Divorce thread....

[Slobodan]

Explains the women of questionable morals on his av.

They're nice ladies!

 

[RichardHarrow]

They're nice ladies!

Nice is definitely the correct adjective!

 

[wufabufa]

Gonna happen for me by mid year. We've been together for 10 years, married 5, and have a 3 year old boy together. Honestly I think she's been halfway done with me since 2018, why she stayed with me for any amount of time after that is kind of a mystery. I hate to be cynical but I think she really wanted a kid and starting over in her 30's trying to look for a stable guy to father her children would have set her back quite a bit.

We've moved like 5 times over the last 10 years so she could finish grad school, do post doc work, and then finally for her career. And we're moving again at the end of March as she's taken a job at the school/hospital where she completed grad school. I'm saying "we" because if I don't move then I won't have access to my kid. This decision to move was made just prior to her deciding we were finally past the point of no return. So I'm sorta stuck with the move. A few parts that are hard for me is that I don't have work lined up there, I have no friends in that area, and my family is going to be about 1,000 miles away. Her parents live with us now and will be moving there as well. At least I won't have to be around her dumb fuck father any more so that's a positive. And she's fed up with his shit too so her folks are gonna have to find their own place.

We also need to sell our house and we're in the middle of renovations right now. I think this is the least I've ever felt motivated to move forward in my life. We did couples therapy, I got on all kinds of antidepressant meds, and I made real efforts to work on things that she said she needed so she could tolerate being around me. I know I've got stuff to work on and I'm far from perfect but it seems like most of the burden was placed on me to fix our relationship. She insists it's nobody's fault and we just grew apart but the way things shook out says the opposite. There's a big sense of resentment and unfairness I have right now that I hope fades.

Financially I'll actually be in a pretty decent spot. We're likely splitting things even and child support won't really fuck me over since we've decided that 50/50 custody would be best for our son at this point. My wife makes double what I do so me paying child support would really only place hardship on our son since he'd have a much lower standard of living when spending time with me. She's being reasonable and not really treating me any differently right now, but we're no longer a family and I don't know if I can ever forgive her for what's about to happen. I just worry about my son not having me around all the time when he starts to get older and needs guidance. My wife is from a girl family and doesn't really get what boys are all about. She's made comments in the past about how she doesn't understand how I know exactly what kind of shenanigans get our son excited or the things he and I do together that allow him to calm down and focus. My old man was a piece of garbage and this situation is forcing me to be absent half of the time until my son is an adult. I swore I'd never be like him.

I'll be ok and I know I can do this. I'm not looking forward to it though. I just feel lost.

TLDR; Shit's hosed for now, but not forever.

 

[pugilistico]

I almost got married once. My fiance of 3 years broke up with me over the phone. I called her on my lunch break while at work and talked to her about the idea of me going back to school to get a business degree. She suddenly got furious and said I just wanted to be around young college girls, and then broke up with me and hung up. I was hit with bewilderment. What the fuck just happened? What was the last 3 years for? In hindsight my guess was that she found a better option and was looking for an excuse to break up with me. A year later she messages me asking if we can still be friends. I guess my replacement didn't work out so she was poking around to see if I was still available.

it sucked at the time but it was a blessing that it was only a break up over the phone. Imagine if I was married to a woman who would do something like this and then go through a divorce with her.

I've had people "warn" me that I will one day regret not settling down with one woman, but it's not like I haven't tried. Why would I want to commit when women have broken up with me seemingly out of nowhere, cheated on me, or created constant drama and fights? It is not a healthy existence to be stuck with a contentious, unfaithful partner. The last partner I had was the nail in the coffin. I was crazy in love with her and willing to move for her and financially support her. Soon after I committed, she would talk shit to me, would start fights, and she eventually started hiding things on her phone from me. I'm fairly certain she went and fucked the "friend I don't need to worry about" soon after we broke up. Now I just don't see the point in ever committing to a monogamous partnership.

