going to bars/clubs alone?

[Ogata]

These types of settings? Have you been to these speakeasy clubs? They are set up like Barnes and nobles cafes, and the loud music is usually super slow electronica. Getting a negroni with dry vermouth and reading a mob novel is the perfect thing to do there, if you like good liquor and dislike discussing veganism with a bunch of hipsters.

The only speak easy I have heard or seen was on the episode of Gotham. They are supposed to be secret bars?

 

[kjg1672]

I'll occasionally go to a bar on a Sunday afternoon by myself. My wife doesn't mind. For some reason I feel better if I order something to eat along with a few beers.

 

[cartizel]

I've done this before, more recently, anyway.

Felt a bit weird as every single time before then, I'd usually enter somewhere with at least a +1.

However, once I'm sipping on my G&T or rum & ginger beer then I'm cool.

I have a long term gf, so my intention isn't to accost women like that but a light heated convo is cool with either sex.

 

[zapataxiv]

The only speak easy I have heard or seen was on the episode of Gotham. They are supposed to be secret bars?

Yes The more secretive ones have gimmicks where you go to a club or bar that is already well known the go to a certain spot on the bar that has a revolving wall like scooby doo or a pay phone on a corner of the bar that is actually a door into another bar. Where I live now most of them are in normally commercial areas like an office building but placed on the roof or something out of the way.

I am not really all
Into the scene but I like good liquor and a good cocktail bartender can do some interesting things with liquor. For example there is one guy I frequent that makes a cocktail of tequila, agave juice, cucumber,
And ginger for me and it is amazing.

 

[Mr Mojo Lane]

I'll do it. I don't give a shit what people think about me. However, you do have to be aware that there will be a small percentage of people that will not like you right off the bat--i.e. some of the judgmental on this thread.

It's stupid to judge people so much right off the bat. I am kind of a nomad, so I would go out by myself when I first moved to a town.

Girl "Why are you alone?'
Me "I just moved to town last week."
Girl "You don't have any friends?"
Me "No. I just moved here last week."
Girl "Well why did you go out by yourself?"
Me "I don't know anybody. I just moved here."
Girl(to her friends) "Some weird creepy guy here by himself"
Her friend "No friends. That's a major red flag."

I've had a few other incidences where people thought I was a weird, creepy loner, but I was just new to town. Anyways, who gives a shit. I had plenty of good times being a lone wolf. Not everyone is like that. I've nailed a couple of hot bartenders in NYC being a lone wolf and I've met up with other guys that were alone and we would go bar hopping together.

 

[cmw43]

When I was at uni I'd occasionally go to the student rock nights on my own but id been so often with my friends that id always know a bunch of people there anyway so it's not like I'd be sat in a corner on my own.

 

[MMA IAN]

Have you gone to bars and clubs alone? I know going to bar is more acceptable but what type of bars are best to go alone?

Sure have, I've traveled alot. I could be honest and say I'm only here for a month or two for a project, but you could be here for a meeting or something, so you are here every 2 months, then find another pub so you can alternate between them or something and get some practice. At the end of the day who gives a fuck about your reason for being alone. Heaps of people travel for work. Any decent town is going to have at least a dozen pubs, you should be able to cycle through them. Most guys don't give a fuck really aye so you should be able to join their group, they've experienced the same thing. You only really need to try if you're attempting to pick up, in which case you may as well just take your watch off, wave it around for a few minutes and pick out the best looking moth

I am kind of a nomad, so I would go out by myself when I first moved to a town.

Girl "Why are you alone?'
Me "I just moved to town last week."
Girl "You don't have any friends?"
Me "No. I just moved here last week."
Girl "Well why did you go out by yourself?"
Me "I don't know anybody. I just moved here."
Girl(to her friends) "Some weird creepy guy here by himself"
Her friend "No friends. That's a major red flag."

You shouldnt have said you don't have any friends, just that you left your friends in your state, even then seems a very strange sequence of events and I'm inclined to call bullshit on your story

 

[applesbananas]

I've been to many bars alone. Mostly it's when I'm traveling alone in a different city or country I haven't been to. Clubs? Not so much. That's just weird.

