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Depends on the state you live in.
Really? Is that true? If so, crazy....
Depends on the state you live in.
You are retarded.
Sorry to hear that.
I hear you don't even have to get married for this shit to happen. After a year or so of living together, you get proclaimed partners or something, I forgot what the term is called and breaking up is basically like getting a divorce.
I presume that all those assets were acquired during marriage?The problem is that you are mainly hearing the husband's sides. I've literally looked at hundreds of divorces, and I can only tell you about one or two that seemed out of line. Those dealt with one side getting a good attorney vs. the other side trying to go pro se.
People never look at the whole story. Here's a simple situation and how it would play out here. The husband has $400k in retirement, they own $200k house free and clear, husband has a $25k car, and the wife has a $25k car. Everything else is negligible. Since the wife has raised the kids in the home that the kids know, the judge gives the wife the home and her car. That is $225k of assets. The husband is sitting on $425k with his retirement and his car. In order to make that equal, a lump sum of $100k should be paid to the wife. Therefore, they both walk away with $325k in assets. On top of that, there will be child support and possibly alimony. All that you'll hear from the husband is "OMG - she got the house AND $100k from my retirement. House is that fair!!!1" It's pretty simple, she got half, but everyone will cry, "That's crazy! How is that fair!"
I presume that all those assets were acquired during marriage?
But your whole story is missing one important aspect. How much should the bread winning parent should be compensated for the loss of his/her children? (it's a rhetorical question). It is after all the most important 'asset' and the main reason men get married. But it is never accounted in the split. The parent losing the children is never compensated for losing them and I think that's where a lot of resentment comes from.
Ok.I am retarded.
This is the point that I'm trying to make. The court's primary concern is not "who wins - the wife or husband". The primary concern is what is best for the children. It's really hard to imagine taking money from the custodial parent, who is raising the kids, to compensate for the "loss" of the non-custodial parent. That's basically saying, "Let's take money that could go to diapers and school supplies and give to the husband since he doesn't get to see them as much. That will make him feel better". Good luck with that argument.
Edit: In regards to the hypothetical, it gets a little more gray if it was acquired prior to marriage and there are arguments to make. Even in the case where it was acquired during marriage, most men would say "the husband got screwed" once he says, "she got the house AND I have to pay her $100k"! They don't realize that he's sitting on $300k that was originally for BOTH of their retirements.
My dad...
Whole time he's on his ass, he would demand everybody in the house to do as he say or he'll raise hell and make everybody life miserable. He also drink.
I asked before but...
Shouldn't the situation that caused the divorce count for something?
The other guy answered it. It depends on the state. I'm in a no-fault state.
I meant from your opinion, not how the law is set-up.
This is the point that I'm trying to make. The court's primary concern is not "who wins - the wife or husband". The primary concern is what is best for the children. It's really hard to imagine taking money from the custodial parent, who is raising the kids, to compensate for the "loss" of the non-custodial parent. That's basically saying, "Let's take money that could go to diapers and school supplies and give to the husband since he doesn't get to see them as much. That will make him feel better". Good luck with that argument.
Edit: In regards to the hypothetical, it gets a little more gray if it was acquired prior to marriage and there are arguments to make. Even in the case where it was acquired during marriage, most men would say "the husband got screwed" once he says, "she got the house AND I have to pay her $100k"! They don't realize that he's sitting on $300k that was originally for BOTH of their retirements.
Are you a feminist?
Oh, it's definitely very hard to go against the 'what's best for the children' argument, non biological parents have been forced to pay child support under that premise. It just so happen that what's best for them is also best for the custodial parent. Funny how you said 'money that could go to diapers and school supplies'. Because child support money don't go to the children, it goes to the spouse. All you can do is prey that they uses your money on your children the way you would like to and not on themselves. It's also 'what's best for the children' that visitation rights are enforced yet it rarely ever is. Withhold payment though and see what happens.This is the point that I'm trying to make. The court's primary concern is not "who wins - the wife or husband". The primary concern is what is best for the children. It's really hard to imagine taking money from the custodial parent, who is raising the kids, to compensate for the "loss" of the non-custodial parent. That's basically saying, "Let's take money that could go to diapers and school supplies and give to the husband since he doesn't get to see them as much. That will make him feel better". Good luck with that argument.
Heh, speaking of 'what's best for the (her) children'. But how did that even float? Can you enforce child support for an adult?i don't know if its considered screwed, but my buddy married a chick with a kid from a previous relationship, he also had a kid .... when they ended up getting divorced, she wanted him to pay for her kids post secondary school ... he lost, had to pay for her kids schooling, then had to tell his own kid he didn't have enough money to pay for his own kids school ... she had to take out a loan, the other kid graduated with no loan ... sucks