You can talk about "types of women," but I've been with many women from different socioeconomic and cultural backgrounds, ages and nationalities. Across the board, women (people) are all the same in essence. I don't hold resentment or bitterness towards my exes or women in general; I realized it's in their nature and they can't help it. Now that I've fully embraced being single and uncommitted, but also trying to be understanding of the female experience, my relationships with women have never been better. I now have mostly really positive experiences with women who seem to adore me despite me not committing anything and being honest about it. I have great sex, tender moments without getting into arguments or drama. So yeah, never getting married.

No it was created to keep society functioning

Otherwise 20% of the men would get 80% of the women

Society with a bunch of jealous, horny, and violent men would crumble

Modern harems for the top 20% is happening right now.

I would argue that it's against our nature but people have to do it to keep society functioning. But I'd also argue that modern society itself is against our nature.
But we can't force people to stay faithful and be healthy partners. It's so easy to become disillusioned when reality hits. It makes sense why marriage rates are falling and divorce rates are rising.

 

[Kenshi]

If you use a prenup, are you more likely to die a mysterious death and wife inherits everything?

Yes, you'll get Kurt Cobain'd cuz..

 

[ColemanwastheGOAT]

Here in the USA women are so intent on having equity in all arenas but they don't want marriage/divorce laws to be equitable.

You realize they don't want equity, right? No one does. People want to win. Women just want to win like everyone else.

It's actually really feminine to say 'hey but you said you wanted equity'. Who cares what they said? They said what they had to say to win.

 

[lsa]

They're nice ladies!

only when they get paid!!!

 

[Flower2dPeople]

Biologically speaking, we weren't meant to be in monogamous relationships. We we're meant to spread our seed and procreate. This monogamy shit is a human invention, created by the church.

And if I got annoyed by someone I can biologically overpower, I should kill them with my bare hands. Goddamn church!

 

[pugilistico]

You realize they don't want equity, right? No one does. People want to win. Women just want to win like everyone else.

It's actually really feminine to say 'hey but you said you wanted equity'. Who cares what they said? They said what they had to say to win.

I think the problem is that they might not actually be winning. In individual cases yes, but feminism and gender "equality" has made it increasingly difficult for women to find men for long-term partnership. This zero-sum approach to gender has made everybody lose. That's one of the narratives anyway.

 

[fingercuffs]

Lold imagien leting a woman get ovt3e on u like this
PatheticA!!!!

the TS is a woman. Sometimes women marry women.

 

[AFanNotAFighter]

You realize they don't want equity, right? No one does. People want to win. Women just want to win like everyone else.

It's actually really feminine to say 'hey but you said you wanted equity'. Who cares what they said? They said what they had to say to win.

Actually, women want equity but only when it benefits them. Otherwise, they aren't interested.

I'm actually all for equity. That means women in combat, and women signing up for Selective Service. No more "ladies first" shit either. First come, first serve. If a ship is sinking it ain't women into the lifeboats first.

 

[ObsoleteSoul]

No it was created to keep society functioning

Otherwise 20% of the men would get 80% of the women

Society with a bunch of jealous, horny, and violent men would crumble

For sure. Marriage is found almost everywhere on earth. Before any churchs were even there. Can’t really see how they are the cause of marriage, but I’m open to being wrong.

 

[Brom Bones]

Approaching 30 and she was still going to the bar 2-3 days a week, flat broke, credit cards, and taking relationship advice from her lesbian friends that got into actual fist fights with each other. Great lay though so you put up with a lot.

Things not divorced worthy but made it worse
Smoked
Got fat

I let fat go during her pregnancy (she had put on weight prior but was still reasonable) even though she got to 250, more than I weigh now after powerlifting for a few years. Let it slide for almost a year afterward because it is hard on women. She had done absolutely nothing about it though and was still 200ish.

Funny you listed "Got fat" as not divorce worthy, then went on a rant about her getting fat. Just admit that her getting fat was the main reason and the rest was just to justify it.

 

[Meatspin]

the TS is a woman. Sometimes women marry women.

Good to know. I won’t ask for a warranty card as validation