a rift in the gym

[contumacious]

get better, dojo cliques love hanging out with the people they think are good

oh, and who cares? I recommend having friends outside the gym

 

[gannas]

i feel a rift in my gym. my instructor sometimes has get togethers and stuff and he only invites a select number of people. he would have barbeques and celebrate birthday parties and what not and i would not get invited. sometimes i feel alienated and it kinda makes me not like the instructor and his clique (which of course includes some of my 'teammates') not a whole lot but to a small degree. and a lot of times a member of the clique would have get togethers and would only invite a select few also. oh yeah, my instructor is a young dude maybe 2 or 3 years older than me. i don't know this just rubs me the wrong way. and don't lie. you know you dislike those that snub you.

well anyways do you think this is an acceptable reason to leave the gym? the reason being that i don't like the exclusivity and cliques? i mean i joined bjj to get away from everything but obviously i can't get away from everything all the b.s. and stuff. the stuff i hated in high school i am seeing in my gym. in your eyes is this a good reason to leave?

This has to be a troll attempt... Seriously if you are considering quiting over this then you dont need to be doing Jiu Jitsu.

Get a life...

 

[DrKimura]

get better, dojo cliques love hanging out with the people they think are good

oh, and who cares? I recommend having friends outside the gym

Who's the girl in your avi?

 

[Phreaxer]

Our gym has a clique too but you know what I realized? It's easy to get into the clique if you're not trying. I also realized once I got in that they had pretty low standards. lol If I didn't get invited to things outside of the gym, I wouldn't quit, I would just keep training, after all, that's what I'm there for, right?

The ownage in this thread is epic btw. Had me laughing pretty hard, especially the 'dead like your game' part. lol

 

[contumacious]

Who's the girl in your avi?

random pic from one of the hottest unknown babe threads, wish I knew though lol

 

[Oshime2]

Why don't you spend the weekend trying out different coleslaw recipes...once you find a good one, bring that into the gym next week and casually ask if anyone wants some of your coleslaw.

You'll definately get invited to the next BBQ, cos they'll want more coleslaw.

If you don't like coleslaw or if it's not that kind of gym...maybe try potato salad.

This literally made me lol.

 

[Vitamin C]

man, i've been "biting my tongue" for quite some time, but i've had enough...

i'm part of this "clique" you speak of...i know who you are! i've been watching you post these stupid, trollish threads, and i'm ashamed that you air our "dirty laundry" to the sherdog world.

so, here's some more "dirty laundry" i'll add to the pile...

1. nobody likes to roll with you because you spaz out like a fish out of water. we've tried telling you that you can't possibly armbar your opponent when you're mounted...it just doesn't work like that.

2. wash your gi, and your mouth...everyday. your gi is brown and rancid like a dead fish, kind of like your game, but dead. your breath smells like rotten asparagus, try brushing teeth with crest.

3. stop talking during rolling sessions...just save it. your opponent doesn't care that your girlfriend cheats on you.

these are just a few reasons why you aren't allowed in our elite circular group of friends....fix that up and see where that gets ya.

 

[Black Gi]

well anyways do you think this is an acceptable reason to leave the gym? the reason being that i don't like the exclusivity and cliques? i mean i joined bjj to get away from everything but obviously i can't get away from everything all the b.s. and stuff. the stuff i hated in high school i am seeing in my gym. in your eyes is this a good reason to leave?

I am lucky I guess, I am out-going, serious but with an easy smile and a nice sense of humor. I'm a tall, athletic, male and find it easy to converse with either sex.

I generally get invited to these get togethers of which you speak, that is not the case for every one.

I think you may need to leave, if you feel uncomfortable there. You probably make other people feel uncomfortable too.

I think you may be well advised to work on yourself, the way you think, the things you do, the way you carry yourself.

Don

 

[fourfif**]

I am lucky I guess, I am out-going, serious but with an easy smile and a nice sense of humor. I'm a tall, athletic, male and find it easy to converse with either sex..

if they read this, your next invite would get lost in the mail. but you wouldn't care since you would probably stay home and **** yourself bc you are so awesome and hawt.


but seriously, making friends at the gym is nice and all but it should be completely incidental. you are there to train.

 

[mhuk]

Lol who cares

Unless it's so extreme that they refuse to converse with me in the gym I wouldn't care.

 

[greedysob]

man, i've been "biting my tongue" for quite some time, but i've had enough...

i'm part of this "clique" you speak of...i know who you are! i've been watching you post these stupid, trollish threads, and i'm ashamed that you air our "dirty laundry" to the sherdog world.

so, here's some more "dirty laundry" i'll add to the pile...

