Why Will Men Always Try to Hit on the Bartender?

I have some stories. As a former bouncer, and bar manager I never understood that either. The bartender has to clean up, so she'll be there all night you aren't taking her home unless it's the middle of the night. So why not go after one of the women who is drinking at the bar and can leave at any time. Second, they're usually not single but pretend to be. One of my good friends was engaged but wasn't allowed to tell customers, and she didn't drink. So she'd let guys buy her shots and put water in the shot glass and take it with them, then when I got there, I drank whatever liquor any guys had bought her up to that point. I have another good friend, she actually was single but I remember one year close to Christmas, she was bartending in a 49er jersey that one of her customers had bought her and there were like 7-8 dudes lined up sitting at the bar desperately trying to get her to date them, two even got in a fight over her. I worked with another one and for at least 6 months this guy would come in on every single one of her shifts spending a lot of money thinking he's increasingly getting closer to dating her......meanwhile she's been with my roomate/best friend for years and pretty much lives at our house but this poor guy thinks she's single and that he's got a shot. It's a dirty business.

They're good at lying too. We had a new one and after a month or two we made out after we closed the bar and she told me she was single for a few months at that point. We hooked up that night and in the morning her phone was dead and I didn't have an android charger so she asked if she could use my phone to have her baby daddy/roommate come pick her up. I said hell no and when I dropped her off at that apartment complex, that dude was standing on the lawn staring at me. Weeks later he found me on FB and messaged me talking shit. I said talk to her, she told me she was single. I never heard from him again and she got fired soon after that.
 
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Speak for yourself, I’ve clapped a bunch of waitresses and bartenders in oilfield towns. I also wasn’t a middle age dad when I did that though. Maybe it worked for them back in the day and they just kept at it.

I remember all the guys on our site ogling one chick that worked at Boston pizza, myself included. She had big titties, an absolute dump truck and was like a 9 on first appearances. Somehow I managed to do it and.. yeah very disappointed.

She kind of smelled, her apartment was disgusting and her car was just as bad. She was dirty as hell and it was a massive turnoff. Plus she got really possessive with me even though we weren’t dating and I literally flew home on days off.

You can put it on a pedestal and make a fool of yourself chasing it but remember, there’s always some dude that had it and didn’t want it anymore or some dude who is sick of her. Act like a gentlemen first, not a disgusting creep. If they want you, you’ll know. Most are just flirting to do their job.
 
because you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. you gotta shoot your shot. i remember being in county jail over the weekend. none of us prisoners had showered or brushed our teeth and have been living in the same cell with 3 other dudes for 3 days straight. an attractive female prison guard comes by to start chaining us together for court and every single guy tried to hit on her.

we're literally prisoners, she's a prison guard we all smell like shit because we've had zero personal hygiene for 3 days but everyone was still trying.
 
Fedorgasm said:
Men don't always recognize how old and unattractive they've become.

So inside if you feel the same at 40 that you did at 25, I could see how you might just use the same moves that used to work for you, and then be confused at why the sandwich girl doesn't seem interested.
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I doubt moves used on the sandwich deli girl ever worked. Ever.
 
I mean why not. And I wouldn't view it as an ideal job for a relationship partner, similar to hairdresser, but who the hell is talking about marrying them.
 
Because it's the bartenders job to be cordial and they can't escape. Men know this so they feel secure to spit their lame shit with no repercussions.
 
Gabe said:
There were two guys at the family Mexican restaurant earlier hitting on the female bartender that was half their age. As a straight man it baffles me because there is just no statistical chance that they will get the desired result. I’ve never seen a guy hook up with a random bartender at any bar or club. Have you? It’s obviously not just talking because he could just do that with his friend. Why are men, especially older men, obsessed with this?
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As a straight man it baffles you that men hit on women? I'm confused with this statement.

Bartender, women at the grocery store, the gym , women at work, friends of friends. Etc etc. they are all women no matter where you happen to meet them. and you ain't gonna fuck them if you don't try . I think you need to shoot the ball more often
 
Because they wouldn't be able to socialize with women if it weren't for bartenders like that
 
lol at trying to chase some dumb slut

bitch I'm the prize you chase me

But no seriously, if they're interested and you aren't shooting your shot, they'll shoot theirs or make it obvious for you.
 
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There's booze, the bartender is easy to talk to usually so no pressure ...... also good chance only woman alone there. It's not rocket science man.


Also there's a difference between hitting in and casual flirting
 
I hooked up with bartenders in my 20s and 30s but they were in my age group. I think sometimes men confuse a barmaid's service and attention as her being interested in them in another way.
 
Gabe said:
There were two guys at the family Mexican restaurant earlier hitting on the female bartender that was half their age. As a straight man it baffles me because there is just no statistical chance that they will get the desired result. I’ve never seen a guy hook up with a random bartender at any bar or club. Have you? It’s obviously not just talking because he could just do that with his friend. Why are men, especially older men, obsessed with this?
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What are you talking about people hookup with barmaids all the time.
 
TeTe said:
When in strip clubs you always hit in the waitresses and bartenders. They're usually hot but ignored by most of the patrons.
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God do I miss being young and fun

You'd end up with the shotgirl naked at your table and her number after some heavy drinkin pretty easy.
 
Gabe said:
There were two guys at the family Mexican restaurant earlier hitting on the female bartender that was half their age. As a straight man it baffles me because there is just no statistical chance that they will get the desired result. I’ve never seen a guy hook up with a random bartender at any bar or club. Have you? It’s obviously not just talking because he could just do that with his friend. Why are men, especially older men, obsessed with this?
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One of my friends would want to go to certain bars because "The bartenders are hot there".

He's a fuckin idiot.
 
I had a friend whos daughter could make some very nice tips flirting with the guys hitting on her at the restaurant.
 
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