How to get women.

Well, she texted me nekkid pics at the end of the night and said she can't wait to see me again. MOTHER OF GOD. Lol

We made plans to hang out tomorrow night.

I'll be sure to let ya'll sherbros know the dirty details, and I'm trying not to get too far ahead of myself, but I'm starting to think this thing might actually be going places.

It'd be pretty fucking cool to have a genuine love story work out in this place, especially considering it all started by taking some simple advice from a fellow sherdogger. *shocking news*

In other news, met another smoke show named Sarah at the bar tonight who tends bar at another local watering hole and ended up buying me a shot and making me promise to come visit her.

Things are looking up!

Which is good, because my life up to this point, relationship-wise, has pretty much been a complete shit show.
 
Mike90 said:
Yeah I know. It's just that my confidence is low, my social anxiety is pretty bad, and my material situaton sucks. My mind automatically finds 100 reasons not to approach them, by the time I begin to get over it they're long gone. It's easy to think of reasons someome wouldn't like me, and I've been thinking this way for over 20 years, so it's very ingrained. We'll see if improving my situation will maybe give me more confidence in time.
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Mike, where do you live my brother?

Come out with me and I'll get you laid or die trying.

You think too much, a feeling that I know all too well.
 
45ACP said:
Well, she texted me nekkid pics at the end of the night and said she can't wait to see me again. MOTHER OF GOD. Lol

We made plans to hang out tomorrow night.

I'll be sure to let ya'll sherbros know the dirty details, and I'm trying not to get too far ahead of myself, but I'm starting to think this thing might actually be going places.

It'd be pretty fucking cool to have a genuine love story work out in this place, especially considering it all started by taking some simple advice from a fellow sherdogger. *shocking news*

In other news, met another smoke show named Sarah at the bar tonight who tends bar at another local watering hole and ended up buying me a shot and making me promise to come visit her.

Things are looking up!

Which is good, because my life up to this point, relationship-wise, has pretty much been a complete shit show.
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Nekkid pics or gtfo!
 
45ACP said:
Mike, where do you live my brother?

Come out with me and I'll get you laid or die trying.

You think too much, a feeling that I know all too well.
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I'm in Washington state. I don't have any income or anything right now, which is another reason to be hesitant. Plan to be in school and working soon. I tend to do much better when I feel productive, so maybe that'll help.
 
I can relate to overthinking. My woman-game was shit because of this, but met a girl in january last year, and we got together in september, soon been together for 10months. All this while living in different parts of Norway. You just have to grow a pair and ask, that's what I did and that works. haha
 
Getting women is pretty simple. Just treat them like some construct in a lucid dream. The impossible part is finding a quality woman and building something meaningful. I gave up on that long ago.
 
Mike90 said:
Yeah I know. It's just that my confidence is low, my social anxiety is pretty bad, and my material situaton sucks. My mind automatically finds 100 reasons not to approach them, by the time I begin to get over it they're long gone. It's easy to think of reasons someome wouldn't like me, and I've been thinking this way for over 20 years, so it's very ingrained. We'll see if improving my situation will maybe give me more confidence in time.
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Well that's a lot to deal with. I'd say that you are thinking too far ahead. Set smaller, more reachable goals and work up.

I don't know what you're comfortable with. But say you never talk to anyone. For example, this week, make it a goal to say hi to 5 people a day. Or good morning. People love it. I've never had someone say hello or good morning and been offended, even if it was a bum on the street it still feels nice. Next step, throw a question in, beautiful day isn't it? Crazy hot out today huh? Get some harmless diaglogue going. Start small, most people enjoy a friendly interaction with a stranger. If she doesn't, the worst she'll do is to respond hastily with little or no indication of wanting more. No harm done, and you've moved in the direction of chatting her up.

Eventually If you have a few experiences where you're having a nice chat with a woman, and you for whatever reason don't ask for a date. Your mind will go to that later and you'll be kicking yourself. Then it will be that much easier to overcome any "fear" the next time you're in that situation. And keep in mind that fear is just adrenaline, just a chemical, and those chemical levels change even if nothing at all in reality changes. You probably know that by now but it's always good to remind yourself.
 
A lot of what TS posted is good advice. I find meeting women and having sex the easy part (yes, I know it sounds arrogant but it's true).

