Social You ever talk to your immediate family about death, especially with the kids? Or you don't go there?

[Takes Two To Tango]

I try to talk to everyone that close to me about death, although my young nieces not so much, I let their parents talk about it.

But I believe they do need the talk soon enough, because it's inevitable and also can happen anytime.

Do you guys talk about it with your family/friends?

 

[Flower2dPeople]

No one talks about death after the burial.

 

[Mike]

I went a step further and I just don't talk to them at all

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

Where's the poll?

 

[AZ103]

Yes, when it naturally comes up or would bd appropriate to do so. After 7 or 8 years old kids should be getting honest answers and conversations to complex life questions.

 

[Law Talkin’ Guy]

Unfortunately I had to talk to my children about death when my father passed away last summer. My son was 8 and my daughter was 5 at the time. Telling them that they had lost their grandpa and watching the instant reaction it evoked in them was arguably harder on me than when he actually passed away in front of my eyes the day earlier.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Unfortunately I had to talk to my children about death when my father passed away last summer. My son was 8 and my daughter was 5 at the time. Telling them that they had lost their grandpa and watching the instant reaction it evoked in them was arguably harder on me than when he actually passed away in front of my eyes the day earlier.

That's tough, very sorry about the passing of your father. It's never easy.

I can't imagine that scenario with your kids. Very moving I would say.

 

[SirRealKiller]

We have talked with our daughter about it. Her grandpa died when she was 9. She was a mature 9 years old so she understood that grandpa was sick and eventual if you don't get better you die. We told her that in grandpas situation he wasn't going to get better and he was in a lot of pain. So while we would miss him and wish he could be with us longer that it was better for him to not suffer if he wasn't going to get better. We are also Catholic so we explained about heaven and purgatory and that one day we might see him again and that he is better now as our teaching from church is that all of the bodily ills go away and in heaven you are your best self.

We have also had pets die too so she has some experience with it now at the age of 16.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

We have talked with our daughter about it. Her grandpa died when she was 9. She was a mature 9 years old so she understood that grandpa was sick and eventual if you don't get better you die. We told her that in grandpas situation he wasn't going to get better and he was in a lot of pain. So while we would miss him and wish he could be with us longer that it was better for him to not suffer if he wasn't going to get better. We are also Catholic so we explained about heaven and purgatory and that one day we might see him again and that he is better now as our teaching from church is that all of the bodily ills go away and in heaven you are your best self.

We have also had pets die too so she has some experience with it now at the age of 16.

Thanks for sharing your story.

 

[blaseblase]

We have talked with our daughter about it. Her grandpa died when she was 9. She was a mature 9 years old so she understood that grandpa was sick and eventual if you don't get better you die. We told her that in grandpas situation he wasn't going to get better and he was in a lot of pain. So while we would miss him and wish he could be with us longer that it was better for him to not suffer if he wasn't going to get better. We are also Catholic so we explained about heaven and purgatory and that one day we might see him again and that he is better now as our teaching from church is that all of the bodily ills go away and in heaven you are your best self.

We have also had pets die too so she has some experience with it now at the age of 16.

Have fun with her atheist phase.

 

[SirRealKiller]

Have fun with her atheist phase.

We have taught her our beliefs, we leave it up to her to decide on her own. I'm sure there will be times where she questions what she believes, that's normal.

 

[Protectandserve]

I recently had a talk with my son about death. He was asking my questions about my time in the Army, he wanted to know if I killed anyone during deployment. He’s 9 and possibly on the spectrum so socially awkward questions like this are kinda normal for him.

Tried to explain to him that I was a POG, and didn’t see any combat other than rockets getting shot at me. Then he asked if I’ve seen anyone die. Had to explain to him that I have seen lots and lots of people die at work with the PD.

I don’t think it really made sense to him but figured I owed it to him to be honest.

 

[TheTickG]

I try to talk to everyone that close to me about death, although my young nieces not so much, I let their parents talk about it.

But I believe they do need the talk soon enough, because it's inevitable and also can happen anytime.

Do you guys talk about it with your family/friends?

A little bit regarding backup plans.

 

[fingercuffs]

Kind of forced to with my mum when the brain surgeon told us her brain tumour was recurring, that they would remove it but it would start growing back immediately.

She and I had a bit of a twisted sense of humour so we made silly jokes about it to get through it. Like on the way back from a hospital consultation she sneezed and I said she needed to sneeze harder next time so she sneezed the tumour out all over the windscreen. She found it hilarious and we burst out laughing...my step-dad didn't quite know how to take it but she and I tried to crack jokes about it all the way through, I guess it was our emotional support. We obviously knew what the outcome would be and I was in pieces privately about it when I wasn't around her.

 

[Adamant]

Unfortunately I had to talk to my children about death when my father passed away last summer. My son was 8 and my daughter was 5 at the time. Telling them that they had lost their grandpa and watching the instant reaction it evoked in them was arguably harder on me than when he actually passed away in front of my eyes the day earlier.

If you had a do-over, would you still tell them the same way, find a different way, or wait a long while to bring it up?

 

[Sonny Qc]

My father once told me,
''Son, my job is to raise you until you reach 18yrs old,
with the life that I lived, don't count on me to be around much longer that this''

that was close to 20yrs ago,
bastard is 74 and still going strong.