Cheated on my GF.

[Ralph Wiggum]

When she rats you out, deny, deny, deny. Its a simple, but surprisingly effective tactic in those situations.

 

[EJAXXX]

Kill the ghetto booty hoe. It's the only way

Solid advice.

 

[Simian Raticus]

Option 1: Come clean. You will be less fucked if she finds out from you.

Option 2: Deny, deny, deny.

 

[Corwinn]

Admitting it gets you nowhere. You're just being selfish by admitting something like that because the only purpose it serves is to assauge your guilt. If you actually do feel guilty, then take your mistake, bottle it up, and don't do it again. Admitting it only causes pain to the offended party.

If you don't feel guilty but just feel like you should, get the fuck over it and go bang some hotter broads.

 

[equus]

Admitting it gets you nowhere. You're just being selfish by admitting something like that because the only purpose it serves is to assauge your guilt. If you actually do feel guilty, then take your mistake, bottle it up, and don't do it again. Admitting it only causes pain to the offended party.

If you don't feel guilty but just feel like you should, get the fuck over it and go bang some hotter broads.

I bet youre a pastor.















or bill cosby.

 

[RoosterShooter]

Admitting it gets you nowhere. You're just being selfish by admitting something like that because the only purpose it serves is to assauge your guilt. If you actually do feel guilty, then take your mistake, bottle it up, and don't do it again. Admitting it only causes pain to the offended party.

If you don't feel guilty but just feel like you should, get the fuck over it and go bang some hotter broads.

Realest post in here, n I only read the last page. OP, do this.

 

[Soma]

Pics are irrelevant to the story

The chick wasn't hot. Just a trashy chick with a huge ass. And bigger than most people on this site would be into..............I'm half athletic and explosive

Beautiful reply. Haha.

Either break it off with gf, or keep quiet and stay with her. Try to soothe things over with ghetto booty. Be cool with her but straight up. Keep her feelings in mind. Because if she feels like you're fucking her over she'll make your life hell.

If you stay with gf, your guilt is the penance you pay.

 

[Corwinn]

I bet youre a pastor.


or bill cosby.

Or perhaps both

I know it sounds asshole-ish, but really. If you're going to feel guilty for doing something then don't do it in the first place. To admit to it after out of some misplaced notion that it is going to make anything better is pointless. Torture youself for it, sure, but do it internally where it doesn't hurt anyone else.

And no, I don't cheat on my gf, been with her 5 years. But...I did cheat on every other one I've ever had, zero guilt.

 

[equus]

Realest post in here, n I only read the last page. OP, do this.

unless of course he contracted some sort of std and didn't say shit because he didn't feel guilty and decided to keep that shit up. or they broke up and she has something and it goes on into her next relationship. I think selfishness and accountability are 2 different things. theres more to admission than clearing your conscience. and the truth is people don't admit they cheated because its a fuck up and theyre too chickenshit to deal with the repercussions.

 

[equus]

Or perhaps both

I know it sounds asshole-ish, but really. If you're going to feel guilty for doing something then don't do it in the first place. To admit to it after out of some misplaced notion that it is going to make anything better is pointless. Torture youself for it, sure, but do it internally where it doesn't hurt anyone else.

And no, I don't cheat on my gf, been with her 5 years. But...I did cheat on every other one I've ever had, zero guilt.

like I just said in my other post, theres more to it than clearing your mind. if you cheated and didn't feel guilty in the past, its not because it wasn't wrong. its because youre a sociopath.


and for clarity I have no dog in this fight. im just laying it down like I see it. I was cheated on once upon a time by an ex. turned out she was a dirty whore. she did tell me. and im damn glad I knew. I broke up with her and found out from her sister a few years later that she got herpes shortly after we dated. im glad she came clean to me about cheating because apparently its a habitual thing for her and I coulda had that shit ultimately.

 

[Corwinn]

unless of course he contracted some sort of std and didn't say shit because he didn't feel guilty and decided to keep that shit up. or they broke up and she has something and it goes on into her next relationship. I think selfishness and accountability are 2 different things. theres more to admission than clearing your conscience. and the truth is people don't admit they cheated because its a fuck up and theyre too chickenshit to deal with the repercussions.

Good point about the STD angle....hadn't considered that. That definitely becomes a different situation.

