Can a Prostitute Truly Ever Love?

[TeTe]

My best friend's sister in law is a prostitute and it was funny listening to her go on the last time I saw her at his house.

She said something like "I just want a guy that I can see once a week, and go out on a date and have amazing sex with and that's it."

That blew my mind. I felt like asking her if she could really differentiate. But I thought better of it.

 

[Bukowski82]

Most strippers I've come across are prostitutes, and they aren't some emotionless, alien beings. They probably have more issues and addictions than the average, but a lot of them are just attracted to the quick money. I've talked to a good number of them while watching fights, and most say they do it to cash out. Some are funding college. Like Mike said, unless they're sociopaths they can love.

This. A good buddy of mine who's a real straight laced type of guy started dating this stripper he met at a stripclub and paid for sex. They just kept talking, found some common ground and kept seeing each other outside of the club. Finally, he told her that he wasn't going to pay for it anymore if they were going to keep seeing each other and that she couldn't be fucking other guys. She agreed and they started going out. Me and his other friends told him to just enjoy it and not get too attached or be surprised if she didn't stop her extra 'extra' curricular activities. He was insistent that we had to meet her to understand that she would.

Anyways, we're out one night, just the guys, going to bars/clubs. Halfway through the night, my friend decides he's going to invite her out so we can all meet her, so he does and she shows up... And it didn't take me even five minutes to start eating my words. This girl was amazing. Not overly sexy or cliche', but extremely pretty. Cute even. And she was a sweetheart. Very engaging, intelligent and funny. She was doing shots with us and took the time to get to know each of us personally throughout the course of the night and introduce herself. At the end of the night, she took us all out for Chinese food. Everyone was really impressed with this girl. While me and her were talking, she preemptively talked about the elephant in the room and explained that she was in a Masters Degree Program at UW and had just genuinely liked stripping and the fact that it allowed her to finish her education comfortably, though she didn't mention the other part of her job. We all really enjoyed hanging out with that girl and gave my boy the thumbs up.

They never stopped dating. She quit stripping pretty soon after that, got a regular job and finished her education. They just moved to Manhattan for his job with Facebook and have the seemingly best relationship out of any of my other friends. Actually just got a corny Christmas card of them and their cat.

 

[Bob Gray]

Of course. It's a case by case basis, though. I've actually had friends that have been escorts, one of whom was a 300+ lb dominatrix who sat on people's faces for a living. But she was one of the nicest people I ever met. Go figure.

 

[MikeMcMann]

Pathetic.

You do realize that one of the most accepted positions in marriage history is that women throughout history have tended to marry for money and security and not love, right?

By far the biggest genre of women's novels are the Harlequin Romance type where women are fighting between 2 loves. the man she lusts for and wants but knows is risky and the man she knows is a good and stable man, who will take care of her and love her deeply and provide a home for her family but whom she is not passionate about.

this story has been repeated non-stop throughout human history.

When you think about that, what truly is the big difference between that and a woman who prostitutes herself other than the prostitute is being more honest and not faking ever lasting love to the man.

 

[mushishi]

Sure, why not? Everyone is broken and damaged to a certain degree. It doesn't keep them from wanting and/or needing human interaction and connection.

 

[Harmonica]

You do realize that one of the most accepted positions in marriage history is that women throughout history have tended to marry for money and security and not love, right?

By far the biggest genre of women's novels are the Harlequin Romance type where women are fighting between 2 loves. the man she lusts for and wants but knows is risky and the man she knows is a good and stable man, who will take care of her and love her deeply and provide a home for her family but whom she is not passionate about.

this story has been repeated non-stop throughout human history.

When you think about that, what truly is the big difference between that and a woman who prostitutes herself other than the prostitute is being more honest and not faking ever lasting love to the man.

Of course I am aware of it. It's just that none of it applies to women I am surrounded with.

 

[BajaMaliKnindza]

My ex-girlfriend was an escort. They can definitely love, but there is some emotional baggage like you wouldn't believe. Like she loves me more now than she ever did in our relationship. She's got her master's degree and is quite successful, but love is difficult for her, both giving and receiving it.

So whilst you were buying her presents, kissing her cheeks, and pampering her, other guys were dropping loads in her...

You my friend are the definition of a beta/cuck..

 

[fightingrabbit]

This. A good buddy of mine who's a real straight laced type of guy started dating this stripper he met at a stripclub and paid for sex. They just kept talking, found some common ground and kept seeing each other outside of the club. Finally, he told her that he wasn't going to pay for it anymore if they were going to keep seeing each other and that she couldn't be fucking other guys. She agreed and they started going out. Me and his other friends told him to just enjoy it and not get too attached or be surprised if she didn't stop her extra 'extra' curricular activities. He was insistent that we had to meet her to understand that she would.