 

[Mr Mojo Lane]

Sure



You shouldnt have said you don't have any friends, just that you left your friends in your state, even then seems a very strange sequence of events and I'm inclined to call bullshit on your story

I don't know what I would have to gain by making up some BS. I was trying to say that there are extremely narrow minded and judgmental people out there but they are a small minority and who gives a shit what they think anyways.

I thought the fact that I explained that I just moved there would be enough. I didn't say that I had no friends at all maybe that is what she thought I said, but I didn't say that

 

[bigbangspiritbomb]

I'll do it. I don't give a shit what people think about me. However, you do have to be aware that there will be a small percentage of people that will not like you right off the bat--i.e. some of the judgmental on this thread.

It's stupid to judge people so much right off the bat. I am kind of a nomad, so I would go out by myself when I first moved to a town.

Girl "Why are you alone?'
Me "I just moved to town last week."
Girl "You don't have any friends?"
Me "No. I just moved here last week."
Girl "Well why did you go out by yourself?"
Me "I don't know anybody. I just moved here."
Girl(to her friends) "Some weird creepy guy here by himself"
Her friend "No friends. That's a major red flag."

I've had a few other incidences where people thought I was a weird, creepy loner, but I was just new to town. Anyways, who gives a shit. I had plenty of good times being a lone wolf. Not everyone is like that. I've nailed a couple of hot bartenders in NYC being a lone wolf and I've met up with other guys that were alone and we would go bar hopping together.

Well, I wouldn't be too worried what a single mom thinks with bastard children from different men. Life trolls them harder then you or i ever could have.

 

[TheNinja]

You can't go to a club alone. That's just creepy. A bar, yes. As long as it's during the time when hard drinkers are there and not Friday or Saturday night when people are all out in groups.

Pretty much this. No clubs. No bars on Weekend nights unless it's just kind of a dive bar. Just stay away from the pick up bars and the "cool" bars on weekends alone.

 

[bref]

I travel by myself a lot for work. So Yes, I'll go sit at the bar somewhere random occasionally. Sure as fuck beats sitting alone in your hotel room.

 

[bubbleboyjones]

I dont need to do everything all the time with those people do I? And why is going to a bar with group more productive?

It's more productive because most clubs and bars are setup for social interaction. There's a reason why most people by a huge majority show up to them in either groups or go to meet other people. There's nothing wrong with going by yourself but at the same time if you're going to dedicate a limited amount of time to drinking in a social environment why would you make a choice to do that alone vs meeting up with friends?

 

[IIIIIIII]

I used to go to bars to watch UFC allllll the time by myself. I'm a personable dude. I always find people to talk to and bet with.

i'm the same, minus the gambling.

i love going out to bars on my own. you never know who you're going to come across. it's especially true if you live in a big tourist city.

 

[bubbleboyjones]

I don't know what I would have to gain by making up some BS. I was trying to say that there are extremely narrow minded and judgmental people out there but they are a small minority and who gives a shit what they think anyways.

I thought the fact that I explained that I just moved there would be enough. I didn't say that I had no friends at all maybe that is what she thought I said, but I didn't say that

I will have to say I agree with MMA IAN being that interaction sounds almost surreal if that was indeed the actual dialogue you had with that group of girls, like its a scene from a bad CW show. I'm not saying your full of shit but you need to realize thats almost a cartoonish conversation that I've never heard in my life.

 

[Ogata]

I'll do it. I don't give a shit what people think about me. However, you do have to be aware that there will be a small percentage of people that will not like you right off the bat--i.e. some of the judgmental on this thread.

It's stupid to judge people so much right off the bat. I am kind of a nomad, so I would go out by myself when I first moved to a town.

Girl "Why are you alone?'
Me "I just moved to town last week."
Girl "You don't have any friends?"
Me "No. I just moved here last week."
Girl "Well why did you go out by yourself?"
Me "I don't know anybody. I just moved here."
Girl(to her friends) "Some weird creepy guy here by himself"
Her friend "No friends. That's a major red flag."