Edit: to above post - I don't think I'm a sociopath.... I just don't think it is worth unnecessarily causing strife that can be avoided. I've never felt guilty about cheating, but as I said I don't cheat on my current gf. Not because I'll feel guilty but just because the risk isn't worth the reward

 

[equus]

Good point about the STD angle....hadn't considered that. That definitely becomes a different situation.

Edit: to above post - I don't think I'm a sociopath.... I just don't think it is worth unnecessarily causing strife that can be avoided. I've never felt guilty about cheating, but as I said I don't cheat on my current gf. Not because I'll feel guilty but just because the risk isn't worth the reward

I added my 2 cents above.

 

[RoosterShooter]

unless of course he contracted some sort of std and didn't say shit because he didn't feel guilty and decided to keep that shit up. or they broke up and she has something and it goes on into her next relationship. I think selfishness and accountability are 2 different things. theres more to admission than clearing your conscience. and the truth is people don't admit they cheated because its a fuck up and theyre too chickenshit to deal with the repercussions.

u dont have to think that they are two different things because they in fact are two different things. but it doesnt sound like op contracted anything(if he wants to confirm thats all on him.),sounds like a typical drunk hook up. he also sounds like he dont wanna continue it. so in line with whats been said, he should shut up, tell ol girl to vamoose, and live in cautious optimism

 

[equus]

Good point about the STD angle....hadn't considered that. That definitely becomes a different situation.

Edit: to above post - I don't think I'm a sociopath.... I just don't think it is worth unnecessarily causing strife that can be avoided. I've never felt guilty about cheating, but as I said I don't cheat on my current gf. Not because I'll feel guilty but just because the risk isn't worth the reward

listen, to a woman, a breakup is already emotional. if you tell her at the same time you cheated, it can go one of 2 ways. she can lose her shit further or she can be relieved she got rid of a cheat. ive seen both ways from my buddy and a couple gfs. and lets be real here, its easier to not deal with admitting youre a dirtbag.

 

[Corwinn]

listen, to a woman, a breakup is already emotional. if you tell her at the same time you cheated, it can go one of 2 ways. she can lose her shit further or she can be relieved she got rid of a cheat. ive seen both ways from my buddy and a couple gfs. and lets be real here, its easier to not deal with admitting youre a dirtbag.

So if he does want to stay with his gf, feels horrible about it, won't be repeating the mistake, you still think he should be admitting that he cheated? I just don't see how that is a smart thing to do. Better to live in "cautious optimism" (as the above poster said) and live with his guilt. Use it to not repeat the offence.

Though I definitely consider the STD angle a valid one. If there was no condom usage in the incident then he has to admit it, can't be irresponsible when infectious disease is involved.

 

[...El Ray]

So if he does want to stay with his gf, feels horrible about it, won't be repeating the mistake, you still think he should be admitting that he cheated? I just don't see how that is a smart thing to do.

Denying her the option of dumping you (via omission) for being a dirtbag is cowardly, to say the least.

 

[GearSolidMetal]

Haven't read through the entire thread, so I imagine someone has already states this truth.

But your GF, are you considering spending your life with her? If so, then you have to tell her the truth because it'll be impossible to hide it for your entire lifetime. If not, then you're planning on ending it eventually anyway, so it might as well be now.

I don't envy your situation. It's going to suck, but good luck.

Oh, forgot to mention. If your girlfriend never finds out, from you or anyone else, you're a pi3ce of shit.

 

[Corwinn]

Denying her the option of dumping you (via omission) for being a dirtbag is cowardly, to say the least.

Interesting. Dirtbag, probably, won't deny that. But cowardly? I don't see how it is brave to admit it, all that does is take the decision out of your hands. If your conscience is getting to you, then man up and don't make the same mistake again.

My main point was that if you're going to feel guilty for doing something then you probably shouldn't be doing it in the first place. Later admitting it doesn't help the situation, just makes it worse.

 

[minute bull]

Denying her the option of dumping you (via omission) for being a dirtbag is cowardly, to say the least.

Well, when you say it like that...


But he makes a great point that was already made ITT, and apparently heeded by the TS, who because of it was compelled to cop to it and now they're broken up.

 

[JAEGERX]

Is this a reference I'm not getting because Nelson died at Trafalgar.

yeah but it was one of the greastest battle strategies ever presented at that time, and being drunk as fuck on cognac and rum just makes it a genius move.