Cheated on my GF.

smellmyfarts said:
I got in a huge fight with my GF over some stupid shit and didn't talk to her other than a few text messages for almost a week. Like an idiot, I went out drinking last weekend with some buddies and ended up at a house party with an old co-worker of mine. Long story short, I went back to her house and we hooked up. The next morning, I woke up feeling terrible about what had happened, but kept my mouth shut about having a GF and went on with my day. This chick texted me like 10 times about how much she likes me and can't wait to see me again as well as sent me a friend request on FB that I denied. I'm not into this girl at all. She's pretty annoying and despite having one of the most spectacular ghetto bootys that I've ever seen, she's a total butter-face with a bunch of really hood tattoos.

So after a couple days of ignoring her, she finally got the point, but then yesterday day she sends me a message that basically says that she knows I have a GF, and that I'm a total piece of shit. I didn't respond, but now I'm sweating bullets because she obviously knows someone that knows me or my GF.

At this point I'm thinking that I should either just come clean with my GF or break up with her. I don't think I can keep a skeleton like this in the closest. I also can't bare the thought of my GF knowing that I bagged this trashy chick, and from what I know about her, she'll probably eventually find a way to tell my GF.

Yes, I'm a fucking idiot, so save the "you're retarded comments."

What would you do?
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The only mistake you made and a huge one. If you are in a relationship and banging other women, learn how to dump them without them getting pissed at you. Thats the number one rule.
 
Well, you're f*cked no matter what.

Might as well just nut up and move on. And get tested.
 
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Things will never be the same, every fight you have from now on you'll hear about it. If she ever has a random insecure day that all females have, it'll be your fault, if she ever catches you looking at another chick you'll hear it.

Splitting up would be best for not just her but you, yes you messed up but you'll lose your sanity fast by thinking you gotta be the punching bag since you messed up. Fresh start and consider this one of those life lessons, and I really hope you wrapped it up cause those ghetto chicks are usually the ones that end up pregnant in these situations.
 
smellmyfarts said:
I got in a huge fight with my GF over some stupid shit and didn't talk to her other than a few text messages for almost a week. Like an idiot, I went out drinking last weekend with some buddies and ended up at a house party with an old co-worker of mine. Long story short, I went back to her house and we hooked up. The next morning, I woke up feeling terrible about what had happened, but kept my mouth shut about having a GF and went on with my day. This chick texted me like 10 times about how much she likes me and can't wait to see me again as well as sent me a friend request on FB that I denied. I'm not into this girl at all. She's pretty annoying and despite having one of the most spectacular ghetto bootys that I've ever seen, she's a total butter-face with a bunch of really hood tattoos.

So after a couple days of ignoring her, she finally got the point, but then yesterday day she sends me a message that basically says that she knows I have a GF, and that I'm a total piece of shit. I didn't respond, but now I'm sweating bullets because she obviously knows someone that knows me or my GF.

At this point I'm thinking that I should either just come clean with my GF or break up with her. I don't think I can keep a skeleton like this in the closest. I also can't bare the thought of my GF knowing that I bagged this trashy chick, and from what I know about her, she'll probably eventually find a way to tell my GF.

Yes, I'm a fucking idiot, so save the "you're retarded comments."

What would you do?
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I don't think your GF cared you 'bagged a trashy chick' she cares you cheated period. It could have been with Miss America for all she would care.

May as well tell your girlfriend. She's going to find out anyway and better to confess than be caught.

Also for the future if you aren't interested in a girl then be a man and tell her. Don't ignore her and hope she goes away. That's bitch behavior.
 
TKing said:
Things will never be the same, every fight you have from now on you'll hear about it. If she ever has a random insecure day that all females have, it'll be your fault, if she ever catches you looking at another chick you'll hear it.

