I can kinda get onboard with your criticism here to a certain extent. I feel like too many shows are gratuitously violent for the sake of it, to the point that it takes away from the experience. It's like there's no limit to how vile they make things to 'shock' the audience and as much as I like the original GOT (season 1-4 is arguably GOAT material), it was one of the shows that started that trend. It's excessive and predictable.
Exactly. It's got nothing to do with pearl clutching. The issue is that it's immersion-breaking - the exact opposite of what more restrained depictions of brutal reality can achieve.
Once you've sat through 'shocking' scene number #43267, you are no longer 'shocked'. You are just bored and entirely aware that you are being manipulated.
The books are violent though.
Books are not immune from the same manipulative shock tactics. The murder scenario in the book sounds cool in the sense of an exaggerated horror movie, but really dumb in a story where character motivations/actions are supposed to be realistic.