How to get women.

[smooth assassin]

It was one of the funnest things ever, especially since you could pick anyone you wanted. The leader would sometimes pick a super ugly chick and the funny thing is that the ugly girls would shoot us down almost every time. I think it's because they could tell it was just a joke and we were asshole teenagers.

Oh the mean shit we do as kids.

That is funny, I remember when i was shy as hell and some of my older friends used to tell me to work your way up in the bars but be crazy, and he would be like "see that girl over there? watch this" and would go up to her start howling like a wolf, she would turn from him and say something like "go away," He would come back with a big smile on his face and be like "see?' "Some girls dont know what they want, it can happen to anybody" than have a serious look on face "even me"

Truth be told, when i started having fun with it, i started to find my groove

 

[no fat chicks]

whats charming and seductive for a handsome man comes off as weird and rapey for an ugo.

 

[SpartanKhmy]

I ain't reading all that shit. But the key to getting women is very simple, be confident. Oh and don't be ugly...and have money...and treat em like crap

 

[ajwbjj87]

I ain't reading all that shit. But the key to getting women is very simple, be confident. Oh and don't be ugly...and have money...and treat em like crap

Pretty much infact if your just aiming for a 1 nighter you can lie about actually having money

 

[F. Todos]

OP, others. Have you noticed any patterns of behavior/ warning signs of women that either flake or you get nowhere with?

I am on Tinder, and have had some excellent luck, but also a lot of frustration when people flake. So far, I think I have noticed that people who flake take a long time replying to messages, and don't offer their phone #. Some people want to meet for coffee, which I have no interest in b/c I think most women who don't drink are uptight. And as we know, alcohol is an important factor for success in dating.

eta - by "flake" I mean they end up bowing out of an arranged meeting.

 

[Alex88]

OP, others. Have you noticed any patterns of behavior/ warning signs of women that either flake or you get nowhere with?

I am on Tinder, and have had some excellent luck, but also a lot of frustration when people flake. So far, I think I have noticed that people who flake take a long time replying to messages, and don't offer their phone #. Some people want to meet for coffee, which I have no interest in b/c I think most women who don't drink are uptight. And as we know, alcohol is an important factor for success in dating.

I do love tinder too :icon_chee

 

[MarcoW]

I don't think its as complicated as all this. If you hang out with women and they are interested you will notice after a while then you comment on it.
Then again maybe my situation was special I don't know. I'm in a happy relationship with no desire to ask out random women, when I was single finding a date was such a worry not just because you need courage to ask but also because 90% of the people you go out with will be wholly incompatible.

 

[Real_Magi]

OP, others. Have you noticed any patterns of behavior/ warning signs of women that either flake or you get nowhere with?

I am on Tinder, and have had some excellent luck, but also a lot of frustration when people flake. So far, I think I have noticed that people who flake take a long time replying to messages, and don't offer their phone #. Some people want to meet for coffee, which I have no interest in b/c I think most women who don't drink are uptight. And as we know, alcohol is an important factor for success in dating.

eta - by "flake" I mean they end up bowing out of an arranged meeting.

I don't know man, I haven't been able to nail it down if there is some sort of common denominator there. I actually had one chick go on a date, put her hands all over me, look at me like I was fucking Brad Pitt, then never talk to me again. It was a casual date over coffee before she had to be to work, so it was only like 1.5 hours and I didn't have the opportunity to actually try and hit it, I'm positive I could have, but after that she was completely closed off and wouldn't text me back.

It's weird, I think that some chicks actually have a man and are pulling some scandalous shit, and that gets in the way. I've had a ton of girls give me their numbers then let me know they were in a relationship once we were actually on the date. Crazy bitches.

One chick would come over unannounced, do my dishes, bring me a drink and some food, get me stoned, and fuck like a champ. This went on for a couple months before she finally told me she was married...

One thing to keep in mind though if a girl doesn't answer your first text -- she is probably just testing you to see how interested you are. I would text a couple times and if there's no response still then stand that bitch up, call her out, and just tell her you know how alot of women think that's going to get them attention, but you don't put up with that shit and you're not interested if she's that type of chick. That will certainly elicit a response, lol. That's one of the reasons I think it's better to work the details of the date out in person.

Honestly though, I don't really care that much if a bitch flakes out. It kind of grinds my gears because I feel like she won the game. If anything I wish I could fuck her friend or something, but I'd rather not mess with chicks that are that dishonest. And really, flaking out is pure dishonesty. I don't even try if she doesn't text me back.

