Childhood is a pivotal time for mental and emotional development. You can seriously fuck someone up during that time. Its really very sad. I agree, that people need to not be victims and confront their issues, though. But also not everyone is born with the same amount of resilience. Fortunately for me I had a lot of resilence, meth head mom, lived in battered women shelters, mom coming down off meth let me get put in a kids psych ward in Hayward, dad broke my orbital when I was 15 and did 9 months in Elmwood, dad getting me drunk when I was 11 etc. And I never blamed them, I knew since I was 14 that being a victim wouldn't help me. And it still took a war in Iraq to finally crack Ol Rex. But having said all that I wouldnt be very compassionate and empathetic if I didn't understand that some people can't take all that especially stuff from when they were kids by some psycho.