Social Socialising.

[fingercuffs]

I went out today for late lunch to a fish restaurant with husband, his martial arts trainer and his wife.

Bit of a dear diary one this, I was so nervous. I know no one here so haven't been in a social situation in probably 16 months.

I will be fine going out with them again but I was so nervous. I never thought I had to be "in practice" but it had been so long and they were lovely. I wasn't in a panic just a fear of unknown.

When we got chatting it was lovely but just so...worried.

 

[Meatspin]

Post plague it’s definitely a thing. The fact you are self aware to be concerned means it’s not an issue though. Glad you got out there.

 

[yamahacrasher]

I get this feeling more frequently the older I get. I know it will be ok, but the anxiety hits regardless. I have yet to have a bad experience when feeling this way, yet every god damn time it gets me.

 

[-Magua-]

I was like that during & post covid.
I have idiopathic social anxiety, that appears out of nowhere. It’s worse if I’m pre occupied/stressed with something.
But even if doing well enough in general, still can hit, but much less.

At times it has hit bad & I’ll have to down some wine or a couple vodka tonics, but lately not so much.

I’m sure it will rear its head again though.

 

[Flower2dPeople]

I went out today for late lunch to a fish restaurant with husband, his martial arts trainer and his wife.

Bit of a dear diary one this, I was so nervous. I know no one here so haven't been in a social situation in probably 16 months.

I will be fine going out with them again but I was so nervous. I never thought I had to be "in practice" but it had been so long and they were lovely. I wasn't in a panic just a fear of unknown.

When we got chatting it was lovely but just so...worried.

You're an American now. Socializing.

 

[Hog-train]

It's normal post Covid. Humans beings are very adaptable. Just keep socializing and it'll be no biggie.

 

[fingercuffs]

I lost a lot of friends during Covid because we all scattered and did different things save a few of us. I moved 6 hours away from my nearest friends a year ago hence not going out with anyone and getting nervous.

 

[Tone C]

how to get rid of the extreme heartrate before a fight?

Whether it be a amateur boxing match or a street fight, I just cant help but get an extreme heartrate before a fight, even when watching one occur, I just cant help it, on top of that my body feels super weak and I get very tired. Getting picked on, laughed at, even though I could beat the guy...

forums.sherdog.com

 

[Kowboy On Sherdog]

 

[toasty]

I went out today for late lunch to a fish restaurant with husband, his martial arts trainer and his wife.

Bit of a dear diary one this, I was so nervous. I know no one here so haven't been in a social situation in probably 16 months.

I will be fine going out with them again but I was so nervous. I never thought I had to be "in practice" but it had been so long and they were lovely. I wasn't in a panic just a fear of unknown.

When we got chatting it was lovely but just so...worried.

We've all felt like this

and


at some point but you have to simply dread it but do it and you will eventually feel comfortable enough with the new people in your life that the dread will melt away.

oh and read lots of old emo silver surfer comics to prepare yourself to talk about golden age silver surfer & Fantastic Four comics with whomever you socialize with...people love when I explain them to them for hours on end especially the ones that know nothing about comics before we met for the first time.

 

[TeTe]

I've stayed in practice over the past few years.... Flirting with women lol. At Work, gym, etc.

Just don't tell my wife.

 

[payton]

Dont beat up yourself over it. You got out there and it seems like you did well. I know my introverted ass would never do such a thing lol.

 

[DaleBoca]

Not everyone can be a social butterfly or as charming as myself. But don’t worry about it, toots, meeting new people at times can be tricky. You just have to find common ground where you begin with small talk.

 

[fingercuffs]

Not everyone can be a social butterfly or as charming as myself. But don’t worry about it, toots, meeting new people at times can be tricky. You just have to find common ground where you begin with small talk.

Well we have me as a used to be martial arts fan and him training with husband in some unpronounceable Japanese karate type stuff but thankfully we didn't talk about that or I would have been well out of my depth. They're nice people and I hope to have them over at some point. It got me over my hurdle of being nervous when I really didn't need to be...it had just been a long time.

 

[supermurph]

You're not alone. Always talk myself out of meeting new people, saying it's gonna suck, I'm gonna piss them off with something I say.....the list goes on and on. But then I meet them, and things usually go well.

I've always had a bit of social anxiety meeting new people for whatever reason. Only place where I don't feel this at all is at work since I've been there awhile, and they stick a lot of new people with me so I've gotten used to it.

Glad everything went well for you, and they were really cool.

 

[StonedLemur]

I went out today for late lunch to a fish restaurant with husband, his martial arts trainer and his wife.

Bit of a dear diary one this, I was so nervous. I know no one here so haven't been in a social situation in probably 16 months.

I will be fine going out with them again but I was so nervous. I never thought I had to be "in practice" but it had been so long and they were lovely. I wasn't in a panic just a fear of unknown.

When we got chatting it was lovely but just so...worried.

Overall you seem like a good egg ma'am, glad you enjoyed your day.

 

[AldoStillGoat]

I lost a lot of friends during Covid because we all scattered and did different things save a few of us. I moved 6 hours away from my nearest friends a year ago hence not going out with anyone and getting nervous.

You’ll be alright

 

[AldoStillGoat]

I've stayed in practice over the past few years.... Flirting with women lol. At Work, gym, etc.

Just don't tell my wife.

 

[fingercuffs]

You’ll be alright

I already am, it was just a big change from not hanging out with anyone other than husband for well over a year

 

[fingercuffs]

Overall you seem like a good egg ma'am, glad you enjoyed your day.

Them being lovely helped. I used to get wound up before going to client meetings a lot but I guess in a social environment I'm just out of practice. Weird, I know. I also didn't want to make husband look bad which was extra unwarranted pressure.

But phew. Silly, I know.