Hey Donnie,
As you know I am Ryan's girlfriend. I'm sure you are writing this trying to protect me and not simply to make up information to damage Ryan's credibility for no reason other than the lies Lloyd has obviously told you about why Ryan left (as seen by the things you are saying). You of all people should know the real reason and the issues they were having for over a year before Ryan left the team so it would be helpful to everyone if you didn't make shit up.
You also know that Ryan never makes the first move towards anyone. He is always polite and nice until someone makes him do otherwise. The difference between Ryan and most people is that he does not tolerate douche bag behavior. Most DB's are not used to being called out for it and get offended when Ryan calls them out in front of others. For them, it's easier to blame Ryan for being a "big meanie" instead of accepting that they stepped over the line because that would mean they have to adjust their poor behavior.
Not being afraid to call someone out for being a DB or an asshole regardless of the consequences and who is watching may not always be the smartest thing politically because it does make you some enemies. But it doesn't make you bipolar, it makes you a real man.
As far as my thumb being broken. I'm sure you brought that up because you had my best interests at heart and not because you just wanted to slam him for accidentally injuring a training partner. Because no one here has ever seen anyone accidentally hurt during training...
Yes, it's true that in the 6+ years I've trained with Ryan, that one time when Ryan was training for ADCC, I had to work in as a partner because he didn't have enough people to rotate in. Normally, we try not to train together when he is in competition mode since he's 50lbs heavier than me (about half my weight). And he accidentally broke my thumb. Well, we learned that I shouldn't be training with him during comp training because it's hard for him to go at the pace he needs and protect me from injury at the same time due to the size difference. Even though the break wasn't bad enough to keep me off the mats for even a single day, it was enough to show us that it wasn't a good idea to try to train hard together.
But this wasn't a big secret. I actually told everyone I talked to at the time about it because I thought it was so funny because he felt so bad about it. As a girlfriend I did what we girls do in that situation, and I milked his embarrassment over it for all I could get out if it, lol! I earned a lot of extra private jiu-jitsu lessons and many dinners out in his attempts to make up for accidentally hurting me.
But I do appreciate that you were so worried about my well-being that you tried to talk to me about it privately instead of going anonymously onto a message board to slam Ryan for it.
Edited to add: He didn't even break my thumb at 50/50 so I'm amazed that you were able to find people there who SAW it happen, lol! It happened while we were in NYC training at a friend's academy. But your facts were close.