Dating and being dishonest about intentions

[bigkick]

Gah. How can you know if you want a relationship before testing things out? Carry on. Way of the world.

 

[koolinkunming]

The grief is deep. You don't know what I feel. I think about her every day .

All 21 of them. I’m sure the holes you’re plugging are helping you get over it real quick.

The fact that your dead girlfriend was relatively fresh in the ground and you are actively fucking other women .. almost immediately. I find this highly disturbing to be honest. But hey ho.. that's just my opinion..

Pretty much. The ground she’s buried under hasn’t even settled yet.

*After hearing the news.... “*sigh* well, she was a hell of a girl.....l loved her so......now time to dust off that old Tinder account.”

 

[Horse Style]

@Ippy, if I ever become as soft as some of the posters in this thread, just put a bullet in my head

 

[Satsui Ryu]

She passed away a few weeks ago and you are out trying to bang already? You sure you aren't the one who killed her?

 

[Judoka1532]

All 21 of them. I’m sure the holes you’re plugging are helping you get over it real quick.



Pretty much. The ground she’s buried under hasn’t even settled yet.

*After hearing the news.... “*sigh* well, she was a hell of a girl.....l loved her so......now time to dust off that old Tinder account.”

man that's a little steep to say to somebody who just lost a girlfriend. People have different ways of coping.

 

[koolinkunming]

man that's a little steep to say to somebody who just lost a girlfriend. People have different ways of coping.

Exactly........by finding a new one of course.

 

[Thai Otoshi]

@Ippy, if I ever become as soft as some of the posters in this thread, just put a bullet in my head

I haven't even read this thread, and have no intention to.

I read the OP the other day and decided to keep shit to myself.

I agree about the general sentiment regarding Sherdog relationship threads, though. Shit is just pitiful.

 

[koolinkunming]

Your projecting your attitude towards relationships outward. Your own relationship is based entirely on sex as evidenced by how you parade your wife around the forum like a piece of meat. That's clearly what she is to you.

You can't imagine a relationship beyond just the physical connection so you judge me based on your own shallow criteria. Feel sorry for your wife.

Ummm I’m not the one who would be getting horny after my lady dying a couple of weeks beforehand. In fact THAT is what shows a shallow emotional bond, and you know it. Otherwise you wouldn’t be asking this forum if you’re a bad person.

And that’s the truth.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

The fact that your dead girlfriend was relatively fresh in the ground and you are actively fucking other women .. almost immediately. I find this highly disturbing to be honest. But hey ho.. that's just my opinion..

I completely disagree with this guy lying, and using other people to get laid , but come on.
There is a difference between casual sex and getting into a relationship.

Your dick doesn't shut down when you get dumped or lose someone you love. If anything, the feeling of wanting someone could increase after you've just lost someone.
People handle grief in different ways. Some of the criticism in this thread is pretty callous .

 

[Rozko]

Don't be a cunt dude. Let them know right now you are looking for a quick fuck and open to something more if they catch your interest. Don't fuck with their heads.

 

[koolinkunming]

I feel bad for lying to new women about my desire for a relationship. You're so lacking in self awareness and respect for your wife that you take pics of her looking like one of the girls at the rub tug parlor to show off to strangers. There's nothing wrong with admiring and celebrating female beauty. I even complimented you on your wife last year but it's a bit cringey how you present her in your pics.

The relationship I had with my gf is over and went far beyond the physical. I don't know if I'll ever have the connection I had with her to another girl.

A lot of the people I know on this forum go back 12 years. Anyway, I’m not the one initiating the picture taking in any one of those pics and 99% of them are on Facebook anyway. Has nothing to do with respect, unless any of it was against her wishes, much less her own idea in which case I would see your point.

But yeah, anyway, back to your op (which is what this thread’s about) I don’t see your problem being just with new girls you meet in the 3 weeks time since your lady died, seems like it’s more a general thing.

