Does having kids kill all your personal ambitions?

[madgrappler]

After a couple of years with my nephew in existance. I've noticed that brother in law has a little a gut and he longer has that vibe he had when he was like 25.

That's called "aging"

 

[Thanos]

No. Having kids is far more gratifying than any personal ambitions.

Having kids is a joy that no personal ambition could ever acheive.

But having kids is also like climbing Mount Everest. In hindsite it is an amazing accomplishment raising kids and is a joy, but the journey itself is exhausting.

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I'm a new dad and nothing in the world really matters to me anymore except my family

 

[Charles Brown]

It doesn't kill your personal ambitions at all. Your kids become your life. Your selfish stuff gets put on hold for eighteen years or so. It's very much worth it.

 

[Eric O]

I'm 29 and married and just coming to the point of thinking that having kids doesn't sound absolutely horrible.

I got some shit that I gotta get done first.

I don't want to be old and have nothing to look forward to.

 

[Vincent86]

I don't trust people with ambitions

 

[foucault]

It definitely takes up a lot of time but the rewards far outweigh the drawbacks.

My wife and I both work and are (full time) doctoral students. Having a baby to come home to at night dissolves my day of stress and lets me refocus my priorities. If anything, I'm MORE ambitious and focused now than before I had kids. More to work towards and a lot more to lose if I fuck up.

 

[Simian Raticus]

Having ambitions is leading by example as a parent imo. When I hear people talk about how they've had to let go of dreams because they had kids it sounds like they've found a way to give up nobly.

 

[Oblivian]

I have a 1 1/2 year son. I still participate in all of the hobbies that I had prior to having our son, but life is definitely different. You have to plan a lot more and doing things as a family is far more time consuming. You are constantly "on" so you can't exactly relax as much as before.

 

[Jack Reacheround]

I do not, and will not have kids. And yes, it kills your ambitions. Everyone in this thread who said their kids and family are all that matter any more just admitted that.

 

[buhriyon]

I wouldn't say that it completely kills your ambitions, but you really do need to have a good, solid grounding both financially and professionally before you have a kid. I manage to do most of the things that I did before; plus I have my son who can be a pain in the ass a lot of the time, but usually he's a fun lunatic.

 

[Kophens**]

Parents FTW!!!

 

[Cool Hand Luke]

I think people are mistaking 'being selfish' with 'having ambitions'.

 

[SevenSamurai]

I think people are mistaking 'being selfish' with 'having ambitions'.

That's a great observation.

 

[Krossinc]

It doesn't kill your personal ambitions at all. Your kids become your life. Your selfish stuff gets put on hold for eighteen years or so. It's very much worth it.

So...you give up your life to live vicariously through others. Sounds like giving up on yourself to me.

 

[Bear Man]

My personal goals took a back seat to the best interest and well being of my children. They're the best thing that ever happened to me.

 

[tom sumter]

If someone decides to flush away their dreams as an individual after having kids, more power to 'em.

What really chaps my ass is when they don't get that everyone else isn't obsessed with their kids.

Once that's all you have to talk about, go the fuck away, be a good parent, and leave me the hell out of it. Don't need to know what little Cody did 14 times a day or see his face plastered on fb every hour.

Seems unhealthy and unbalanced to me.

Just wait until you beam with uncontrollable love and pride for that little boy or girl that is a part of you. It's a powerful experience that you can't appreciate until it happens. Love at first sight is a myth except when it comes to your kids.

My two little girls make me melt.

 

[snakeyes1022]

Kids are the most gratifying thing ill ever have in my life. That being said Tyson has a lot of demons about who
he was when he was fighting so that may not be the best example.

 

[RogerB08]

It might not kill them, but it sure does put them on the back burner.

 

[Dogstarman]

Yes. It fucks everything up. I stopped training bjj for 4 years because of my kids. They are now old enough that I can take the, with me. They still interrupt my class every once in a while but I am not going to let them derail my path anymore.

 

[Chernabog]

No. Having kids is far more gratifying than any personal ambitions.

Having kids is a joy that no personal ambition could ever acheive.

But having kids is also like climbing Mount Everest. In hindsite it is an amazing accomplishment raising kids and is a joy, but the journey itself is exhausting.