Sorry to hear that flipside he got help and didn't keep doing his behaviour. How long was his sentence?Yeah my dad was abusive but he went to jail for it and everything, got out and went to counseling and turned over a new leaf so everyone forgave him.
There was always a slight distrust lingering though. Like we loved him but not as much as we loved Mom, she never abused us.
I want to say about 6 months or so. I think I was 8 or 9 so I may be remembering it wrong. But then even after he got out of jail he wasn't allowed to move back home until the social worker or court or someone gave him permission, so with everything together I think he was gone for over a year.Sorry to hear that flipside he got help and didn't keep doing his behaviour. How long was his sentence?
I don't think cutting out someone in your famiy who mistreated you makes you a crumby person.I could probably reach out more... just because I feel someone wronged me doesn't mean that I should also be a pos...
Could you get into more detail? Don't have too.Yep. Both of my parents. Life is short. People make mistakes.
Mine has a long history almost none of us talk to each other ... whats your experiences, do you talk to yours?
Ahh yes ... the cycle of abuseOnly to abusive them back
Same. Plus, as you get older, people die. You see it, and learn to let things go.Yep. Both of my parents. Life is short. People make mistakes.
I reasonate with your story ... forgiveness isn't always the solution. Sometimes when i tell people i'm not close to mine i get judged, i get it but it is what it is. Gotta keep distance to keep my sanity.I moved out right when I turned 19. We had a big ass fight during that and didn't talk for a couple years. Reconciled while I was with my first serious girlfriend, she helped keep the peace.
Shortly after that relationship ended there was another big fight, and we didn't talk for seven years. They tracked me down and asked me to come home and stay with them and go back to school.
I did, a year into that they threw me out on the street in a snow storm after another argument. That was over seven years ago now. Haven't spoken to them since and wont ever again. I'm out of forgiveness.
Could you get into more detail? Don't have too.