 

[Revolver]

I always told chicks that I wasn’t looking for a relationship and they still always were down to slam. But I’m super good looking so I can’t really blame them.

 

[IloveTHIS]

LMAO at thinking all the women actually mean it when they put that garbage in their profile.

It's only to make themselves feel less slutty meeting up and banging dozens of dudes from tinder on their first date. "Oh it just felt right and he was special"

 

[Falconkick]

2 years? I think you're the psychopath here

The longer your with someone the longer it takes for people to get over it usually...in OP case he was with her for 3 days than she passed

 

[Steven_Universe]

Don't be a cunt dude. Let them know right now you are looking for a quick fuck and open to something more if they catch your interest. Don't fuck with their heads.

He won’t get laid that way.

Women like being lied to.

You can’t go around asking women to have sex with you. It’s a turn off.

 

[SmilinDesperado]

And yea, girls are not going to put "DTF" on their Tinder profiles. They are ALL going to say "no one nights/relationships only".
They don't want to come across looking like hoes, and 2, if they advertised that they were DTF, then EVERY fucking dildo would be hitting them up to try and get some.

Unless a girl is either religious, or really has some conservative values, I have met very few girls that actually have and stick to a 'no sex before X amount days" rule. If they're into you, if you have game, and the time and mood is right, most girls will be down. I've been with a couple Catholic 'virgins' that weren't as conservative as they had initially led me to believe.

And for the OP, I understand physical 'needs', but those needs shouldn't come at the expense of other people's needs. You can't go around saying "damnnn i need to nut' and use that as an excuse to play with the emotional needs of a female.
I'd also say that I would be careful about using sex as a sort of anti-depressant medication. Sex can easily cloud feelings and make things confusing. And sex will obviously lead you to a relationship quicker---after a gf/SO dies, jumping back into a new relationship weeks later isn't very smart, imo--and not very fair to the new girl either. You should spend some time on your own and work out your own shit for a bit. Sex comes with some consequences

 

[MaxMMA]

Just tell them you are looking for new friends and be honest about it. I met 2 chicks when i was single that legit turned into cool friends that I hung out with lots of times no sex involved.

While you are sorting through girls to be friends with there will be plenty that will take it to the next level on their own.

Eventually if you're lucky you'll meet one that is relationship material and you won't have fucked it up by coming across as a lying manwhore, which is what you're coming across as now lol.

 

[koolinkunming]

It's not a problem, but if you want to talk shit then do your thing.

Your OP made it sound like it was a problem. Not shit talking, just telling you how it looks, as others have pointed out.

Good luck to you and your hookups.

Oh, and RIP to the lady.

 

[Curmudgeon]

You implied that I was disrespectful to her memory. She's dead so it doesn't matter who I have sex with now. The only problem I saw was in lying to get laid, which, with input from other sherdogs, I've accepted is wrong.

You went out of your way to be an asshole about her only recently being dead and talked about our relationship in a very disrespectful manner. I was there every day before she passed except one because I had to work during visiting hours. I am helping her family and will continue to help them for years to come.

You don't know what I am doing and came simply to talk shit. I'm helping her daughter and will always be there for her. If I'm off work and want cheap, easy sex I will do it, without lying to new women in the future, and it doesn't disrespect my girlfriend. Fuck you for suggesting it. I would burn in hell to bring her back. Fuck you for disrespecting our relationship. You cunt.

Lol when all else fails, play the victim card...

 

[Nimrod]

I completely disagree with this guy lying, and using other people to get laid , but come on.
There is a difference between casual sex and getting into a relationship.

Your dick doesn't shut down when you get dumped or lose someone you love. If anything, the feeling of wanting someone could increase after you've just lost someone.
People handle grief in different ways. Some of the criticism in this thread is pretty callous .

When the OP is originally callous what do you expect the reply to be? The guy is lying and fucking his way though a bunch of women.. a week after a supposed love of his life died pretty much suddenly.

Your talking about callous... ?