Splitting up would be best for not just her but you, yes you messed up but you'll lose your sanity fast by thinking you gotta be the punching bag since you messed up. Fresh start and consider this one of those life lessons, and I really hope you wrapped it up cause those ghetto chicks are usually the ones that end up pregnant in these situations.
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Wrapping it up isn't enough with those chicks. You have to maintain control of the condom from dick to trash can or they'll scoop out the insides and try to do it manually. Ts is fucked for the next 18 years.
 
scrubido said:
Wrapping it up isn't enough with those chicks. You have to maintain control of the condom from dick to trash can or they'll scoop out the insides and try to do it manually. Ts is fucked for the next 18 years.
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Also don't accept condoms from said hoodrats, they've been known to poke holes.
 
Well, before you come clean you should get really really stoned

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Never trust a big butt and a smile.

 
Sorry to hear that and I guess you're like me, I couldn't do it and keep it a secret either the guilt would eat me alive. Either come clean and work things out, split up and go your own way, or may I suggest a threesome.
 
I'm gonna help you with this jam, TS. I'm not judging you at all, because I was also a cheater. But it ruined my life, so here's my first piece of advice... Don't ever cheat again. It's just not worth it, Dude... I should know. I cheated on the love of my life countless times over the span of years. I loved her, but it was as if I couldn't help myself. And like you, I'd wake up and instantly just be overcome with guilt and regret. Not that that ever stopped me from making the same mistake. Also like you, I couldn't bear the guilt anymore and after giving it a lot of thought because we were talking about getting married, I made the desicion to tell her everything for the same reasons you are thinking about doing it. I'll tell you how that worked out for me. I lost her... And even worse, she was completely blindsided by it. Her face looked like someone just murdered her whole family in front of her. It was a look of sheer horror that will haunt me forever. I regreted it instantly... It was the right decision, but it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I'm not going to say that's the right decision for you, because I don't know your situation. But you sound genuinely remorseful and like you know it was a mistake. So maybe you just give yourself a mulligan for this one and chalk it up to a learning experience. But whatever you decide, make it about your relationship and the right decision for both of you, whatever that may be... and not because some fucking hood chick is dropping insinuations that she's going to tell your girl because she's salty and Daddy didn't give her enough attention as a child.

There were a few that went a little crazy and insinuated that they would expose what happened with me as well. Girls will do that shit. Because heres the deal. She knew you had a girl all along... And she slept with you anyways, because she's a slut. Now the reality of the situation is setting in and she feels like a slut. And she thinks she's going to make you pay because of that? Fuck that. This is going to sound crazy, but if you want to keep your relationship and avoid your girlfriend being hurt, you'll do it. Then decide later if you're going to tell her on your own terms. Because if a girl is crazy enough to drop an insinuation like she did, she's crazy enough to follow through. Don't be caught with your pants down... PUN INTENDED. Which will happen, believe me. One, cease all contact with hood chick. Not only that, but erase those messages. Then get yourself an alibi. Make it a solid one with a friend of yours she trusts... So that a simple phone call could easily verify that her story is bullshit. And if it comes to that, don't suggest it immediately. That's suspicious. Let her ask or suggest it or use it only as a last resort. For good measure, send a different friend a fb message saying that some girl you knew from work won't leave you alone and it's really pathetic because she's done this to 4 or five different guys at the same place. Make it organic... Throw in a joke about a stalking movie, etc. These things are your insurance. Do them and there's nothing short of DNA evidence that is going to convince your girl you cheated. If you're going to cheat, it's all about planning and contingencies.

Also, know that if you don't tell her... This won't go away. You will continually find yourself wondering if you could get away with it, could she as well? You'll probably even start projecting those insecurities onto her. What I'm saying is that regardless of whether you tell her, this is going to have a major adverse effect on your relationship. Whatever happens, I wish you the best... Because I've been there. It's a shit situation to be in. Whatever goes down, just don't be too hard on yourself.

Also, pics of the Hood Booty would certainly be appreciated. Let's see what we're working with here!
 
sorry to say, but you're fucked, it's over between you and your gf, there is no reconciliation at this point. You can still have sex with her obviously, but it cant get any more serious, might as well cut ties and find a new one.
 
scrubido said:
Seriously just break up. Women will never truly forgive or forget.
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I'd say that's true for men and women. I don't know of any guy who would be okay with his girlfriend taking other guys for test rides.

