I'm not attracted to "x" type person

[808Darce]

As I've gotten older I have found that looks start to not matter as much. Yes, you still want the women your with to look nice and respect herself, but, you don't sweat the small stuff like you did when your a teen and into you early 20's.

I've been married for sometime to a very attractive Filipina, I have 3 kids and can say that I truly enjoy and cherish my wife. I'm lucky I guess or just found someone who shares the same values I do and just happened to be the same race.

I can say that I would of never ever of dated a white women nor would I ever now of any shape, any hair or any social status. They do "0" zero for me mentally and physically. In all honesty the annoy the crap out of me. That is my one X factor.

 

[Linkuei]

if someone were your "soulmate", i doubt very much their physical characteristics would be that important.

I was actually going to post that.

 

[Reyesnuthugr]

^^Unless they were the 'telling' sort of physical characteristics, such as the bitch stare

 

[The_Renaissance]

There's plenty of 'types' I wouldn't date, it's not ridiculous at all. Some people just repulse you, either appearance or personality.

 

[PhilCam]

You're really attached to that Sandusky AV, aren't you?

I'm waiting for murder to assign the next one.

 

[xfightcityx]

Soulmate or not I'd never go out with someone who was super morbidly obese and as a result couldnt get out of bed.f
Example

Spoiler

 

[BoogerDawson]

As I've gotten older I have found that looks start to not matter as much. Yes, you still want the women your with to look nice and respect herself, but, you don't sweat the small stuff like you did when your a teen and into you early 20's.

I've been married for sometime to a very attractive Filipina, I have 3 kids and can say that I truly enjoy and cherish my wife. I'm lucky I guess or just found someone who shares the same values I do and just happened to be the same race.

I can say that I would of never ever of dated a white women nor would I ever now of any shape, any hair or any social status. They do "0" zero for me mentally and physically. In all honesty the annoy the crap out of me. That is my one X factor.

Can she make good lumpia and pancit, brah?

 

[Bolshevik***]

Soulmate or not I'd never go out with someone who was super morbidly obese and as a result couldnt get out of bed.f
Example

Spoiler

i can't help but think that conditions like that are signs of a more serious problem which would most likely be the non-starter.

 

[Bolshevik***]

Would be perfect for a girl on the side but you would have to leave her at home when meeting friends and stuff.

I have some stupid friends and it physically hurts when they say some of the retarded shit they say.

Now apply that same thinking to your children.....

you'd be worried that you're children would be stupid because of their mom? i know a lot of people who have parents that aren't intelligent, but the children are extremely intelligent and vice versa.

 

[goleta83**]

Woman*

booooooooooooo

 

[devante]

looks can keep you from your soulmate, certain people would never date a certain type( weight-height-build-phys condition-etc) and as a result would never a)give that person a chance at all or b) give them a fair chance due to the prior bias.

i remember they had this show where people would talk to others in the dark, so many people swore they felt something, it was a soulmate; when the lights came on, alot of people passed on the very same person they couldn't live w/out two min ago.

 

[norcal313]

looks can keep you from your soulmate, certain people would never date a certain type( weight-height-build-phys condition-etc) and as a result would never a)give that person a chance at all or b) give them a fair chance due to the prior bias.

i remember they had this show where people would talk to others in the dark, so many people swore they felt something, it was a soulmate; when the lights came on, alot of people passed on the very same person they couldn't live w/out two min ago.

Uh, do you see a problem with meeting someone for a few minutes and not being able to live without them in such a short period of time?

 

[Leon Phelps]

I agree with your friend.

 

[HIMBOB]

you'd be worried that you're children would be stupid because of their mom? i know a lot of people who have parents that aren't intelligent, but the children are extremely intelligent and vice versa.

Nothing is a given of course, But Intelligence is a mix of Nuture and nature.

So being nutured by an idiot and spawned by an idiot is not the best start in life.

 

[Nebraska]

OP's friend here.

I'm thinking of the girls that repulse me, and all of them do so because of personality flaws, not physical attributes that I don't like. Personally, I'm not turned on by fat chicks, as many others on the thread have offered, but I wouldn't ever categorically refuse to date an overweight girl for the sole virtue of her being fat. On the other hand, 'fat chicks' is a pretty shitty example because unlike with race, national origin, height, etc an individual has some degree of control over their weight (I'm aware there are rare exceptions).

In my experience, if I like a girl, spend time with her and learn to love her, she becomes beautiful to me even if others don't see it (yeah yeah I'm a f4ggot get over it). So let's try again with another example. Let's say girls of Irish origin do not appeal to me sexually, for reasons that are just as valid as any other bias. Knowing what I know about how my feelings for a woman develop, does it make sense to categorically reject the possibility of a romance with any Irish girl because my preconception is "Irish girls aren't attractive?" That seems unnecessarily narrow to me, and stubbornly shuts off an entire group of potentially great women I could get to know, because I have a (probably vague and arbitrary) bias towards them.

And maybe that's the difference, maybe some of us find our SO more attractive the better we know them, and others do not. Certainly I agree with OP that some sexual attraction is necessary for a relationship to last, but I don't think that means it has to be initial sexual attraction.

But yeah whether or not there are 'soulmates' is another debate entirely, and I don't think one that is necessary for this one to be settled.

 

[PhilCam]

OP's friend here.

I'm thinking of the girls that repulse me, and all of them do so because of personality flaws, not physical attributes that I don't like. Personally, I'm not turned on by fat chicks, as many others on the thread have offered, but I wouldn't ever categorically refuse to date an overweight girl for the sole virtue of her being fat. On the other hand, 'fat chicks' is a pretty shitty example because unlike with race, national origin, height, etc an individual has some degree of control over their weight (I'm aware there are rare exceptions).

In my experience, if I like a girl, spend time with her and learn to love her, she becomes beautiful to me even if others don't see it (yeah yeah I'm a f4ggot get over it). So let's try again with another example. Let's say girls of Irish origin do not appeal to me sexually, for reasons that are just as valid 1as any other bias. Knowing what I know about how my feelings for a woman develop, does it make sense to categorically reject the possibility of a romance with any Irish girl because my preconception is "Irish girls aren't attractive?" That seems unnecessarily narrow to me, and stubbornly shuts off an entire group of potentially great women I could get to know, because I have a (probably vague and arbitrary) bias towards them.

And maybe that's the difference, maybe some of us find our SO more attractive the better we know them, and others do not. Certainly I agree with OP that some sexual attraction is necessary for a relationship to last, but I don't think that means it has to be initial sexual attraction.

But yeah whether or not there are 'soulmates' is another debate entirely, and I don't think one that is necessary for this one to be settled.

1st bold = Most people would.

2nd bold = I'm not talking about some biggotted view where I don't like a race or nationality. I'm saying someone's particular looks don't appeal to me. If you're not attracted to someone physically because of something they can't control (or in the case of being fat, they won't control), then I can't see "falling in love" with them.

 

[Nebraska]

^so let's make it redheads.

 

[thebluerider]

I can say that I would of never ever of dated a white women nor would I ever now of any shape, any hair or any social status. They do "0" zero for me mentally and physically. In all honesty the annoy the crap out of me. That is my one X factor.

too bad, white chicks are just dying to date filipinos.

 

[BEER]

Probably already said, but your friend is a twat for believing in that "soul mate" bullshit.

 

[thebluerider]

you sound lonely