Relationships Does anyone regret having kids?

[plataoplombo]

The first 2 years are gonna suck for sure but after that it gets easier. My advice is to coordinate time off with the wife so you don't loose your sanity. Second is to teach them how to feed themselves as soon as possible. First thing mine learned was how to use the microwave and make simple sandwiches.

 

[Drain Bamage]

I workd with a guy who had a vasectomy that didnt work and ended up still with a kid, which he clearly did not want to have. He would hide it whenever he talked to the women in the office and say typical dad stuff. But whenever it was just him and the guys he would go off... "fuckin kid.... man I had a vasectomy wtf" etc etc... I feel bad for the kid. Its a tough situation though. He DID have a vasectomy. But I dont think he did the post op stuff right.

 

[closequarters]

Guy i know does

He was literally having sex for the first time and the girl got pregnant,they were 16

Yeah, but there is a silver lining for your friend. When he is 34 years old and his kid heads out of the house, he will be starting his second life at a very young age with (hopefully) a lot of maturity.

 

[Cole train]

Yeah, but there is a silver lining for your friend. When he is 34 years old and his kid heads out of the house, he will be starting his second life at a very young age with (hopefully) a lot of maturity.

yes but not quite how you said it

gf/ ex wife was a crazy bitch who tried to stab him 3 times and succeded twice,also she had been on parole 2 times

he had been in prison and used to beat the gf when drunk

they were married for a half a year before getting divorced

now he smokes weed everyday and hasnt seen the kid in years.

 

[Swoliosis]

Assuming you're a normal adult, come back to this thread when your child is about 6 months old. And tell us how ridiculous it sounds then.
I've never met a single person that wasn't nervous about "losing all their free time" before their first child. And I've also never met a single person, that wasn't a piece of shit, that didn't entirely change their priorities after their baby was born.
I can see it being tough as a young person, for sure. But as a 30 some year old, you're plenty old enough. I was 33, my only regret is not doing it when I was younger.

Totally with you on this. What a fucktard of a person TS is for making such a stupid thread. I had my fun in my 20s and finished my schooling, and to be fair was getting tired of my same party, drink, bullshit with random girls routine and finally met a woman I clicked with and we'll been married two years now and currently have a 19 month old.

Some days are tough and the first 8 months were extremely stressful with both our work schedules but we made it work and now she's running and learning something new everyday. It's a different experience when they're your own and it doesn't compare to anything else.

 

[closequarters]

yes but not quite how you said it

gf/ ex wife was a crazy bitch who tried to stab him 3 times and succeded twice,also she had been on parole 2 times

he had been in prison and used to beat the gf when drunk

they were married for a half a year before getting divorced

now he smokes weed everyday and hasnt seen the kid in years.

Jesus, yeah those circumstances would make things difficult, even over time.

 

[Kanuck99]

The thing is, is that i love my kids. I couldn't even imagine life without them at this point.

 

[Thrawn33]

Man hell no!

A: "I love you Dad" is the best feeling in the world

B: You are going to die one day, you will live on in your descendants.

C: There are men in this world that can't father children, or will never get a woman to have his.

 

[Streeter]

Never. Yeah it's tough but the rewards far out weigh the struggles.

 

[D Train]

Being a good dad is the hardest and best job in the world.

 

[Uber_Noober]

Your mom does

Boom roasted!

 

[sleepwalk]

I regret not having more and/or starting sooner.

 

[BearGrounds]

I bet you're a hoot at parties.

I am. This isn't a party.

 

[Communion]

My daughter is my raison d'être. It completely takes over your life, doesn't give a fuck, and you'll be glad it did.

 

[-Magua-]

Enhances/Changes a lot of people’s lives for the better, adds purpose and meaning to their lives.
That said at 41, I most definitely do not regret not having kids.

A majority of my HS, college friends, and earlier work colleagues now have children and seem happy enough. Not for me though. Im cool with being the cool favorite uncle in my big ass extended family.

I also enjoy my life; where I’m at right now and the direction it’s heading. That said, I will be getting my first dog here in the PH pretty soon.

 

[magicmarker]

You may wish for more time, more sleep, more sanity etc; but you’ll never regret having a child.

 

[Oliver Clothesoff]

Do any of you guys have kids and wish you had not?
I dumped a clip in the Mrs. and now shes pregnant, it'll be both of ours 1st kid. We're in our early 30's, she's excited I am too but I'm the type of person who enjoys my free time to do my own thing after work and on the weekends, I've pretty much accepted that a lot of that free time will be gone once the baby is born, and money will also be tight once she takes time off work and we're paying the bills with just my income. I know most people say having kids was the best thing they ever did even though it was very hard but is there anyone out there who regrets having kids and if so why? I know maybe that's something most people won't admit so I figured maybe I'd get some honest responses on this anonymous karate forum. Thanks.

I'm kind of at the end of my Journey with my kids. At least for a while. One is off at College and the other one is about to be. It's been a great 20 years.

Enjoy it while it lasts because you'll blink your eyes and they'll be grown up and moving out. Life is a one shot deal and I'm glad I got to experience it. You will too. Most do. If you weren't a little bit worried about it you wouldn't be human.

 

[blaseblah]

Once you have kids, you realize how much time "free time" is wasted time. I'm still able to lift for about an hour a day with three kids. I still play guitar. You just have to budget time a lot better.

How do you have energy? I work for a day, go and lift after work, and I'm exhausted. Can't imagine getting up two hours earlier to deal with kids and spending the evening taking care of them as well.

 

[TardStrong]

Enhances/Changes a lot of people’s lives for the better, adds purpose and meaning to their lives.
That said at 41, I most definitely do not regret not having kids.

Most of my HS, college friends, and earlier work colleagues now have children and seem happy enough. Not for me though. Im cool with being the cool favorite uncle in my big ass extended family.

I also enjoy my life; where I am right now, as well the direction it’s continuing. That said, I will be getting my first dog here in the PH pretty soon.

Do you travel a lot right now? I dont have kids, just 2 dogs which hold me back from some traveling. After my dogs pass I plan on doing major traveling

 

[-Magua-]

Do you travel a lot right now? I dont have kids, just 2 dogs which hold me back from some traveling. After my dogs pass I plan on doing major traveling

I do... and that was 1 of a few handful of reasons holding me back.
That said, I’ve found I can leave it with some aunts/uncles in the city or pay a nearby dog walker/ babysitter if it’s awhile.

I live in a condo in a urban/commercial neighborhood, so I’ve talked to several residents and neighbors and they’ve been helping me out on options and pitfalls.