Ever caught anyone carrying out a affair?

[Bolshevik***]

Well the trust with your partner would be automatically destroyed once they have cheated on you so I don't think it should be expected from them.

I think we just have different views on the matter but personally, my friends being who they are, I would expect them to tell me.

that's fair. i can respect that. i'm just saying, i wouldn't hold it against anyone other than the person who was doing the cheating.

 

[neverwas]

fuck it,i'm so drunk i got to go to bed.

 

[000000000000000]

back when i was 15 i worked at a carwash for the summer. some guys with nice vehicles told us about how women were very easy to come by when they saw their cars. they may have been exaggerating, i don't know, but that was only about 10.5 years ago.

I gotcha man. I'm sure there are a few dudes in nice shiny cars with money that can pull a woman and get to sleep with her in the first week of knowing her or whatever, but I'll say this right now: I know for a fact that the women who decide whether or not to engage with a man based on the physical or financial aren't worth their salt and I'm also positive they aren't happy either. And as for the guy, I'd bet my right hand that ferrari guy isn't actually really happy either.

I mean, think about that situation you told me about just now. Rich guy with a rich car comes into a car wash... and brags about picking up chicks.

Just think about that. Rich guy walks into a car wash and brags about picking up chicks. Now take out the "rich," part and take out the car part, and you'll get a much truer scenario without the bells and whistles. You'll get who that guy ACTUALLY IS in the onside.

He's a guy who comes to a car wash to brag about picking up chicks.

Yeah. That's it. Do you envy that guy? Is that a guy to be jealous over or feel like society caters to him?

Nah man, this guy is empty. The bottom line is that someone who is actually happy wouldn't go around trying to pick up the worst kind of women and then go places bragging about it. And trust me, the women who are into men based solely on physical items or riches are the worst women. They have no emotional side, they are stunted in growth, and I'm pretty sure something terrible happened to them as a child or that they never had someone to show them what real goodness was.

But yo son, check it. Like 1 to 5 percent of women are like that. That is not the norm for any women in any country in any corner of the fucking universe. There are lots of good people out there, and guess what? Women are people dawg. There are lots of good women out there, and the vast majority of them mean well, and are looking for men based on compatibly and personality, just like (hopefully) you are.

Now that doesn't mean that the women out there are perfect, but nobody is. How many male fuckups are even in this thread dude? I count dozens! I'm one of them! Everybody's messed up, but it's better not to dwell and thinking about the fuckups too much.

What IS important is getting to know people. Take the time to get to know people, and then you can evaluate whether you dig them or not. And hey, even if you can't respect someone for something or you disagree with their way of life, as long as they're trying to become better and trying to learn from their mistakes, then that's what living is about. Everybody is on a journey in their life to be happier, and maybe that journey is going well and they're making good choices, or making it's tanking and they're messing up big time. Whatever and wherever each person is, be cool about it, because you've been there too. You're a fuck up and you're a champion. It all cycles, you fuck up so you can learn, and once you learn, then you can be better. And on and on.

So yo son, when you see some girl going around being a chickenhead and being fickle or something, know that it's not something to get mad over or feel like society is fucked, it's something to think bigger upon in the broader picture, and think, "Damn, that girl has all her priorities wrong. She can't be happy this way. Hope she learns how to live better, get the things she needs." You know dawg? Take her situation from a human perspective instead of a personal life-is-unfair perspective, because the first option is reality and keepin' it real is gonna open your mind, and see that life is just full of people trying to find their way. And whether or not they find their way is really no consolation or determination to who you are.

Be yourself, live life by your moral standards, if people are fuck ups, let them fuck up and maintain a life where you treat people to the best of your ability, and when YOU fuck up, take it like a man, and apologize, try to learn and become better, don't settle for how you want to be treated by others, don't settle just because it's hard to become the man you want to be.

Worrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrd up

 

[Bolshevik***]

I gotcha man. I'm sure there are a few dudes in nice shiny cars with money that can pull a woman and get to sleep with her in the first week of knowing her or whatever, but I'll say this right now: I know for a fact that the women who decide whether or not to engage with a man based on the physical or financial aren't worth their salt and I'm also positive they aren't happy either. And as for the guy, I'd bet my right hand that ferrari guy isn't actually really happy either.

I mean, think about that situation you told me about just now. Rich guy with a rich car comes into a car wash... and brags about picking up chicks.

Just think about that. Rich guy walks into a car wash and brags about picking up chicks. Now take out the "rich," part and take out the car part, and you'll get a much truer scenario without the bells and whistles. You'll get who that guy ACTUALLY IS in the onside.

He's a guy who comes to a car wash to brag about picking up chicks.

Yeah. That's it. Do you envy that guy? Is that a guy to be jealous over or feel like society caters to him?

Nah man, this guy is empty. The bottom line is that someone who is actually happy wouldn't go around trying to pick up the worst kind of women and then go places bragging about it. And trust me, the women who are into men based solely on physical items or riches are the worst women. They have no emotional side, they are stunted in growth, and I'm pretty sure something terrible happened to them as a child or that they never had someone to show them what real goodness was.