I've had a few other incidences where people thought I was a weird, creepy loner, but I was just new to town. Anyways, who gives a shit. I had plenty of good times being a lone wolf. Not everyone is like that. I've nailed a couple of hot bartenders in NYC being a lone wolf and I've met up with other guys that were alone and we would go bar hopping together.

You hit the nail on the head! This is the attitude lots of women have in Vancouver B.C which is the place I reside in. Don't get me wrong, the scenery in terms of nature is nice and people are not that bad but dating/club scene is a disaster...

 

[Skov]

I'll do it. I don't give a shit what people think about me. However, you do have to be aware that there will be a small percentage of people that will not like you right off the bat--i.e. some of the judgmental on this thread.

It's stupid to judge people so much right off the bat. I am kind of a nomad, so I would go out by myself when I first moved to a town.

Girl "Why are you alone?'
Me "I just moved to town last week."
Girl "You don't have any friends?"
Me "No. I just moved here last week."
Girl "Well why did you go out by yourself?"
Me "I don't know anybody. I just moved here."
Girl(to her friends) "Some weird creepy guy here by himself"
Her friend "No friends. That's a major red flag."

I've had a few other incidences where people thought I was a weird, creepy loner, but I was just new to town. Anyways, who gives a shit. I had plenty of good times being a lone wolf. Not everyone is like that. I've nailed a couple of hot bartenders in NYC being a lone wolf and I've met up with other guys that were alone and we would go bar hopping together.

I've done it quite a few times, I prefer it really. I can stay or go where I want, usually just say I'm from out of town to whoever is in line next to me and what the best spot to go is. If your going after women then make sure you look casual and your "friends" are just busy at the bar or some shit, never actually say you came alone though. Usually you can meet a few people without a problem and then you have a group for as long as you want one, dip when you don't.

 

[Mr Mojo Lane]

I will have to say I agree with MMA IAN being that interaction sounds almost surreal if that was indeed the actual dialogue you had with that group of girls, like its a scene from a bad CW show. I'm not saying your full of shit but you need to realize thats almost a cartoonish conversation that I've never heard in my life.

Like I said, it is a stupid conversation, but I have no reason to lie about this. It was fairly loud in the place. Yeah, I've met a lot of narcissistic, narrow minded, self absorbed people in my time

On my second day at work when I moved to New Jersey, I girl said I was retarded because I had no idea what a jug handle was when I was asking directions.

 

[MadSquabbles500]

It's more productive because most clubs and bars are setup for social interaction. There's a reason why most people by a huge majority show up to them in either groups or go to meet other people. There's nothing wrong with going by yourself but at the same time if you're going to dedicate a limited amount of time to drinking in a social environment why would you make a choice to do that alone vs meeting up with friends?

You can strike up a conversation with the people already there. I find it harder to do that if you go in a group already. If I am already in a group, I dont need to be any in particular location especially one where they expect cover fee, or over charge me for a beer. If I already have a crew, I can set up shop on the sidewalk, if I want to. Beer is cheaper at the gas station. I just need some paper bags, and I can sit outside.

 

[MadSquabbles500]

I'll do it. I don't give a shit what people think about me. However, you do have to be aware that there will be a small percentage of people that will not like you right off the bat--i.e. some of the judgmental on this thread.

It's stupid to judge people so much right off the bat. I am kind of a nomad, so I would go out by myself when I first moved to a town.

Girl "Why are you alone?'
Me "I just moved to town last week."
Girl "You don't have any friends?"
Me "No. I just moved here last week."
Girl "Well why did you go out by yourself?"
Me "I don't know anybody. I just moved here."
Girl(to her friends) "Some weird creepy guy here by himself"
Her friend "No friends. That's a major red flag."

I've had a few other incidences where people thought I was a weird, creepy loner, but I was just new to town. Anyways, who gives a shit. I had plenty of good times being a lone wolf. Not everyone is like that. I've nailed a couple of hot bartenders in NYC being a lone wolf and I've met up with other guys that were alone and we would go bar hopping together.

NYC back when it was still gritty, and Manhattan was more blue collar had a huge lone wolf scene. I believe most of the northeast did too.

But now it is filled with the college yuppies who never had alcohol until they went to college, and was a major rite of passage for them.