A person comes to attack/kill you scenario. Using a firearm or nearby weapon to defend yourself is acceptable usually. Subduing that individual to choke them to death is usually not acceptable.
And to bring it back to Star Wars, tapping into powers like lightning means tapping into the dark side to conjure, a no no for the Jedi. If you want to go deep EU, there is a “Sith lightning” and “force lightning” the latter of which is usable through the light side, but shunned due to its closeness to the dark side power. And as far as force choke, it’s like torture. While a Jedi does. It want to kill, if they have to, they don’t want to prolong it and make the person/creature suffer if they don’t have to.