But yo son, check it. Like 1 to 5 percent of women are like that. That is not the norm for any women in any country in any corner of the fucking universe. There are lots of good people out there, and guess what? Women are people dawg. There are lots of good women out there, and the vast majority of them mean well, and are looking for men based on compatibly and personality, just like (hopefully) you are.

Now that doesn't mean that the women out there are perfect, but nobody is. How many male fuckups are even in this thread dude? I count dozens! I'm one of them! Everybody's messed up, but it's better not to dwell and thinking about the fuckups too much.

What IS important is getting to know people. Take the time to get to know people, and then you can evaluate whether you dig them or not. And hey, even if you can't respect someone for something or you disagree with their way of life, as long as they're trying to become better and trying to learn from their mistakes, then that's what living is about. Everybody is on a journey in their life to be happier, and maybe that journey is going well and they're making good choices, or making it's tanking and they're messing up big time. Whatever and wherever each person is, be cool about it, because you've been there too. You're a fuck up and you're a champion. It all cycles, you fuck up so you can learn, and once you learn, then you can be better. And on and on.

So yo son, when you see some girl going around being a chickenhead and being fickle or something, know that it's not something to get mad over or feel like society is fucked, it's something to think bigger upon in the broader picture, and think, "Damn, that girl has all her priorities wrong. She can't be happy this way. Hope she learns how to live better, get the things she needs." You know dawg? Take her situation from a human perspective instead of a personal life-is-unfair perspective, because the first option is reality and keepin' it real is gonna open your mind, and see that life is just full of people trying to find their way. And whether or not they find their way is really no consolation or determination to who you are.

Be yourself, live life by your moral standards, if people are fuck ups, let them fuck up and maintain a life where you treat people to the best of your ability, and when YOU fuck up, take it like a man, and apologize, try to learn and become better, don't settle for how you want to be treated by others, don't settle just because it's hard to become the man you want to be.

Worrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrd up

i dig.

 

[Primerlime]

I was a bit of a philanderer during my first marriage. When out being a cad I would try and find the most obscure places that I could find to take the date dejour for drinks. These were places that I had never been to before and would never frequent again, not even with my friends.

Well no fewer than 3 times while out with a date, I ran into one of my best friend

 

[CreativeTomato]

I gotcha man. I'm sure there are a few dudes in nice shiny cars with money that can pull a woman and get to sleep with her in the first week of knowing her or whatever, but I'll say this right now: I know for a fact that the women who decide whether or not to engage with a man based on the physical or financial aren't worth their salt and I'm also positive they aren't happy either. And as for the guy, I'd bet my right hand that ferrari guy isn't actually really happy either.

I mean, think about that situation you told me about just now. Rich guy with a rich car comes into a car wash... and brags about picking up chicks.

Just think about that. Rich guy walks into a car wash and brags about picking up chicks. Now take out the "rich," part and take out the car part, and you'll get a much truer scenario without the bells and whistles. You'll get who that guy ACTUALLY IS in the onside.

He's a guy who comes to a car wash to brag about picking up chicks.

Yeah. That's it. Do you envy that guy? Is that a guy to be jealous over or feel like society caters to him?

Nah man, this guy is empty. The bottom line is that someone who is actually happy wouldn't go around trying to pick up the worst kind of women and then go places bragging about it. And trust me, the women who are into men based solely on physical items or riches are the worst women. They have no emotional side, they are stunted in growth, and I'm pretty sure something terrible happened to them as a child or that they never had someone to show them what real goodness was.

But yo son, check it. Like 1 to 5 percent of women are like that. That is not the norm for any women in any country in any corner of the fucking universe. There are lots of good people out there, and guess what? Women are people dawg. There are lots of good women out there, and the vast majority of them mean well, and are looking for men based on compatibly and personality, just like (hopefully) you are.

Now that doesn't mean that the women out there are perfect, but nobody is. How many male fuckups are even in this thread dude? I count dozens! I'm one of them! Everybody's messed up, but it's better not to dwell and thinking about the fuckups too much.

What IS important is getting to know people. Take the time to get to know people, and then you can evaluate whether you dig them or not. And hey, even if you can't respect someone for something or you disagree with their way of life, as long as they're trying to become better and trying to learn from their mistakes, then that's what living is about. Everybody is on a journey in their life to be happier, and maybe that journey is going well and they're making good choices, or making it's tanking and they're messing up big time. Whatever and wherever each person is, be cool about it, because you've been there too. You're a fuck up and you're a champion. It all cycles, you fuck up so you can learn, and once you learn, then you can be better. And on and on.

So yo son, when you see some girl going around being a chickenhead and being fickle or something, know that it's not something to get mad over or feel like society is fucked, it's something to think bigger upon in the broader picture, and think, "Damn, that girl has all her priorities wrong. She can't be happy this way. Hope she learns how to live better, get the things she needs." You know dawg? Take her situation from a human perspective instead of a personal life-is-unfair perspective, because the first option is reality and keepin' it real is gonna open your mind, and see that life is just full of people trying to find their way. And whether or not they find their way is really no consolation or determination to who you are.