Actually, men tend to be more sensitive than women when it comes to physical cheating. Women tend to focus more on the emotional aspect for some idiotic reason.
 
Bukowski82 said:
I'm gonna help you with this jam, TS. I'm not judging you at all, because I was also a cheater. But it ruined my life, so here's my first piece of advice... Don't ever cheat again. It's just not worth it, Dude... I should know. I cheated on the love of my life countless times over the span of years. I loved her, but it was as if I couldn't help myself. And like you, I'd wake up and instantly just be overcome with guilt and regret. Not that that ever stopped me from making the same mistake. Also like you, I couldn't bear the guilt anymore and after giving it a lot of thought because we were talking about getting married, I made the desicion to tell her everything for the same reasons you are thinking about doing it. I'll tell you how that worked out for me. I lost her... And even worse, she was completely blindsided by it. Her face looked like someone just murdered her whole family in front of her. It was a look of sheer horror that will haunt me forever. I regreted it instantly... It was the right decision, but it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I'm not going to say that's the right decision for you, because I don't know your situation. But you sound genuinely remorseful and like you know it was a mistake. So maybe you just give yourself a mulligan for this one and chalk it up to a learning experience. But whatever you decide, make it about your relationship and the right decision for both of you, whatever that may be... and not because some fucking hood chick is dropping insinuations that she's going to tell your girl because she's salty and Daddy didn't give her enough attention as a child.

There were a few that went a little crazy and insinuated that they would expose what happened with me as well. Girls will do that shit. Because heres the deal. She knew you had a girl all along... And she slept with you anyways, because she's a slut. Now the reality of the situation is setting in and she feels like a slut. And she thinks she's going to make you pay because of that? Fuck that. This is going to sound crazy, but if you want to keep your relationship and avoid your girlfriend being hurt, you'll do it. Then decide later if you're going to tell her on your own terms. Because if a girl is crazy enough to drop an insinuation like she did, she's crazy enough to follow through. Don't be caught with your pants down... PUN INTENDED. Which will happen, believe me. One, cease all contact with hood chick. Not only that, but erase those messages. Then get yourself an alibi. Make it a solid one with a friend of yours she trusts... So that a simple phone call could easily verify that her story is bullshit. And if it comes to that, don't suggest it immediately. That's suspicious. Let her ask or suggest it or use it only as a last resort. For good measure, send a different friend a fb message saying that some girl you knew from work won't leave you alone and it's really pathetic because she's done this to 4 or five different guys at the same place. Make it organic... Throw in a joke about a stalking movie, etc. These things are your insurance. Do them and there's nothing short of DNA evidence that is going to convince your girl you cheated. If you're going to cheat, it's all about planning and contingencies.

Also, know that if you don't tell her... This won't go away. You will continually find yourself wondering if you could get away with it, could she as well? You'll probably even start projecting those insecurities onto her. What I'm saying is that regardless of whether you tell her, this is going to have a major adverse effect on your relationship. Whatever happens, I wish you the best... Because I've been there. It's a shit situation to be in. Whatever goes down, just don't be too hard on yourself.

Also, pics of the Hood Booty would certainly be appreciated. Let's see what we're working with here!
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I have to disagree with the highlighted statements that you made. From reading his opening post I don't get any sense of remorse, guilt or regret due to a sense of morality kicking in. His regret is based on fear and worry since 'ole girl insinuated that she knows that he has a gf. Look at these statements of his from his opening post:

smellmyfarts said:
I don't think I can keep a skeleton like this in the closest. I also can't bare the thought of my GF knowing that I bagged this trashy chick,
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He doesn't THINK that he can keep a skeleton like this in the closet (meaning he doesn't think he can keep her from eventually finding out one way or another what he did). And he's not bothered by the thought of his gf learning that he cheated on her, he's bothered by the thought that his gf will learn about him banging a bow-wow and how he would look in her eyes for doing so (and maybe even spreading the news about it to others in their common circles of friends and associates).

