Divorce thread....

SowingSeason said:
When did you know it was over? Was it a look, an act, something that they said?

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Fighting all the time. She had mental health issues that she refused to consistently address and I was getting worried that our kid who was 3 or 4 at the time was seeing us constantly fighting or having to see her
Moms mental break downs. We went to counseling, the counselor eventually recommended a trial separation. 6 months later I saw how we still couldn’t get along and how much happier I was and decided not to go back.

Post divorce I hit all the usual tropes- ran around with some bartenders in their mid 20s, did the dating app thing, and threw myself into my job. Eventually I settled into my current relationship which is actually healthy and good. My business is good, relationship with the kid is good, and my girlfriend is awesome. Life kicks ass. Hang in there TS
 
SowingSeason said:
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lol, so true!
 
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as a dude with different culture when it comes to marriage etc can someone explain to me how this works? like when there is a divorce why does the man get his shit thrown out of the house and has to leave. I mean i am pretty sure in most of these cases they both own the house. what if the dude says fuck that I ain't leaving my own house because you want to break up.
 
I love her very much and I feel like every second of my life is just a reminder of that. It's truly awful.
 

tramendous said:
as a dude with different culture when it comes to marriage etc can someone explain to me how this works? like when there is a divorce why does the man get his shit thrown out of the house and has to leave. I mean i am pretty sure in most of these cases they both own the house. what if the dude says fuck that I ain't leaving my own house because you want to break up.
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It's a historical vestige from when women couldn't support themselves as readily as men could, and were financially supported by divorce. However, those images seem to convey "a boyfriend who moved in and can now see his way out" sort of situation.
 
Today has been really hard. I'm so depressed. I don't know what to do with myself.
 
Kinda knew mine was done because we never wanted to fuck each other but therapy nailed it. When the therapist asked her why she didn't want children she said "sometimes I think I would want a kid but not with him." I asked for a divorce that day. That was about 8 years ago and I'm happier than ever.
 
D Train said:
What was that like? Better than lawyers I assume.
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It was 90% great. Everything was done over the phone, e-mail and snail mail. I think the total cost was $4-5,000.

The only downside was that she (the mediator) tried to price gouge me for mailing documents. It was something like, I could either pick up the documents in her office (a 4 hour round trip) or she could mail them to me, BUT she wanted to charge me for 2 hours of her time which would have been $200-300 just to put some documents in an envelope and take them to the post office.

My solution was to hire someone from Fiverr and paid him like $60 to pick up the documents for me.

So other than that, the mediation process was great.
 
SowingSeason said:
Today has been really hard. I'm so depressed. I don't know what to do with myself.
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Hang in there brother and think positive. Things get better. I am feeling weirdly down at the moment too so I've been reminding myself that it's not normal to be down for too long. You can also come across as angry/asshole to others and that doesn't help the cause.

Plus, depression can got fuck itself sideways with a brick.
 
TheJewBear said:
It was 90% great. Everything was done over the phone, e-mail and snail mail. I think the total cost was $4-5,000.

The only downside was that she (the mediator) tried to price gouge me for mailing documents. It was something like, I could either pick up the documents in her office (a 4 hour round trip) or she could mail them to me, BUT she wanted to charge me for 2 hours of her time which would have been $200-300 just to put some documents in an envelope and take them to the post office.

My solution was to hire someone from Fiverr and paid him like $60 to pick up the documents for me.

So other than that, the mediation process was great.
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Why don’t more people do that?
 
D Train said:
Why don’t more people do that?
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Probably because their spouses aren't amicable.

My ex-wife and I didn't have much to argue about or fight over. She wasn't blood thirsty, thank god. She waived alimony and settled for a fair sum for child support. I offered to give her a lump of cash to get on her feet and pay for movers, etc. She stayed away from my retirement savings. It worked out well.
 
Samuraispiderma said:
I've been through two divorces, and the only warning signs I saw was that they wanted to spend a lot more time with their girlfriends. A lot more girls' night out. Etc... Both ended having affairs on me, but never wanted to leave. They both had two kids with me each. Eventually, I found out because they left their emails on our computer signed on. The last one had about five lovers on Ashley Madison. Every time her lover suggested leaving their spouses and running away together, she dumped them. The funny thing is after all that, they always try to take you to the cleaners (empty your bank accounts and starting a new one saying that the new account was generated by family loans etc, empty your furniture, etc). I'm actually still battling on the second divorce, and after about losing about $100k in attorney fees after 3 years, it's still going on and I couldn't afford to continue to pay my attorneys. I have legal questions and was wondering if I can list them here because I'm unable to create a thread and ask them. Any objections if I list them here? Or can any California lawyers PM me for some help?
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Try reddit legal advice.
 
I'm going to check in. Seven years into this shitshow of a marriage and I am ready to cash out on my second marriage. And by cash out, I mean I'll be give my soon to be ex a bunch of cash she did nothing to earn. I don't see how the institution of marriage can exist.
54 years old and on the verge of single. Fuck yeah! I got that going for me. On the bright side, pornography has vastly improved since my youth. Although what the fuck is with you weirdos who need the brother/sister senario?
 
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TheJewBear said:
Probably because their spouses aren't amicable.

My ex-wife and I didn't have much to argue about or fight over. She wasn't blood thirsty, thank god. She waived alimony and settled for a fair sum for child support. I offered to give her a lump of cash to get on her feet and pay for movers, etc. She stayed away from my retirement savings. It worked out well.
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Might be me too bro. Moving out tomorrow. Luckily we get along well, and genuinely respect each other. She's not blood thirsty, and I'm not looking to punish her. We have no debt, no mortgage, and a single shared bank account. As long as custody worked out fine I think we would be ok. Glad it worked for you sherbroseph.
 
She won't let me see my cat but at least I have my dog back in my custody. She cleared out all our savings and checking accounts. Luckily, I got paid the day after she cleaned me out. I have new accounts now. I've changed the locks and had her name removed from the lease. She keeps trying to get me to flip out. Luckily, I have somewhere I can stay and hide my dog in the mean time. I've tried twice to get a protective order but no luck.
 
MusclesMarinara said:
I'm going to check in. Seven years into this shitshow of a marriage and I am ready to cash out on my second marriage. And by cash out, I mean I'll be give my soon to be ex a bunch of cash she did nothing to earn. I don't see how the institution of marriage can exist.
54 years old and on the verge of single. Fuck yeah! I got that going for me. On the bright side, pornography has vastly improved since my youth. Although what the fuck is with you weirdos who need the brother/sister senario?
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You’ll be happy to know there is midget transsexual porn now
 
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