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Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be @Oregonmma
So my lease on my apartment is up this month. If I re sign I'll be paying $1750 a month for a 1bd 1ba 600sq ft apartment. I've been seeing this girl (Whom I've known for around 5-6 years) for about 4 months and we spend 2-4 days a week together. She has a 2/3 year old kid and her lease is up this month too. I'm sick of not being able to save much money so we are talking about getting a 2bd 2ba 1000sq ft apartment for $1800-2000. We've already found a few we like and I'm just going over everything in my head. The goal is to be able to buy a house sooner than later. Here are the pros and cons
Pros
1. Will be able to save around $1000+ a month
2. Bigger apartment
3. Won't have to pay for a parking spot
4. Sex on the regs
Cons.
1. Will be a 30-45 min commute to work instead of a 10 min commute
2. Will live with a 2/3 year old every other week
3. Have to drive everywhere rather than just walking to any bar/store I wanted like my current place
4. Moving sucks
Currently live in Portland, OR and would be moving to Vancouver, WA if I did move.....
Thoughts?
Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be @Oregonmma
Washington does not use common marriage laws fortunatelyDo you live in one of the states that applies "common law marriage" to people who live together?
Because Con: after six months, you are forcibly married to a single mother by the state.
Kid wouldn't even remember me if we lived together for a year and I decided it wasn't for me
Washington does not use common marriage laws fortunately
Hurry up and have kids with her. Try to adopt the kid so they’re yours officially. Grab a pit bull or two for protection.So my lease on my apartment is up this month. If I re sign I'll be paying $1750 a month for a 1bd 1ba 600sq ft apartment. I've been seeing this girl (Whom I've known for around 5-6 years) for about 4 months and we spend 2-4 days a week together. She has a 2/3 year old kid and her lease is up this month too. I'm sick of not being able to save much money so we are talking about getting a 2bd 2ba 1000sq ft apartment for $1800-2000. We've already found a few we like and I'm just going over everything in my head. The goal is to be able to buy a house sooner than later. Here are the pros and cons
Pros
1. Will be able to save around $1000+ a month
2. Bigger apartment
3. Won't have to pay for a parking spot
4. Sex on the regs
Cons.
1. Will be a 30-45 min commute to work instead of a 10 min commute
2. Will live with a 2/3 year old every other week
3. Have to drive everywhere rather than just walking to any bar/store I wanted like my current place
4. Moving sucks
Currently live in Portland, OR and would be moving to Vancouver, WA if I did move.....
Thoughts?
Asking the real questionsCan she lose the kid?
I've been with her for 4 months but we've known each other for 5-6 years. I would also have enough money to break lease and move if I needed to.Well that's something but still, you've only known her for 4 months. One of my co-workers was telling me about her current living situation: Got a place with her boyfriend, broke up with her boyfriend but neither have the money to move out and break the lease. Ex got a new girlfriend and it's super awkward.
I'm glad I live alone(ish) because all this drama and crap sounds exhausting.
So my lease on my apartment is up this month. If I re sign I'll be paying $1750 a month for a 1bd 1ba 600sq ft apartment. I've been seeing this girl (Whom I've known for around 5-6 years) for about 4 months and we spend 2-4 days a week together. She has a 2/3 year old kid and her lease is up this month too. I'm sick of not being able to save much money so we are talking about getting a 2bd 2ba 1000sq ft apartment for $1800-2000. We've already found a few we like and I'm just going over everything in my head. The goal is to be able to buy a house sooner than later. Here are the pros and cons
Pros
1. Will be able to save around $1000+ a month
2. Bigger apartment
3. Won't have to pay for a parking spot
4. Sex on the regs
Cons.
1. Will be a 30-45 min commute to work instead of a 10 min commute
2. Will live with a 2/3 year old every other week
3. Have to drive everywhere rather than just walking to any bar/store I wanted like my current place
4. Moving sucks
Currently live in Portland, OR and would be moving to Vancouver, WA if I did move.....
Thoughts?
When you move in together you become a stepfather to that child whether you want to or not, that child is now also your responsibility because he lives in your home, is that something youre ready for?
Gimme dat input bro