1. nobody likes to roll with you because you spaz out like a fish out of water. we've tried telling you that you can't possibly armbar your opponent when you're mounted...it just doesn't work like that.

2. wash your gi, and your mouth...everyday. your gi is brown and rancid like a dead fish, kind of like your game, but dead. your breath smells like rotten asparagus, try brushing teeth with crest.

3. stop talking during rolling sessions...just save it. your opponent doesn't care that your girlfriend cheats on you.

these are just a few reasons why you aren't allowed in our elite circular group of friends....fix that up and see where that gets ya.

Whoa!?! Is this for real? You guys might want to go work this shit out offline.

 

[Vitamin C]

silverD has posted threads judging his team mates for not competing, regarding jealousy in the 'dojo', that ridiculous fragmented dojo thread, which is pretty much just this again. If he is a real dude, he is very preoccupied with that other people think and do in his gym.
I'm honestly surprised every day I log in and see two more threads from silverD without him having been banned. The mods must think he is amusing?

 

[KGB313]

get better, dojo cliques love hanging out with the people they think are good

There is a lot of truth to this. Each of our locations has a group of guys that take their training very seriously. Regulars have a way of getting to know each other that you just don't get if you only show up for one class every 2 weeks. For the folks that travel to compete, team bonding just kind of happens naturally.

The other thing to consider is how long you've been there. A lot of our advanced belts don't warm up to people until they've been training for a year or so...people come & go too often to be friends with everybody.

Even then, there's the chance you're "that guy". Everybody knows what I'm talking about. "That guy" takes his training seriously, he's been there for a long time, but for some reason he just rubs people the wrong way.

 

[UTAMore]

The mods must think he is amusing?

I, for one, find this thread incredibly amusing.

 

[Black Gi]

you are awesome and hawt.

True words.

but seriously, making friends at the gym is nice and all but it should be completely incidental. you are there to train.

Gotta disagree there, I have trained at many Weights gyms, Boxing/Kick Boxing and Dojo's and the ones that kept me coming back were the ones were there was just a great friendly vibe about the place.

The ones that I ditched were the opposite.

 

[KarateFist]

i feel a rift in my gym. my instructor sometimes has get togethers and stuff and he only invites a select number of people. he would have barbeques and celebrate birthday parties and what not and i would not get invited. sometimes i feel alienated and it kinda makes me not like the instructor and his clique (which of course includes some of my 'teammates') not a whole lot but to a small degree. and a lot of times a member of the clique would have get togethers and would only invite a select few also. oh yeah, my instructor is a young dude maybe 2 or 3 years older than me. i don't know this just rubs me the wrong way. and don't lie. you know you dislike those that snub you.

well anyways do you think this is an acceptable reason to leave the gym? the reason being that i don't like the exclusivity and cliques? i mean i joined bjj to get away from everything but obviously i can't get away from everything all the b.s. and stuff. the stuff i hated in high school i am seeing in my gym. in your eyes is this a good reason to leave?

I've read enough of your threads to know that I wouldn't invite you either

 

[Title Fight Productions]

Practice this in your mirror at home over and over and once you have it down, spring it on the clique and your problems will be solved.......

"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".

 

[KGB313]

Practice this in your mirror at home over and over and once you have it down, spring it on the clique and your problems will be solved.......

"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".
"oh, you guy are having a BBQ? Awesome, i will bring the beer".

Assuming they drink, this is a great idea. If they don't drink because they take their training super seriously, or the group includes recovering alcoholics, not so much.

 

[Makhno]

Sounds to me like you have pretty cool teammates, SilverD, since one of them is just now calling you out, and two others on here are still keeping quite. You've had this coming for a while, and i think if you were one of my teammates, i probably would've put you on blast a long time ago.

If you want to be part of the "inner circle," put the time and effort in, and grow the fuck up. At least at my gym, the people who show up day in and day out, have a decent attitude and try to help out around the gym get the invites to special training sessions and the attention of the upper belts. It's not a clique, it's an otherwise diverse group of mat rats who are serious about our game.

 

[Title Fight Productions]

Assuming they drink, this is a great idea. If they don't drink because they take their training very seriously, or the group includes recovering alcoholics, not so much.

Right..... but this actually kills two birds with one stone, ya dig? Cause who really wants to BBQ with people who don't drink? I mean one or two guys out of the group, yeah no problem. But really, a whole "clique" of dudes who don't drink while BBQing?

That sh!t ain't right, bro.:icon_conf