Social Socialising.

Them being lovely helped. I used to get wound up before going to client meetings a lot but I guess in a social environment I'm just out of practice. Weird, I know. I also didn't want to make husband look bad which was extra unwarranted pressure.

But phew. Silly, I know.
Im a social butterfly so I think my wife would understand your point of view lol.
Being around good people really puts you at ease though, I completely understand that.

Sounds like you had a great time though, so all is well ;)
 
Im a social butterfly so I think my wife would understand your point of view lol.
Being around good people really puts you at ease though, I completely understand that.

Sounds like you had a great time though, so all is well ;)
I used to be, I've moved from country to country state to state and NorCal to SoCal so I've been through the mill a bit leaving friends behind so I was a bit...especially with the martial arts bloke and his wife.
 
I used to be, I've moved from country to country state to state and NorCal to SoCal so I've been through the mill a bit leaving friends behind so I was a bit...especially with the martial arts bloke and his wife.
Yeah but you've been training here for years to handle any situation ;)
 
I went out today for late lunch to a fish restaurant with husband, his martial arts trainer and his wife.

Bit of a dear diary one this, I was so nervous. I know no one here so haven't been in a social situation in probably 16 months.

I will be fine going out with them again but I was so nervous. I never thought I had to be "in practice" but it had been so long and they were lovely. I wasn't in a panic just a fear of unknown.

When we got chatting it was lovely but just so...worried.
So, what is it exactly that makes you nervous?
Change from the well known daily routine?
 
I hope I can state that you don't have necessarily a problem. You are just highly autistic. I would suggest Adderall.

Best of luck,

SherDoc.
 
So, what is it exactly that makes you nervous?
Change from the well known daily routine?
I just apart from transactionally hadn't seen anyone in well over a year so out of practice socially and considering husband's with the guy 3 days a week didn't want them to dislike me for his sake. While I was working it's always been either customer facing or phone facing so it isn't a social anxiety aspect. As I sai it all went nicely, wasn't awkward and I really enjoyed their company, I worked myself up into a state for no reason.
 
I lost a lot of friends during Covid because we all scattered and did different things save a few of us. I moved 6 hours away from my nearest friends a year ago hence not going out with anyone and getting nervous.
How much time do you spend daily on your phone/social media. So may people spend too much time on their phone/social media and it can add to anxiety and nervousness when being around others.
 
I just apart from transactionally hadn't seen anyone in well over a year so out of practice socially and considering husband's with the guy 3 days a week didn't want them to dislike me for his sake. While I was working it's always been either customer facing or phone facing so it isn't a social anxiety aspect. As I sai it all went nicely, wasn't awkward and I really enjoyed their company, I worked myself up into a state for no reason.
Just play this before you leave the house next time you are going out to socialize.

 
I went out today for late lunch to a fish restaurant with husband, his martial arts trainer and his wife.

Bit of a dear diary one this, I was so nervous. I know no one here so haven't been in a social situation in probably 16 months.

I will be fine going out with them again but I was so nervous. I never thought I had to be "in practice" but it had been so long and they were lovely. I wasn't in a panic just a fear of unknown.

When we got chatting it was lovely but just so...worried.

I'm in sales and after the COVID lockdown I found it hard to have in person meetings, at least for the first few weeks. You do have to practice socialising for sure, I'm sure a lot were a bit socially retarded after COVID
 
How much time do you spend daily on your phone/social media. So may people spend too much time on their phone/social media and it can add to anxiety and nervousness when being around others.
I charge my phone every few days or so so not much. I talk to my friends and family in the UK on Facebook every now and again since I'm not interested in group chats. So not much at all there either.
 
It's socializing, not socialising. You're a 'Murican now.
 
I just apart from transactionally hadn't seen anyone in well over a year so out of practice socially and considering husband's with the guy 3 days a week didn't want them to dislike me for his sake. While I was working it's always been either customer facing or phone facing so it isn't a social anxiety aspect. As I sai it all went nicely, wasn't awkward and I really enjoyed their company, I worked myself up into a state for no reason.
This sounds lovely, I'm glad you had a good time with friends

Remember, you can always practice socializing with dolls. They make the best of friends if you are too afraid to go out
 
This sounds lovely, I'm glad you had a good time with friends

Remember, you can always practice socializing with dolls. They make the best of friends if you are too afraid to go out
How many times have you been banned in 2024?
 
WTF 16 months without social interactions?

I mean.. socializing is one of the most important things at life and probably the most enjoyable. What the actual fuck.
 
Sorry.. didn't wanted to be judgmental in my last post but seriously.. WTF.

Human connections are one of the most beautiful things in life. Being with old friends, family or just 2 minutes social interactions with the people that charge you on the store.

I don't find much meaning in my job but being there with the people I work with everyday is the best part of my day.

Guess I'm an extrovert and I love joking around. I wasn't always like that tho.
 
I charge my phone every few days or so so not much. I talk to my friends and family in the UK on Facebook every now and again since I'm not interested in group chats. So not much at all there either.
Well that is good that you do not have your head buried in your phone. It is turning people into zombies. You just need to get out there and make friends in the world.
 
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