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Divorce thread....

I knew our relationship was fucked up shortly after we got married but we had an infant daughter so I hung in there for far too long. We finally split up for good in 2012. Which was one of the best things to ever happen to me. Oh, things were rough for a while & I wound up being on my own for quite a while afterward but it was what I needed.
If gave me the time to get my shit together & eventually I met the love of my life. Now, I'm remarried & living with her in a brand new home someplace beautiful that I'd have never dreamed of going to before. Much less living in.
So, do what you've got to do, man. It will hurt like hell at first but in the end, good things will come your way as a result of leaving an irreparable situation.
 
A lot of people don’t know it is over from the start for some couples.
 
What may be even worse in being with someone nine years, getting along with them very well as a roommate and friend but only staying together out of convenience. Should have broke up years before and found people more compatible for a romantic relationship but it's tough to do when you actually get along and respect each other.
 
Brandon Wilson said:
Biologically speaking, we weren't meant to be in monogamous relationships. We we're meant to spread our seed and procreate. This monogamy shit is a human invention, created by the church.
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Then explain why two parent households statistically produce more successful and psychologically healthy children.
 
One more thing, when things get physical, in a bad way, walk out. Doesn't matter if you can overpower or not.

P.s. let us know when you're done, we'll welcome you to the club and drink a shot to your newly acquired freedom.
 
After 4 years of living together plus 4 years of marriage, there came the day I was seriously worried that I was going to fill our house with teh uppercuts. I still loved my wife and didn't want to break our 4 year old son's heart. But I knew it was done that day. I've circled around our town in my car wishing I could go anywhere else but home. Filed for divorce the next day.
 
I've been through two divorces, and the only warning signs I saw was that they wanted to spend a lot more time with their girlfriends. A lot more girls' night out. Etc... Both ended having affairs on me, but never wanted to leave. They both had two kids with me each. Eventually, I found out because they left their emails on our computer signed on. The last one had about five lovers on Ashley Madison. Every time her lover suggested leaving their spouses and running away together, she dumped them. The funny thing is after all that, they always try to take you to the cleaners (empty your bank accounts and starting a new one saying that the new account was generated by family loans etc, empty your furniture, etc). I'm actually still battling on the second divorce, and after about losing about $100k in attorney fees after 3 years, it's still going on and I couldn't afford to continue to pay my attorneys. I have legal questions and was wondering if I can list them here because I'm unable to create a thread and ask them. Any objections if I list them here? Or can any California lawyers PM me for some help?
 
SowingSeason said:
When did you know it was over? Was it a look, an act, something that they said?

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SowingSeason said:
She's worse in a way. She learned her lesson about getting physical with me when I physically overpowered who once but now she's quick to call the cops and play the race card. She took my dog to a pound and dropped her off. Cleaned out my bank accounts and took the car. She's a nightmare.
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It's mind blowing to me that these two posts are from the same person. If you've gone this long and haven't realized you need to run, nothing anyone here says will change anything.
But just in case, IT'S TIME!
 
My ex and I got married too young and grew apart. Stayed married for 10 years and then had a drama free, amicable split.
 
cincymma79 said:
Approaching 30 and she was still going to the bar 2-3 days a week, flat broke, credit cards, and taking relationship advice from her lesbian friends that got into actual fist fights with each other. Great lay though so you put up with a lot.

Things not divorced worthy but made it worse
Smoked
Got fat

I let fat go during her pregnancy (she had put on weight prior but was still reasonable) even though she got to 250, more than I weigh now after powerlifting for a few years. Let it slide for almost a year afterward because it is hard on women. She had done absolutely nothing about it though and was still 200ish.
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Many girls use the pregnancy as an excuse to be fat for the rest of their lives.

I tell my girlfriends right away, if you get fat then I'm going to be an asshole because you care about how I treat you as much as I care about how you look. So if you want me to treat you fairly, then treat me fairly because men and women are attracted to different things and you don't get to have the best of me while being lazy and not letting me have the best of you. After that conversation, if they act like it shouldn't matter what they look like and I should love them no matter how they look, then it's over because they are guaranteed to get fat.
 
Samuraispiderma said:
I've been through two divorces, and the only warning signs I saw was that they wanted to spend a lot more time with their girlfriends. A lot more girls' night out. Etc... Both ended having affairs on me, but never wanted to leave. They both had two kids with me each. Eventually, I found out because they left their emails on our computer signed on. The last one had about five lovers on Ashley Madison. Every time her lover suggested leaving their spouses and running away together, she dumped them. The funny thing is after all that, they always try to take you to the cleaners (empty your bank accounts and starting a new one saying that the new account was generated by family loans etc, empty your furniture, etc). I'm actually still battling on the second divorce, and after about losing about $100k in attorney fees after 3 years, it's still going on and I couldn't afford to continue to pay my attorneys. I have legal questions and was wondering if I can list them here because I'm unable to create a thread and ask them. Any objections if I list them here? Or can any California lawyers PM me for some help?
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They were single moms when you met them?
 
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SowingSeason said:
She's worse in a way. She learned her lesson about getting physical with me when I physically overpowered who once but now she's quick to call the cops and play the race card. She took my dog to a pound and dropped her off. Cleaned out my bank accounts and took the car. She's a nightmare.
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