Relationships Do you look for women like your mom?

[pugilistico]

Many times I've heard that men tend to date women like their mom and vice versa, women tend to date men like their dad.

I can imagine this being the case if you have had a good childhood and relationship with your mother/father. You might try to seek that feeling of safety/familiarity/comfort.

For me it's not true at all. My mother is obsessive and neurotic so I much prefer to be with women who are calm and easy going. I have a decent relationship with my mother but I can only spend so much time with her. So if I meet a women who displays similar personality traits, it's a turn off for me.

I once dated a girl who's father would beat the absolute shit out of her even into her late 20s and it seemed like she wanted to emulate that abusive dynamic. She would hit me and egg me on to hit her. I didn't of course and I realized I had to get out. I hope for her sake that she didn't meet a guy like her father after me.

Do you think this is true? Or is this true for you?

 

[William Huggins]

Oh shit that's where I went wrong........ I should've been a covert alcoholic that womanised, gambled with a taste for incest....... What does it mean when a woman turns out like their father??

 

[Flower2dPeople]

Impossible.

 

[Mr. Shickadance]

People will lie but any major woman in the initial upbringing is what they base most women off of

 

[fingercuffs]

Many times I've heard that men tend to date women like their mom and vice versa, women tend to date men like their dad.

I can imagine this being the case if you have had a good childhood and relationship with your mother/father. You might try to seek that feeling of safety/familiarity/comfort.

For me it's not true at all. My mother is obsessive and neurotic so I much prefer to be with women who are calm and easy going. I have a decent relationship with my mother but I can only spend so much time with her. So if I meet a women who displays similar personality traits, it's a turn off for me.

I once dated a girl who's father would beat the absolute shit out of her even into her late 20s and it seemed like she wanted to emulate that abusive dynamic. She would hit me and egg me on to hit her. I didn't of course and I realized I had to get out. I hope for her sake that she didn't meet a guy like her father after me.

Do you think this is true? Or is this true for you?

Difficult, my Dad was a Don Draper lookalike high up in the British Army and my mum was some Audrey Hepburn lookalike.

I fell in love with a Don Draper lookalike so that's a bit weird.

 

[Gene Tunney]

It's likely that we all do.

We are creatures of data. Our brains collect and process data, from which we generate predictions.

Who gives us more data than our mothers?

 

[ThaiSexPills]

My mom is an incredible woman. There’s qualities of hers’ that I seek in a partner but no, overall my wife to be is pretty different from her in many ways.

 

[Dobymick]

Yeah in some ways you could say so. My mon is a good mother. Caring, sweet and all that. I like women that are sweet and feminine who enjoys stay at home and chill.

I do have a thing for party girls who are a bit whorish but that's just for sex never had a relationship with these types

Sweet, caring and trustable women always have a good relationship with their father. If a girl seems nice but talk shit on their father and family it's a huge red flag that she will probably be a bit crazy

 

[TheNinja]

Yup

 

[My name is]

My mom was a hoe I'm not really looking for that

 

[deviake]

Uh, I used to compare her to Satan and Hitler, so no lol

 

[chill doggie]

Beyond cleaning and doing my laundry, no.

 

[pugilistico]

It's likely that we all do.

We are creatures of data. Our brains collect and process data, from which we generate predictions.

Who gives us more data than our mothers?

I guess if you have a bad relationship with your mother, you might avoid traits that remind you of her. That is data too. Being with my mother can be stressful because she's extremely neurotic, fearful, and she gets stressed easily and raises her voice often. I seek out women who much more relaxed and not scared of everything. If she raises her voice, that's a huge turn off for me.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

No, looking for instant chemistry. Similar sense of humor. That's a decent person, who has consideration for other people.

 

[pugilistico]

No, looking for instant chemistry. Similar sense of humor. That's a decent person, who has consideration for other people.

Are you saying your mother isn't considerate to others?

 

[Don Quixote]

Mom has some good qualities, but I do not think I could handle some of her attributes. I’m not throwing her under the bus, but she was a stress case. She even admits this and was put on medication for whatever she has.

I was in a previous relationship with a girl that starting showing signs of the same behavior and bailed after making an attempts to consul her; it didn’t work. I didn’t have the tools or resources to fix that damaged ship. Better to jump off those types of boats before they plunge to the depths of the ocean.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Are you saying your mother isn't considerate to others?

Not saying that, but I think there is generalized understanding of people having consideration for others. Just doesn't have to be your mother per se. I just want to surround myself with good people.

 

[Don Quixote]

Mom has some good qualities, but I do not think I could handle some of her attributes. I’m not throwing her under the bus, but she was a stress case. She even admits this and was put on medication for whatever she has.

I was in a previous relationship with a girl that starting showing signs of the same behavior and bailed after making an attempt to consul her; it didn’t work. I didn’t have the tools or resources to fix that damaged ship. Better to jump off those types of boats before they plunge to the depths of the ocean.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Don't get me wrong, I do want my partner to have similarities to my mom. But not completely like her kind of thing.

 

[ssBaldy]

No. While I love my mom and she is a good person in general she made some really poor decisions relationship wise. AFAIK I am not like my wife's dad either.