Anyways, we're out one night, just the guys, going to bars/clubs. Halfway through the night, my friend decides he's going to invite her out so we can all meet her, so he does and she shows up... And it didn't take me even five minutes to start eating my words. This girl was amazing. Not overly sexy or cliche', but extremely pretty. Cute even. And she was a sweetheart. Very engaging, intelligent and funny. She was doing shots with us and took the time to get to know each of us personally throughout the course of the night and introduce herself. At the end of the night, she took us all out for Chinese food. Everyone was really impressed with this girl. While me and her were talking, she preemptively talked about the elephant in the room and explained that she was in a Masters Degree Program at UW and had just genuinely liked stripping and the fact that it allowed her to finish her education comfortably, though she didn't mention the other part of her job. We all really enjoyed hanging out with that girl and gave my boy the thumbs up.

They never stopped dating. She quit stripping pretty soon after that, got a regular job and finished her education. They just moved to Manhattan for his job with Facebook and have the seemingly best relationship out of any of my other friends. Actually just got a corny Christmas card of them and their cat.

Yeah, but she still fucked random dudes for money.

 

[MikeMcMann]

Of course I am aware of it. It's just that none of it applies to women I am surrounded with.

well that is great.

But I doubt any woman is admitting to 'settling' while still in the relationship. What you hear once she leaves the marriage (and 7-8 of 10 divorces are reportedly initiated by the woman) is that the man would not change. He would not listen and change.

Why does she need him to change? Because he was not the man she was in love with when she married him but she romanticized he could become that man and then reality sets in and she leaves.

 

[Bukowski82]

Yeah, but she still fucked random dudes for money.

This is true... But I've talked with him about this and essentially his point is that what's the difference between a girl that fucks some dude after demanding he pay for dinner and drinks the entire night. Which, though I essentially agree with you, I find to be a pretty compelling argument. Both women are in control of who and how they have sex and make the call to do so.

 

[SoberAwakening]

So whilst you were buying her presents, kissing her cheeks, and pampering her, other guys were dropping loads in her...

You my friend are the definition of a beta/cuck..

don't know where you got that idea, but ok. Usually the people who talk in terms of alpha/beta are truly the betas while the rest of us are being productive leaders of society.

 

[LatFlare]

Yeah, but she still fucked random dudes for money.

how many girls do you know that haven't fucked a random dude for free?

of course hookers can fall in love but spending years having sex with people for money rather than because you;re attracted to them must surely have some effect on how they handle intimate relationships.

 

[BajaMaliKnindza]

don't know where you got that idea, but ok. Usually the people who talk in terms of alpha/beta are truly the betas while the rest of us are being productive leaders of society.

Yeah you keep telling yourself that... John..
Couldnt find a normal girl so you had to settle for a hooker

 

[LatFlare]

don't know where you got that idea, but ok. Usually the people who talk in terms of alpha/beta are truly the betas while the rest of us are being productive leaders of society.

he mad coz he had to pay to fuck the girl you banged for free

 

[LatFlare]

Yeah you keep telling yourself that... John..
Couldnt find a normal girl so you had to settle for a hooker

did you get turned away from a brothel or something bro? so madd

 

[Harmonica]

well that is great.

But I doubt any woman is admitting to 'settling' while still in the relationship. What you hear once she leaves the marriage (and 7-8 of 10 divorces are reportedly initiated by the woman) is that the man would not change. He would not listen and change.

Why does she need him to change? Because he was not the man she was in love with when she married him but she romanticized he could become that man and then reality sets in and she leaves.

Good point from the phenomenological aspect and I came to similar conclusions myself but I am glad to say that still none of that applies to me.

Women, and people in general, who marry out of love are making a huge mistake thinking that love will last throughout their entire marriage in the exact form in which it exists at the beginning of their relationship. They feel the fire and want to burn even more passionately than they do now. What comes as a disappointment to them is that those feelings change over time. They get cold, the opposite of what they wanted. It's not that it's not love, it is, but it is a much different kind of love than what they are used to. As time goes on, it transforms into companionship. Marriage isn't about love. Love is a big plus, nobody is disputing that, but marriage is about sowing the future by procreating and properly raising the future generation.

 

[Hogey]

Yes. I don't think love is something that is universally a feeling that allow people expirence in the same way.

 

[SoberAwakening]

Yeah you keep telling yourself that... John..
Couldnt find a normal girl so you had to settle for a hooker

yup, that had to be it because that's the only way people meet and date in that situation. Stop watching movies and come join the real world.

 

[Harmonica]

how many girls do you know that haven't fucked a random dude for free?

Incidentally, a lot. And in my book, fucking a random guy for pleasure is a lot different than fucking a random guy for money.

 

[llama de lrey]

Can someone who was once a prostitute ever really love someone?

Would someone who has sold their body for sex, down to since their virginity ever truly love?

I've read that sex is just a job for the prostiute.

A prostitute will always love you, no matter who you are or what you look like.--Chef from South Park

Hmmmm

Discuss

How is this any different than the many people who've fucked 50-200 different people off POF and Tinder? At least the prostitute was smart enough to charge for it.