What is your biggest regret in your life thus far?

[biscuitsbrah]

Not wrestling in high school, and not banging all those girls I turned down when I was younger.

Also not being more helpful to my drug addicted friend who killed himself. I tried, but I guess I could have done more. It was his family who was in denial though so I guess I really couldn’t have done anything

 

[RichardHarrow]

well, we all have shortcomings and all relationships have problems. I notice language and culture barriers cause a lot of issues in a friendship. every single culture has it's own bizarre quirks which you have to experience to be aware of at all, language itself is a bitch, it's exhausting dealing with people who speak english on the level of a 3 year old. Both issues are tough to cope with. I hate wasting my breath i hate saying something and not knowing if it's understood or is this motherfucker just nodding his head.

It’s intriguing to read your comment because the language barrier isn’t an issue for me at all. Everyone’s different.

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

Don’t have many big ones. Many many small ones though. Too many. Guess it comes with being brave

I would say giving up my high-paying, globe-trotting job for someone. Totally on me
though, which was the case for most of my mistakes and regrets, as everyone, including my inner monologue, was screaming at me not to do it. What a fool will do for love, huh? Or to be loved. Live and learn

Regret is a normal feeling in life. It helps us in the decision making process going forward. The word itself just carries a negative connotation. Though I see it as a normal and natural part of life

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Not wrestling in high school, and not banging all those girls I turned down when I was younger.

Also not being more helpful to my drug addicted friend who killed himself. I tried, but I guess I could have done more. It was his family who was in denial though so I guess I really couldn’t have done anything

Do you feel some guilt about your friend?

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Don’t have many big ones. Many many small ones though. Too many. Guess it comes with being brave

I would say giving up my high-paying, globe-trotting job for someone. Totally on me
though, which was the case for most of my mistakes and regrets, as everyone, including my inner monologue, was screaming at me not to do it. What a fool will do for love, huh? Or to be loved. Live and learn

Regret is a normal feeling in life. It helps us in the decision making process going forward. The word itself just carries a negative connotation. Though I see it as a normal and natural part of life

Well said my friend, it's just like grief it's a normal reaction to what life hits us.

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

Well said my friend, it's just like grief it's a normal reaction to what life hits us.

Exactly. Like mentioned in another one of your great threads, it’s about perception and perspective. Does your regret bind you to inactivity and depression? That’s bad. Does your regret help you make better decisions now more than the mere acknowledgment of being wrong in the past does? Thats good.

 

[Takes Two To Tango]

Exactly. Like mentioned in another one of your great threads, it’s about perception and perspective. Does your regret bind you to inactivity and depression? That’s bad. Does your regret help you make better decisions now more than the mere acknowledgment of being wrong in the past does? Thats good.

That is true, it all comes down to perspective and how you process those regrets.

 

[Ponchik]

Countless times where I let bad people take advantage of my kindness and faith in humanity..

 

[Cole train]

Drug addiction/criminality
Chasing pro mma
Should have gone different path in army, could have deployed
Not going to college sooner

Nothing too big really, such is life in the zone

 

[Other]

Not going by my middle name at a younger age. My middle name is my dads name, we also have the same birthday, and I wish I had started going by it when I was young as a way to honor him.

And also getting married. No round two there for me, I'm not meant for marriage.

 

[biscuitsbrah]

Do you feel some guilt about your friend?

A little but not a lot. I did a lot to try to convince him and his parents to intervene and take him to rehab.
Probably about 3 separate times. He went from recreational pills, to coke everyday, to meth everyday.

After I found out he was doing a gram or more of meth everyday is when I tried my hardest to convince the mom and dad to put him in rehab. They didn’t want to because he was doing a masters program as he already graduated a few years earlier with a double major despite being a drug addict.
They also didn’t want him to resent them for killing his dreams for rehab. Me and his brother tried to tell the parents we don’t give a fuck but they wouldn’t listen.

Eventually he got so bad mentally that he actually went to jail for a little while. The judge went light on him and sent him to a dual diagnosis rehab that treats both mental illness and drug addiction.

He was doing great but the anti-psychotics he was on made him fat. He hated being fat and he was a very intelligent individual, so he convinced the psychiatrist to take him off medication somehow. He became extremely paranoid and then one day jumped off a building.

Haha. That was about 4 years ago. February 2020. Right before the pandemic.
But yeah, if I knew how this would all turn out, I would have tried much harder or from a different approach before he gave himself a permanent mental illness. It was just a slow train wreck that I could see coming from a mile away due to having tons of friends who were addicts, and being a heavy recreational drug user in high school

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

Not going by my middle name at a younger age. My middle name is my dads name, we also have the same birthday, and I wish I had started going by it when I was young as a way to honor him.

And also getting married. No round two there for me, I'm not meant for marriage.

What made you feel you are not meant for marriage? Just the experience itself, or some real soul-searching brought you to that?

 

[Sonny Qc]

Letting go a good girl to have fun.

 

[Wrath of Foamy]

- Not buckling down at school.
- Not learning to drive when I was sixteen.
- Not travelling on my own when I was younger.
- Porn.

 

[StonedLemur]

I don't really have regrets, I think it's not worth pondering or being caught up in thinking about it. Because what's done is done and you can't change the past.

You are who you are for it.

But if I was forced to pick, I would have loved to excel academically better. It's just too bad my social phobia hindered me from reaching my full potential.

I regret beating the fuck out of my older brother years ago.....nah, fuck him.

 

[Other]

What made you feel you are not meant for marriage? Just the experience itself, or some real soul-searching brought you to that?

A mix of both.

I’m very selfish with my time and prefer to be alone quite often. Most women, not all, require more attention than I’m capable of giving. And I recognize that unless by some miracle I’m able to find a woman that has that same requirement, that it’s unfair for me to say to someone, “hey want to spend the rest of your life with someone that’s going to treat you like a roommate 50% of the time?”
I’m also not naive to the notion that this behavior definitely contributed to my ex-wife cheating on me.
So checking out of relationships altogether is a more emotionally secure venture.
And honestly it’s freeing.
Are there times I get lonely? Absolutely
However, the loneliest moments in my life were when I was surrounded by people that shared my name and DNA. So being a misanthropic loner with dogs is better for everyone involved, in my view.

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

A mix of both.

I’m very selfish with my time and prefer to be alone quite often. Most women, not all, require more attention than I’m capable of giving. And I recognize that unless by some miracle I’m able to find a woman that has that same requirement, that it’s unfair for me to say to someone, “hey want to spend the rest of your life with someone that’s going to treat you like a roommate 50% of the time?”
I’m also not naive to the notion that this behavior definitely contributed to my ex-wife cheating on me.
So checking out of relationships altogether is a more emotionally secure venture.
And honestly it’s freeing.
Are there times I get lonely? Absolutely
However, the loneliest moments in my life were when I was surrounded by people that shared my name and DNA. So being a misanthropic loner with dogs is better for everyone involved, in my view.

Very wise and unselfish, in a way, of you.

 

[kjg1672]

Shitty career choices.

 

[Travis Alexander]

Not a single regret….with the single exception of not buying BTC when it was at 38$ a coin like my boy Jeff told me to do at the time.

 

[chardog]

should have wifed up my wife sooner instead of fooling around with other women. I know it may sound dumb, but I nearly lost the opportunity, introduced unnecessary baggage that ended up hurting us down the line, went to jail, just bad shit happened during my youth that could have been totally avoided.