However, I absolutely suck at relationships and outside of the girl I am seeing at the moment, manage to find ways to constantly fuck them up. Hopefully I have matured a bit now that I'm in my late twenties and manage to keep this one happy, she is awesome.
 
45 acp, I'm happy for you man. It's awesome reading about your progression with this chick and just how good it's going. Keep spankin' that booty bro!
 
The only thing you released TS is your desperate desire to be known as someone who "gets ass whenever the fuck they want"







Sadly for you since Tinder was invented even 95% of Sherdog can manage that. You're really going to have to step up your information game. Because, y'know, you were super informative about how to get women & all that.

What did you suggest again?

Sorry mate, I ignored because... y'know... Tinder
 
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MMA IAN said:
The only thing you released TS is your desperate desire to be known as someone who "gets ass whenever the fuck they want"







Sadly for you since Tinder was invented even 95% of Sherdog can manage that. You're really going to have to step up your information game. Because, y'know, you were super informative about how to get women & all that.

What did you suggest again?

Sorry mate, I ignored because... y'know... Tinder
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TS is awesome. Go hate elsewhere. You probably have minimal success with women and are gotten to.
 
Jim said:
TS is awesome. Go hate elsewhere. You probably have minimal success with women and are gotten to.
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Lol thanks broseph! I totally expected responses like his when I made the thread though. This is the internet after all.
 
dontsnitch said:
You can't teach the things you're suggesting.

You can't teach confidence, and to be cool and suave and easy going. It's not like the guy who sit home alone on Friday night don't know that the answer is to be cool and confident, it's that he's not cool and confident.

These things come with maturity and experience, and for some guys they never come.

Edit: I'm not a woman, but I like to barge in like one.
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I think you can learn these, to some extent. Maybe not real confidence, but you can definitely fake it enough to impress on a date. I did.

These guys need to analyze all their insecurities and find a way to mask them. You can be insecure on the inside without expressing it.
 
solid advice, overall. but i disagree with trying to get a kiss in public. a lot of women, at least the ones i've known, do not like being put on the spot by a guy trying to kiss her for the first time in public. the first kiss should always be in either your place, or hers.

the biggest key, at least i think, is to let your intentions be known about what kind of relationship you want with this woman. most women will size a guy up quickly, and decide whether he is a potential sexual partner. or, you're going to be a regular friend.
 
I love it when guys post how to systematically win a woman's affections.

Like "hey guys look, I am living a functional autistic lifestyle!"
 
IIIIIIII said:
solid advice, overall. but i disagree with trying to get a kiss in public. a lot of women, at least the ones i've known, do not like being put on the spot by a guy trying to kiss her for the first time in public. the first kiss should always be in either your place, or hers.

the biggest key, at least i think, is to let your intentions be known about what kind of relationship you want with this woman. most women will size a guy up quickly, and decide whether he is a potential sexual partner. or, you're going to be a regular friend.
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Fair enough man. I think that from my perspective it's a bit different though. The reason I suggest doing it in public is to be bold and confident and show her that you're not concerned with the opinions of others. I don't believe I've ever offended a girl by trying to kiss her, even when she didn't actually let me do it. Definitely not disagreeing with you though, there's more than one way to skin a cat.

Totally agree about letting your intentions be known too.
 
IIIIIIII said:
solid advice, overall. but i disagree with trying to get a kiss in public. a lot of women, at least the ones i've known, do not like being put on the spot by a guy trying to kiss her for the first time in public. the first kiss should always be in either your place, or hers.

the biggest key, at least i think, is to let your intentions be known about what kind of relationship you want with this woman. most women will size a guy up quickly, and decide whether he is a potential sexual partner. or, you're going to be a regular friend.
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I always go for a first kiss in public lol.
 
Real_Magi said:
Fair enough man. I think that from my perspective it's a bit different though. The reason I suggest doing it in public is to be bold and confident and show her that you're not concerned with the opinions of others. I don't believe I've ever offended a girl by trying to kiss her, even when she didn't actually let me do it. Definitely not disagreeing with you though, there's more than one way to skin a cat.

Totally agree about letting your intentions be known too.
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yeah, i see where you're coming from. i just think that with the other things you recommended a guy do, would be enough to show her that you're confident. but hey, if it's working for you, then who am i to tell you not to do that? keep at it.
 
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