I don't do online dating because I've had nothing but crazy fucking bitches in the 5 or so dates I went on from online dating. Their pictures always made them look way better than they actually were in person too. I kind of detest online dating. I'd much rather do the cold approach and just boss it out. I know alot of guys love it, but it's just not my thing. Every single date I got from that shit was an experience I wouldn't have wanted to repeat.

 

[Real_Magi]

Another weird thing I stumbled onto by complete accident, is that waiting for a couple months before getting back in touch seems to create an insane amount of interest. I accidentally called a handful of chicks I was dating previously -- all of them would have went 2-6 months without hearing from me -- and every single one was so nice and willing to say anything to get me to meet them in person that it fucking blew my mind.

I had a serious girlfriend at the time and my phone had a fucked up display, so I had to just type the first letter of the name of the person I wanted to call, then keep scrolling through and calling until I got it right. It was pretty eye opening.

Even when I told them that I was in a relationship and that I called them accidentally, they just giggled and acted like I was full of shit. I really don't understand women, I just keep mental notes of what works. Some times the shit that works is so bizarre I really don't even want to do it.

 

[Mike]

Yeah.. "confidence".

I know that feel bro.

i read your story of your marraige, in a differant thread, you seem like a class guy and wish you well

edit, my post was meant for Mike90, but quoted the wrong post, lol i know it looks silly that i would quote "thanks"

Thanks man, I appreciate it.

 

[kahiljabroni]

Honestly i was never one to approach chicks in public but one day for no apparent reason i pulled a move like ur describing and met my fiance...i was very str8 forward, asked if she was single, got her #, etc...to this day she talks about how impressed she was that i made sure she was single.

The flaw i see is if ur just looking to bang n now this girl thinks ur in love with her.

 

[Real_Magi]

Honestly i was never one to approach chicks in public but one day for no apparent reason i pulled a move like ur describing and met my fiance...i was very str8 forward, asked if she was single, got her #, etc...to this day she talks about how impressed she was that i made sure she was single.

The flaw i see is if ur just looking to bang n now this girl thinks ur in love with her.

Very true and kudos for being the guy to bring that up. In my defense, I really am enamored with the girl while we're dating though.

 

[llama de lrey]

ur absolutely rite. my friend and i related this to poker and chips. if u wanna buy in @ the 10s table u gotta have alot of chips (worth)

chips can be anything productive in ur life including but not exclusive to:
-money
-confidence
-good looks
-fitness
-charm
-interests/hobbies (some interests/hobbies r more interesting than others)
-occupation/education

u know evolutionarily, women want men who have more self worth and r better able to take care of their babies while men want younger good looking women to increase chances of having those babies



women should just go back to the kitchen

Spoiler

jk

meeting a high educated career based women can have its advantages/perks & may even be easier to get in some cases than less educated women

for one thing, she could be so absorbed into her occupation that she hardly has time to date other men & u approaching may spark interest and uniqueness. it shows u have confidence (balls) & ur not intimated by her career path even tho she may very well be smarter/harder working than u (unless of course ur a Dr/businessman urself)

if she does make more money than u, then u have some extra income coming in. a lot of men feel emasculated and intimidated if a women makes more money, holding to traditional view that men should/must be the breadwinners of the house. but contradictorily, if ur confident in who u r & ur alpha, it doesnt matter wat others think of u (lions dont concern themselves with the opinion of sheep)

however, one of the drawbacks is that its harder to fake intelligence with her but this a great opportunity to talk about ur real interests, hobbies, & productive lifestyle. if she finds u interesting/charming, ur increasing ur chances to mate

I dated a woman in medical school before, had a girlfriend who was a Dr of veterinary medicine too. The first one seemed to have more of an attitude about status and social standing than the 2nd (most vets have a chip on their shoulder because MD's get all the spotlight). The 2nd woman, we were just very different people.

I've met many blue-collar guys who date/marry nurses. Vet's are pretty unaffected by social status too. I dated a woman whose whole family were investment bankers or in a similar white collar business position. I always thought they looked down on me and thought she deserved someone "better." She's got a kid with some guy now who I can only assume works in an office somewhere. I guarantee he makes less money than me, but women like her probably prefer a steady white collar professional, it gives them a sense of security.

