things, even if its just telling a story?
 
I would. But that mother fucker is paying for everything.
 
Pwent said:
I'm not a cuck so I wouldn't marry/raise the child of a single mom unless she was a widow who would also bear my children

I would raise a relative if their parents died or became unable
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I would certainly hope you wouldn't marry the child of a single mom. Unless the mom was like old and shit
 
STEVEN SEAGOLD said:
@Kardashians for female opinion please.

In all honesty I would never raise another dude's kid. To me, it's all about blood. I would raise my brother's kids if he and spouse were to die, because there's genetic connection there. Outside of a scenario like that, I don't think I would. I'm a savage old school type. If it ain't my uce I ain't playing.

It makes a man look bad if he raises another man's kid.
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I think you've confused the meaning of old school. I generally think of old school people being more polite and courteous. I'd think an old school person would be more inclined to take on all responsibilities that come with the person they've fallen in love with.
 
Not without beating it and telling it it's mother is a whore.


Just kidding.

Depends on the circumstances.
 
Tropodan said:
Actually some wild animals with act as surrogate mothers. Fathers on the other hand tend to kill the young.
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well I'm a guy so it's not like I'm gonna be breast feeding another mans child.
 
Probably not. I have my own, and don't plan on ever getting with another women, let alone one with a kid.

Still, I wouldn't say never. Just extremely unluckily. 99% or so
 
I'm trying to adopt an Asian kid now so he can help my real kids do their math homework.
 
Raising my own kids has been hell enough, so no. I don't see it as some undignified, unmanly "cuck" thing, though.
 
No way, I would never get with a girl who had a child of her own.
 
It would have to be as a result of inescapable love. Like year after year working or with the person/being their neighbor, something. On the outset I'd avoid and put up almost insurmountable guards against getting close to the person. Like I said, it'd have to be extreme, unavoidable circumstances over a long period of time. I'm good at keeping problems like this far away.
 
Would I ever? Yes, I'm sure there are multiple scenarios where I would.
 
Rachelle said:
I wouldn't date any man who has a kid, I wouldn't want to deal with his baby momma. Plus the kid is probably ugly as hell and looks like her.
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Welcome to Sherdog....I'm sure you will fit right in.
 
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