It's not about regret or shame on moral grounds; it looks more to me like regret and shame based on fear, worry and anxiety.
 
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People cheat. Who cares.

It's happening so much nowadays where I am that I swear everyone has fucked everyone.
 
Bukowski82 said:
I'm gonna help you with this jam, TS. I'm not judging you at all, because I was also a cheater. But it ruined my life, so here's my first piece of advice... Don't ever cheat again. It's just not worth it, Dude... I should know. I cheated on the love of my life countless times over the span of years. I loved her, but it was as if I couldn't help myself. And like you, I'd wake up and instantly just be overcome with guilt and regret. Not that that ever stopped me from making the same mistake. Also like you, I couldn't bear the guilt anymore and after giving it a lot of thought because we were talking about getting married, I made the desicion to tell her everything for the same reasons you are thinking about doing it. I'll tell you how that worked out for me. I lost her... And even worse, she was completely blindsided by it. Her face looked like someone just murdered her whole family in front of her. It was a look of sheer horror that will haunt me forever. I regreted it instantly... It was the right decision, but it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I'm not going to say that's the right decision for you, because I don't know your situation. But you sound genuinely remorseful and like you know it was a mistake. So maybe you just give yourself a mulligan for this one and chalk it up to a learning experience. But whatever you decide, make it about your relationship and the right decision for both of you, whatever that may be... and not because some fucking hood chick is dropping insinuations that she's going to tell your girl because she's salty and Daddy didn't give her enough attention as a child.

There were a few that went a little crazy and insinuated that they would expose what happened with me as well. Girls will do that shit. Because heres the deal. She knew you had a girl all along... And she slept with you anyways, because she's a slut. Now the reality of the situation is setting in and she feels like a slut. And she thinks she's going to make you pay because of that? Fuck that. This is going to sound crazy, but if you want to keep your relationship and avoid your girlfriend being hurt, you'll do it. Then decide later if you're going to tell her on your own terms. Because if a girl is crazy enough to drop an insinuation like she did, she's crazy enough to follow through. Don't be caught with your pants down... PUN INTENDED. Which will happen, believe me. One, cease all contact with hood chick. Not only that, but erase those messages. Then get yourself an alibi. Make it a solid one with a friend of yours she trusts... So that a simple phone call could easily verify that her story is bullshit. And if it comes to that, don't suggest it immediately. That's suspicious. Let her ask or suggest it or use it only as a last resort. For good measure, send a different friend a fb message saying that some girl you knew from work won't leave you alone and it's really pathetic because she's done this to 4 or five different guys at the same place. Make it organic... Throw in a joke about a stalking movie, etc. These things are your insurance. Do them and there's nothing short of DNA evidence that is going to convince your girl you cheated. If you're going to cheat, it's all about planning and contingencies.

Also, know that if you don't tell her... This won't go away. You will continually find yourself wondering if you could get away with it, could she as well? You'll probably even start projecting those insecurities onto her. What I'm saying is that regardless of whether you tell her, this is going to have a major adverse effect on your relationship. Whatever happens, I wish you the best... Because I've been there. It's a shit situation to be in. Whatever goes down, just don't be too hard on yourself.

Also, pics of the Hood Booty would certainly be appreciated. Let's see what we're working with here!
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sorry, good intentions wont fly. It's over believe it or not. Whether TS wants it to work or not, it's simply over, and you live and learn. Believe me, no matter how immaculate you are, 99/100 get caught for murder, and this is like murder, in that you'll get caught. If you confess..... it's still over. Major trust is broken, and there's not even marriage involved. A relationship cant go past this unless you're partner is a total floormat, which isnt the case since there was a heavy argument prior. Floormats get stomped on, which is not the case here.
 
It's obvious you don't care about your girlfriend. Just end things with her and move on.
 
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