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I lost my wife yesterday.

@sweetviolenturg is probably the nicest person I've ever met on these forums. He just posts through all the edge lord bullshit with calm. I've read so much about your wife/life on here. When I first saw the thread title, I thought it was some joke or something. Like you were gonna say you lost her in the mall or she figuratively died from the twist of a movie or some inane innocuous crap. This was truly shocking. Sorry for your loss, and stay with us man. I need someone to continue to keep my ego in check around here.
 
Shocked beyond words. Deepest possible condolence to you. Don’t you dare do anything to yourself in this hard time, either on purpose or without thinking, that would make her sad to see if she were here. You have to honor her memory now. If you need help please reach out, there are a lot of people who care about you, & whose thoughts are with you, & who are here for you in this hardest of times.
 
sweetviolenturg said:
She's gone. She passed away in her sleep for no apparent reason in the wee hours of the morning & I'm in total shock. I'm completely & utterly devastated. And I hurt so bad that it's even painful to breathe. Fuck, I don't even want to draw my next breath without her.

I'm posting here as a means to vent & to reach out because I'm totally alone here in Arizona. I've reached out to family, of course, but I still haven't notified her friends via phone or Facebook yet because I just can't face crying anymore. But I still need to distract myself from the emptiness & silence of this house. So, I've got the television on loud & I'm composing this as my heart lies shattered in my chest.

God, I loved her so much, guys. I mean, I think it was pretty obvious by how much I mentioned her & posted about her here. But you'd have to multiply that many times over to grasp how much I really loved her. And now, she's gone.

I won't know what happened to her until sometime Monday. Right now, I haven't got a clue. She was so young & so fit other than a couple of lingering issues from her tough battle with COVID last summer. She still experienced bouts of fatigue & she occasionally got a rattle in her lungs that she never dealt with before COVID. But other than that her doctor said she was in excellent health. None of this makes sense.

As I sit here alone all I can think of is how much I wish I had held her & told her I loved her even more often than I did. So, please, everyone. Take advantage of every moment that you can with your loved ones & be sure that you let them know how much you love them because time can be so damned short.

Rest in peace, my beloved wife, Jana. You were my life, baby & I don't want to go on without you.

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Oh man such terrible news.
So sorry for your loss
 
Omegaboy13 said:
@sweetviolenturg is probably the nicest person I've ever met on these forums. He just posts through all the edge lord bullshit with calm. I've read so much about your wife/life on here. When I first saw the thread title, I thought it was some joke or something. Like you were gonna say you lost her in the mall or she figuratively died from the twist of a movie or some inane innocuous crap. This was truly shocking. Sorry for your loss, and stay with us man. I need someone to continue to keep my ego in check around here.
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You hate to hear about anyone losing a loved one, but as you said @sweetviolenturg has been a pillar of our community here for as long as I can remember.

It truly hurts to see bad things happen to good people. I hope you have some people you can reach out to irl in addition to us. Please don't try to bunker up and deal with the grief alone.
 
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Mike said:
You hate to here about anyone losing a loved one, but as you said @sweetviolenturg has been a pillar of our community here for as long as I can remember.

It truly hurts to see bad things happen to good people. I hope you have some people you can reach out to irl in addition to us. Please don't try to bunker up and deal with the grief alone.
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I saw the original post almost right away and just haven't had anything to say other than being mostly dumbstruck.

One of the things that came to mind as a possibility was close to what you just said. There isn't anyone around here I would want to experience this...but if someone told me to name someone I would specifically not want to have to experience this particular tragedy, one of the very first names that comes to mind is @sweetviolenturg.
 
Wow, that is terrible. I’m so sorry and can’t imagine what you must be going through. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
 
BisexualMMA said:
I saw the original post almost right away and just haven't had anything to say other than being mostly dumbstruck.

One of the things that came to mind as a possibility was close to what you just said. There isn't anyone around here I would want to experience this...but if someone told me to name someone I would specifically not want to have to experience this particular tragedy, one of the very first names that comes to mind is @sweetviolenturg.
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It felt like a punch to the gut. I always enjoyed hearing him post about his life. Was good to hear about things going well for such a genuine and kind-hearted person. Sort of inspiring in a way. Makes you think you might be able to find happiness like that for yourself some day.

I'm really at a loss right now. This is the saddest news I've heard here since lilomma passed. It's good to see the community coming together to support our friend in such a rough time though.
 
@sweetviolenturg you've been a fighter all your life. But this is the toughest opponent you'll ever face. And losing is not an option. You have to win. You have to beat the grief and pain, and make it out whole on the other side. Not for us. Not for your friends and family. Not even for yourself.

For Jana.

She'd want you to carry on and, even though it seems impossible right now, eventually find some measure of peace. So fight like you've never fought before, brother. Survive. No matter what. Each day you get out of bed is a victory in honour of the woman you loved, and who loved you back in equal measure.

We are in your corner. Jana will always be in your heart.
 
Sorry for your loss brother...my deepest condolences to you and her family.

Live, love and laugh with those we love for as long as we can is a deep lesson we should all take from moments like this. Cherish loved ones and kick all the small bullshit to the side.

Rest in peace Jana...gone but not forgotten
 
Sorry to hear. :(
Im not sure what else to say, but i hope you can find comradery and good people to be around.
 
Lord have mercy... I'm shocked, legit shocked.

You always wrote about how much you two meant to each other and you always made these pages a bit brighter with every post. I'm so, so, sorry for your loss...

You are in my prayers and never forget that you have us Sherbros.
 
I don't think we ever interacted before but I've read many of your posts and liked the type of knowledge and experience you shared. It was very apparent I think to anyone who recognizes your posts that you love her very much. My condolences man I wish you the best with the future.
 
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