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Both my wife and I are over 50. With the purchase of a new home, we've been chewing on each other more than our normal. With most of the work done, it doesn't seem to be a passing phase.
We can't sell the house (as it would represent too great of a financial loss) and my wife has slim employment opportunities. Yet it has been in discussion. Never say never.
Financial stressors definitely play a role. Particularly if one party was the key driver of the event that caused the financial stressor. Good Luck to you both.
If the new home is the cause of the financial stress, and was primarily your wife's doing, you might look for some constructive ways to express your rage at that and forgive her. Particularly if she is not feeling very contrite about it at the moment. If it was primarily your doing, you would not believe how impactful a simple acknowledgement and some acts of contrition might be. If she was the one driving it, and bowed down with a sincere mea culpa and offered ways to make amends, imagine how much of your steam that might release.
Hope it works out for you guys.