do yo really not care what people think

[Leon Phelps]

You want them to think you are a smart and diligent worker, right? That has more to do with your ego than the perception of others. It harkens back to that previous poster's comment about someone not having an accurate representation of you. In your mind, you are awesome, and when people see you as anything less than awesome, you feel compelled to impress them to win back your self worth.

This is probably true, but my first thought was that I care what my bosses think because they are the hands that feed me.

 

[Sexy]

YOU KNOW WHO DIDNT CARE

 

[BEER]

I think everyone cares what other people think, to some degree.

Some people spend their whole lives trying to make other people like them. Other people just do the bare minimum to not be absolutely hated.

 

[Rekrul]

My outward appearance is a reflection of my inner self. If I am confident, I'm not going to walk around in sweats and a meatball stained t-shirt.

Why not?

My guess is that it's because you wouldn't respect a man in sweats, with a meatball stained shirt. You derive a certain amount confidence from telling yourself that you're better than that slob. You assume that others would judge you in a similar way, if you appeared as he does. If others did perceive you, as you perceive him, it would mean that you previously overestimated your social status. The knowledge that you aren't considered higher status than that slob would make you feel less secure.

If you stopped caring about how others judge your social status, there would be no reason to examine how you might be perceived. You could walk around in whatever made you feel most comfortable, and still be fully confident.

 

[G-Mafia]

Anybody who wears clothes in the street is conscious of what others think.

Either that or they just don't want to get arrested. I guess you must care what the law thinks or you'd be in jail.

 

[Lucifer Alpha]

Why not?

My guess is that it's because you wouldn't respect a man in sweats, with a meatball stained shirt. You derive a certain amount confidence from telling yourself that you're better than that slob. You assume that others would judge you in a similar way, if you appeared as he does. If others did perceive you, as you perceive him, it would mean that you previously overestimated your social status. The knowledge that you aren't considered higher status than that slob would make you feel less secure.

If you stopped caring about how others judge your social status, there would be no reason to examine how you might be perceived. You could walk around in whatever made you feel most comfortable, and still be fully confident.

No. It simply makes me feel better about myself, much the same way someone who works out does so in order to better themselves. These are the rules I set for myself and the vessel which I operate from within must be up to my standards. I do not judge anyone. They have a different set of rules and I respect that.

 

[Lucifer Alpha]

If you stopped caring about how others judge your social status, there would be no reason to examine how you might be perceived. You could walk around in whatever made you feel most comfortable, and still be fully confident.

I did. You are talking to someone who used to wear red leather pants to school.

 

[Rekrul]

No. It simply makes me feel better about myself, much the same way someone who works out does so in order to better themselves. These are the rules I set for myself and the vessel which I operate from within must be up to my standards. I do not judge anyone. They have a different set of rules and I respect that.

In what way does it make you feel better about yourself?

Working out can be understandable to some extent. It might be pleasurable, in a purely physical way, and it might improve your bodily comfort, or function generally.

Wearing nice clothes, cutting/shaving hair, trying to cover up your body odor, etc. seem to be entirely about improving outward appearance. What would motivate those behaviors, if not desire for approval?

 

[Damien Karras]

I do care about what people think. I like other people's perspectives.

But I always weigh my perspective with other people's when making a decision. I try to be as objective as possible.

But sometimes I go my own way regardless of what other people have thought. It has worked to my advantage and my disadvantage in the past.

 

[yekmurat]

Its. About self confidence,if you believe yourself then it doesnt matter what they think about you

 

[Lucifer Alpha]

In what way does it make you feel better about yourself?

Working out can be understandable to some extent. It might be pleasurable, in a purely physical way, and it might improve your bodily comfort, or function generally.

Wearing nice clothes, cutting/shaving hair, trying to cover up your body odor, etc. seem to be entirely about improving outward appearance. What would motivate those behaviors, if not desire for approval?

I don't think it's that peculiar to say I feel more assured in a nice suit than a pair of sweat pants. I mean, would you rather have clear skin or zits all over your face? I wouldn't say you were trying to impress anyone by looking your best. It just makes you feel better about yourself. You make the best with what you got.

 

[RSmith47]

I care less than most, that much I know.

Do you? Because the fact that you came on here to tell us that you care less than most people means you care about the fact that we should know you don't care that much.

It's the ultimate paradox.

 

[Iroh]

Do you? Because the fact that you came on here to tell us that you care less than most people means you care about the fact that we should know you don't care that much.

It's the ultimate paradox.

I came here to answer a question because it entertains my mind for a few seconds. Responding now entertains my mind again.

 

[Sir Galahad]

Lot of people are envious of my looks.

 

[BelieveInChael]

I try to care as little as possible - but of course I care to some extent.

 

[LucasWithLidOff]

Anyone who says no is lying.

 

[Lucifer Alpha]

Anyone who says no is lying.

You are projecting your own insecurities onto the rest of us.

 

[LucasWithLidOff]

You are projecting your own insecurities onto the rest of us.

Whatever you need to tell yourself to feel better about it.

 

[Linkuei]

Not since high school.

 

[Rekrul]

I don't think it's that far-fetched to say that I feel more assured in a nice suit than a pair of sweat pants. I mean, would you rather have clear skin or zits all over your face? I wouldn't say you were trying to impress someone if you try to look your best.

I would say any knowledge that a nice suit > sweat pants, and clear skin > zits, is evidence that you've adopted the prejudices of others. Sharing their prejudices enables you to better judge how you're perceived in relation to them, which has purely social value.

If one wasn't interest in the perceptions of others, I believe they would think about things like "Those red dots are ugly", "Should I run from it?", "Can I fuck it?", "Does it feel good?", "Can I dominate it?". Not "I noticed how ugly those red dots look on others, so I should remove them from my face", "Is he mad at me?","Does she like me?", "Does this look good?", "That lazy bum has no self respect.".