Be yourself, live life by your moral standards, if people are fuck ups, let them fuck up and maintain a life where you treat people to the best of your ability, and when YOU fuck up, take it like a man, and apologize, try to learn and become better, don't settle for how you want to be treated by others, don't settle just because it's hard to become the man you want to be.

Worrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrd up

x9000. Pure troof right here.

 

[tkotom]

I kinda did, a guy i met thru work and I, had become pretty close friends. And he was engaged to this girl. And one night at the bar she molested me. and we hooked up for weeks behind his back and she finally broke it off with him and when she did that i said whoa. You blew it im not gonna be with you. you better go get your man back. and he wouldn't take her back. so thats what you get for being a whore.

Me and the guy are obviously no longer friends.

Im a terrible person yada yada i know but ive been cheated on plenty of times it was nice to be on the other end for once.

Also yes stay out of it. unless your really good friends with the guy getting cheated on. Then its your duty to tell him. Thats what my friends always did for me.

You are the epitome of scum

 

[tkotom]

I am friendly with my boss at work. a group of us have hung out after work and taken a few pinchwacks on multiple occasions. the problem is his wife cheats on him and everyone knows it but him. everyone feels too bad to tell him this because he is really the nicest guy you will ever meet. I just stay out of it.

Tell him man

 

[tkotom]

if your spouse is cheating on you, and you don't know, you're not doing your due diligence. your marriage, and its problems, aren't someone else's responsibility.

If your spouse is cheating on you its not always your fault..

 

[Bolshevik***]

If your spouse is cheating on you its not always your fault..

that's not really what i said. i'm saying that it's your responsibility to deal with it. you shouldn't be relying on other people to fix your problems, or bring them to your attention.

 

[tkotom]

In the thread title: its "an affair", not "a affair"

My work here is done.

It's*

Right on.

 

[tkotom]

if your spouse is cheating on you, and you can't figure it out, maybe you have it coming (not as in they deserve it, just that they can't seem to avoid it). getting a divorce isn't going to help them. the next person they're in a relationship with will probably do the same thing.

This is pure conjecture. Bordering on sexism almost.

How can you make such claims.

 

[Bolshevik***]

This is pure conjecture. Bordering on sexism almost.

How can you make such claims.

sexism in what way? i didn't say whether the person doing the cheating was a man or a woman. are you projecting?

i've just noticed that most of the time, people who get cheated on tend to get cheated on repeatedly. it's almost like people that cheat can sense their best victims.

 

[tkotom]

that's not really what i said. i'm saying that it's your responsibility to deal with it. you shouldn't be relying on other people to fix your problems, or bring them to your attention.

You don't always find out. And if someone else knows before you that's a separate issue entirely.

 

[Bolshevik***]

You don't always find out. And if someone else knows before you that's a separate issue entirely.

the problem with that is that the third party probably knows very little about the situation. what if they see someone cheating, but they're not aware of the fact that the other person has cheated multiple times in the past. they snitch, the couple gets a divorce, but only one person gets disgraced because they're the ones who were caught.

 

[tkotom]

the problem with that is that the third party probably knows very little about the situation. what if they see someone cheating, but they're not aware of the fact that the other person has cheated multiple times in the past. they snitch, the couple gets a divorce, but only one person gets disgraced because they're the ones who were caught.

i dunno man

if it's strangers i generally stay out of it but if it was a friend i would say something

don't want to see them get hurt you know

 

[Bolshevik***]

i dunno man

if it's strangers i generally stay out of it but if it was a friend i would say something

don't want to see them get hurt you know

i can understand that sentiment. it's just not something i think is that easy/black and white.

 

[tkotom]

Sigh.

Nobody should out a cheater. It's stupid and selfish, and intended only to relieve the burden of having the knowledge in the first place. It doesn't serve any helpful function. It doesn't help anyone. When you decide to out a cheater, you do so without knowing how much the non-cheating spouse already knows, chooses to know, chooses to forgive, or chooses to ignore. You don't know the parameters of the relationship. You are forcing an issue into the open that everyone may have chosen to allow reside in the darkness.

There. On topic.

That's your take on it Nonsense. It's also invalid.

You can't just brand everyone stupid and selfish. I wouldn't really care if I had such information but i'd tell a friend because I wouldn't want them getting hurt.

 

[Iceman_Fan09]

My brother's been with his girl for a little over a year; she ended up noticing that he's got basically a slide show of nudes from a few girls on his phone.

He managed to convince her to apologize and they're still together now.

 

[0vary hugger**]

I kinda did, a guy i met thru work and I, had become pretty close friends. And he was engaged to this girl. And one night at the bar she molested me. and we hooked up for weeks behind his back and she finally broke it off with him and when she did that i said whoa. You blew it im not gonna be with you. you better go get your man back. and he wouldn't take her back. so thats what you get for being a whore.

Me and the guy are obviously no longer friends.

Im a terrible person yada yada i know but ive been cheated on plenty of times it was nice to be on the other end for once.

Also yes stay out of it. unless your really good friends with the guy getting cheated on. Then its your duty to tell him. Thats what my friends always did for me.

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