I lost my wife yesterday.

It's weird how women seem to die like this more than men


I know if 5 women in the last year who just suddenly die

I used to think these were just masked suicides
 
Damn RIP man
I can't imagine this shit, sorry to hear man.
 
FyrFytr998 said:
John knows these feels......humans don't deserve pets sometimes. We take for granted just how much a part of us they become.
johnwick.jpg
Click to expand...

Before a year and a half ago, the last time I owned a dog was 20 years prior, and even then it was my parents dog while I was still living with them. I owned cats when I moved out and lost my last one in 2013. It was hard.

Fast forward to September 2019 and I got a dog again. A female Akita. Then in May 2020 I picked up a male Akita.

I had forgotten just how much dogs truly are man's best friend. My dogs are not my kids, but they are my family and I love them dearly. I didn't know I could care so much for dogs.

My male is my best bud. He whines when he hears my voice in the morning and can't wait to see me. It really is a special connection.
20210323_190508.jpg

I know @sweetviolenturg said he is not a dog person, and I wouldn't encourage anyone to get a dog if they weren't, but sometimes you might be surprised.

Also... just saying... Akitas are often used as therapy dogs and are often called "catlike". They bond so strongly with one human. Just read the story of Hachiko, the Akita who went to meet its owner at the train station every day to walk him home, and then when the owner tragically passed at work the Akita still went to the train station every day for the rest of his 10 years of life remaining waiting to greet its master who would never return. He eventually died near the train station.

That kind of bond is not only therapeutic but legendary. Of course, Akitas do come with a warning label... they adore their master but are distrustful of other humans and tend to be dominant and dog aggressive towards other dogs.
 
sweetviolenturg said:
I wish I could properly express how much all these messages have helped me over the past couple of days. I don't know if I'd have gotten through the weekend with my sanity intact if I didn't have this thread to focus on & to reply to. It's heartwarming to know that even those that I've had my little differences with here & there have thought well enough of me to reach out & offer their condolences. You've all been great & it's something that I'll never forget.
Click to expand...

Mayberry was here for me during my divorce 9 years ago. Hardest thing I ever experienced. Similar to death in that she was gone, but in a way possibly worse because she was out living her best life and her best life was without me.

We have a good community here. We may banter about and such, but when shit goes down we come together and support. I appreciate everyone here for that
 
Very sad to read this. So sorry man
 
Rand M Arthur said:
Indeed.

The only thing worse would be losing a child.

How do Covid restrictions affect funeral arrangements in Arizona? Will you have family travelling in to be with you?
Click to expand...

Not really. My son, Nigel is going to come to visit from Nashville in a week or two but my other family back in New York can't make it. I think her mom may be holding a memorial service for her in California though & a couple of Jana's friends have offered to come to stay with me as well. But I'm not sure if I'm ready for any company just yet. I'm going to give it a couple of days before I make any decisions. There's no hurry for anything because her wishes were to be cremated.
 
BluntForceTrama said:
It's weird how women seem to die like this more than men


I know if 5 women in the last year who just suddenly die

I used to think these were just masked suicides
Click to expand...

Really? I always notice it in men.

I mean men rarely make it to over 70 in most of earth while women live on. Men start dropping off in their 50s even and 60s.
 
Oceanmachine said:
Really? I always notice it in men.

I mean men rarely make it to over 70 in most of earth while women live on. Men start dropping off in their 50s even and 60s.
Click to expand...
That may be true but in what you're talking about there's usually heart attack or stroke involved

In the cases that I'm talking about these women just died suddenly no cause Like their clocks just stopped
 
I am sorry about your loss. It is one of the most difficult things in life to experience. Just vent away man if you need to.
 
sweetviolenturg said:
Not really. My son, Nigel is going to come to visit from Nashville in a week or two but my other family back in New York can't make it. I think her mom may be holding a memorial service for her in California though & a couple of Jana's friends have offered to come to stay with me as well. But I'm not sure if I'm ready for any company just yet. I'm going to give it a couple of days before I make any decisions. There's no hurry for anything because her wishes were to be cremated.
Click to expand...

Make sure you go out and about with your son, when he arrives. As best you can you can anyway.
 
Just checking in with a beloved sherbro. I lurked a lot in this thread but I haven't been writing much because one does not what to say on these situations.
 
I noticed you took the vaccine, I’m just curious if she had as well

truly sorry for your loss
 
Zeke's Chaingun said:
Before a year and a half ago, the last time I owned a dog was 20 years prior, and even then it was my parents dog while I was still living with them. I owned cats when I moved out and lost my last one in 2013. It was hard.

Fast forward to September 2019 and I got a dog again. A female Akita. Then in May 2020 I picked up a male Akita.

I had forgotten just how much dogs truly are man's best friend. My dogs are not my kids, but they are my family and I love them dearly. I didn't know I could care so much for dogs.

My male is my best bud. He whines when he hears my voice in the morning and can't wait to see me. It really is a special connection.
View attachment 842425

I know @sweetviolenturg said he is not a dog person, and I wouldn't encourage anyone to get a dog if they weren't, but sometimes you might be surprised.

Also... just saying... Akitas are often used as therapy dogs and are often called "catlike". They bond so strongly with one human. Just read the story of Hachiko, the Akita who went to meet its owner at the train station every day to walk him home, and then when the owner tragically passed at work the Akita still went to the train station every day for the rest of his 10 years of life remaining waiting to greet its master who would never return. He eventually died near the train station.

That kind of bond is not only therapeutic but legendary. Of course, Akitas do come with a warning label... they adore their master but are distrustful of other humans and tend to be dominant and dog aggressive towards other dogs.
Click to expand...

That is a beautiful dog you have there, man:cool:
 
Hi swv, I know I'm very late, but so sorry to hear about this man. I had that adrenaline in the tummy explosion when I saw the title and your name, so no idea what you're going through.

I mainly see you around the boxing section where your posts, stories and presence are always appreciated. That extends to all of Sherdog and I'm sure the real world as you come across so genuine and warm, which makes this even sadder.

If there's anything I can do, just let me know.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Latest posts

Forum statistics

Threads
1,282,699
Messages
58,454,842
Members
176,041
Latest member
jaybuff

Share this page

Back
Top