 

[F. Todos]

I'm liking the suggestion to arrange the first date in person. It seems like it might help to filter out a lightweight. I'm also thinking that would work for a second date (i.e., to see if there's going to be one), arranged during the first date. Ideally before the check comes.

What % of women agree to plans, in person, on these initial approaches? If she says she's not sure of her schedule etc., is she just making excuses, or does she actually arrange something later via call or text?

 

[fluffball]

This is how I met my wife. Pretty much exactly like OP except instead of doing what he said I showed her my penis and ran away. She found it intriguing and the rest is history.

 

[Lustercross]

I want to try this out. I think it is actually me because I have always been a nice guy and not a dooshbag lol. But what if you get very anxious approaching random women? Any tips for that???

 

[The_Renaissance]

Don't like the 'negging' thing. Any chick that falls for that isn't someone I wanna date. I like strong, independent girls who don't give a shit about a guy's opinion of them and will call him out on being a dick. 1 night stand, yeah why not. But not dating material for me.....though, weirdly, I guess even though I dislike negging it might be a nice way to separate the wheat from the chaff.

 

[Real_Magi]

I'm liking the suggestion to arrange the first date in person. It seems like it might help to filter out a lightweight. I'm also thinking that would work for a second date (i.e., to see if there's going to be one), arranged during the first date. Ideally before the check comes.

What % of women agree to plans, in person, on these initial approaches? If she says she's not sure of her schedule etc., is she just making excuses, or does she actually arrange something later via call or text?

Never had a girl refuse to work out the details in person actually. Although most of the time when I ask when she's free she just says, "When ever" and I end up saying ok let's go out this day this time and just smiles and agrees. Every now and then she'll let me know she's going to be gone for a week or has to work a certain weekend, etc. but I still just name a day and time and it works.

And yes, working out the second date while in person is far better than trying to do it over the phone. The less you interact over the phone the better, pretty much no matter what. It also creates the idea that you're just too busy to even talk over the phone which creates more interest.

I want to try this out. I think it is actually me because I have always been a nice guy and not a dooshbag lol. But what if you get very anxious approaching random women? Any tips for that???

Best way to get over it is just to do it. I still get nervous almost every time, but you get to where you basically go into auto pilot and it comes very naturally. If you fuck it up, just tell her you don't usually do this and you're super nervous because she's gorgeous. She'll love that she's the only girl to make you do it and she'll probably actually tell you that you're doing fine.

The more you do it the better you'll get.

You also have to keep in mind that other peoples opinions don't matter. If it doesn't work, that doesn't matter. You only need it to work enough to fill up your free time with dates, so even if you're striking out 75% of the time, you just have to approach more women. Maintain a thick skin, stay positive, and just keep at it. Not only will you get better, but you up your chances substantially simply by increasing the volume.

 

[45ACP]

I actually made a conscience effort to use some of this here advice last friday night with a girl I've been interested in. We actually have some past history and she was the one who asked me out, so I got to skip the first part. But I tried all the other stuff. Body language, listening intently, making constant eye contact, pulling her close to me, etc.

Long story short we ended up making out right there at the bar, then against a wall on the street outside the bar, then fucked in my truck parked on the side of the street with people walking by cheering and shit. She goes, "I don't even care if the cops see us as long as they don't do anything."

I rate her a solid 9.

And she's been texting me every day since saying she can't wait to see me again and she can't stop thinking about friday night.

True story sherbros. Believe it or not.

Go me! *high fives self*

and thanks TS!

 

[Real_Magi]

I actually made a conscience effort to use some of this here advice last friday night with a girl I've been interested in. We actually have some past history and she was the one who asked me out, so I got to skip the first part. But I tried all the other stuff. Body language, listening intently, making constant eye contact, pulling her close to me, etc.

Long story short we ended up making out right there at the bar, then against a wall on the street outside the bar, then fucked in my truck parked on the side of the street with people walking by cheering and shit. She goes, "I don't even care if the cops see us as long as they don't do anything."

I rate her a solid 9.

And she's been texting me every day since saying she can't wait to see me again and she can't stop thinking about friday night.

True story sherbros. Believe it or not.

Go me! *high fives self*

and thanks TS!

Good for you man!

*high five*

Sounds like an excellent night. I'm glad it worked out and it sounds like you probably already used some of this since you were so comfortable doing it. Also sounds like a badass, wild chick. Sex in public is always amazing.