Game isn't just for one night stands.TS you sound like you are way over strategizing and missing the forest for the trees. My notes in no real order:
1) you seem to be way to invested for something that looks very casual from the outside. You haven't known each other all that long or been all that intimate. So why so much emotion and stress?
2) all signs seem to point to you being friend-zoned with flirting privileges
3) why all the worry about game and the proper approach etc? If it takes that much effort to get into a relationship then I question how good the match is in the first place. You have the opportunity for regular contact right? If you show who you are (and that happens to be a good person) and the attraction is there on her end, the girl will come to you naturally. Otherwise, even if you are short term successful, things will fall apart when she meets someone more on her wavelength.
Game is for one night stands. Even the dude who wrote that book admitted it isn't useful for long term relationships, which it sounds like is what you ultimately want.
(and why are you so fixated on just this one girl who you haven't even slept with yet?)
Definitely fuck her friend. Lol - Jabroni.
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I use to do this all the time. Just bail out and avoid her and all related parties for 30 days. Then reappear seemingly oblivious to what happened. Use with caution.Lol. Just smash her on friday then just leave her without a trace.
I like your reasoning.
Essentially, I think keeping ones cool is the most important thing. Now, I'm obviously not cool at all but she doesn't have to know that. Does a cool person go to the salsa thing and just chill or do the cool person do something else that is important for him and play the long game?
Game isn't just for one night stands.
Game is for those first 2-3 interactions with a girl that help you get into a romantic relationship.
You go on 3+ dates with a girl and don't make any moves, any intent, you are basically just her friend. Heck, maybe even after the first 2 dates.
Game is intent to be lovers, not friends. Without intent there is no game, it's just a friendship.
ThisIf you guys never clearly talked about entering a monogamous relationship, then she did nothing wrong. "Signals" are open to interpretation and even if she did "fall in love" that doesn't mean she's not attracted to other people. Maybe she was getting dick from the other dude because you weren't making moves fast enough.
I send signals all the time to girls and I'm not faking it because I really do like them. But I still fuck other chicks. Doesn't mean I like the other girls less.
Game helps you separate a friendship vibe from lover vibe.OK, I should have said "short term sexual relationship" instead of ONS. But I disagree that game helps you get into romantic relationships. I don't think that you can tell right off the bat that you even *want* a romantic relationship and by the time you do, some kind of relationship dynamic has already been established.
On the other hand, you can tell at first sight whether or not you want to pursue a *sexual* relationship and game is just fine for that.
It could be that we have subtly different understandings of what the word game means, or it could be morphing over time etc.