Anyone actually get laid on tinder?

[CaptHANDSUP]

Been using tinder for 6-7 years now and spoke to 2000 or more women and only got laid three times. I was in a relationship with one of them for 2.5 years so at least i had that going for me.

It seems there are two types of guys on tinder, the few that are pulling in chicks 24/7 and the many who couldnt even meet one girl no matter how hard they tried.

These two groups exist irl interactions too but it seems like the gap between them is much bigger on tinder.

I am part of the latter group, the worst part is i actually regularly match with a lot of really hot girls (9s) and get a lot of matches in general but i can never get them to meet irl before getting ghosted. I dont have the social skills for it.

It really feels like torture matching with someone everytime and starting the conversation knowing you will eventually get ghosted but you have to keep doing it because you have no other means to meet women since your friends dont want to go out into public.

It feels like that endless nightmare were you are running up the stairs hoping to reach the top but you never do, you keep running until you are so exhausted that you are crawling but you still cant stop moving, because you have to reach the top. But you never do. I had this nightmare regularly for a couple of years. To the point where later on i would realize i am in the dream and id start to panic because id know i would have to run up the stairs until my feet get worn down to their bones. Luckily i dont have that dream anymore.

Sometimes i just hope i get ghosted on the first message because i know how much worst it feels to get ghosted later on when you have dedicated a lot of time and energy into this person and maybe even formed a bit of an attachment. And i think out of the 2000+ women i spoke to, only 2-3 said we are not a good match and shouldnt talk anymore. Every other one just stopped replying one day, no explanation or anything. Even the ones you talked to for weeks or months just one day stop replaying.

Edit: a lot of people saying i must be ugly but if i was i wouldnt even make this thread. Id understand why i am not getting laid and give up. I get a fuck ton of matches and most of them are 7.5+ with a good deal of 9s. I dont like to go on the internet and claim i am decent or good looking but i need to point that out to put this thread into context.

 

[Noveltymortar]

Since your approach seems not to be working you should change it. Maybe you're coming on too strong and they're smelling desperation.

 

[Squintz]

6-7 years and only laid 3 times? What?!? How is that even possible.

 

[CaptHANDSUP]

Since your approach seems not to be working you should change it. Maybe you're coming on too strong and they're smelling desperation.

I have tried every approach in the book. Id have to be a real idiot to just keep trying the same thing over and over.

In fact i think ive been coming off more disinterested if anything. I know they will ghost me so i am too scared to put any effort in leading to my success rate lowering. Most of the girls i met for dates or banged were actually early on.

 

[Noveltymortar]

I have tried every approach in the book. Id have to be a real idiot to just keep trying the same thing over and over.

In fact i think ive been coming off more disinterested if anything. I know they will ghost me so i am too scared to put any effort in leading to my success rate lowering. Most of the girls i met for dates or banged were actually early on.

Sounds very frustrating. Try a different site?

 

[CaptHANDSUP]

Sounds very frustrating. Try a different site?

Theyre all owned by match group so are basically the same thing. I have tried bumble, hinge, and okcupid.

 

[Misfit23]

The trick is not being ugly.

 

[CaptHANDSUP]

The trick is not being ugly.

In my experience thats not the case. Like i said i match with 9s all the time and have a lot of matches in general. Its after we match that i fail everytime.

So i think thats just a myth that tinder is all about looks. For guys it is, for girls its just the first prerequisite.

 

[ThaiSexPills]

I’ve probably nailed 50 chicks on tinder in like a year and a half.

If you’ve cast your net to 2000 fish and they swam away, you need to try something different man.

I’m not a particularly handsome man either incase you were wondering. Tinder girls don’t care though, post a few pics of yourself having fun and you with your dog and have even just a tiny bit of game and you’ll bury it

 

[Simian Raticus]

Just my experience, but I've found that women on tinder want you to move things forward.

I don't mean come out of the gate swinging with the "let's fuck" talk, but just don't fuck around too long with the chit-chat. They're on there because they wanna meet guys. So offer to meet up. A simple coffee is a very easy, non-threatening first encounter.

 

[CaptHANDSUP]

I’ve probably nailed 50 chicks on tinder in like a year and a half.

If you’ve cast your net to 2000 fish and they swam away, you need to try something different man.

I dont have anything else to try. I cant go and meet women irl unless i go into bars by myself since my friends dont want to go out. Tried every dating app and tried every possible approach in these apps.

The last thing i can actually solve/change is replaying more quickly. These days i feel so much ptsd messaging girls that sometimes i take between 1-5 days to replay to them. But i dont think thatll be enough. I was already doing that the first 2-3 years and even then i barely got anything.

I think i have a bit of aspergers which makes it really hard for me to communicate with people unless i can see their face/body language. Even irl im quite awkward but thats where most of my hookups have happened so i must be worse on the internet.

 

[Law Talkin’ Guy]

Try to match with some 6/7s and you’ll probably be more often able to close the deal. Maybe even some 4/5s if you really want to hit below your weight class.

 

[William Huggins]

Just my experience, but I've found that women on tinder want you to move things forward.

I don't mean come out of the gate swinging with the "let's fuck" talk, but just don't fuck around too long with the chit-chat. They're on there because they wanna meet guys. So offer to meet up. A simple coffee is a very easy, non-threatening first encounter.

What happens if they don't like coffee........IRL

 

[William Huggins]

Try to match with some 6/7s and you’ll probably be more often able to close the deal. Maybe even some 4/5s if you really want to hit below your weight class.

What happens if the 6/7's are really 2/3's with filters, makeup and good lighting....... IRL

 

[CaptHANDSUP]

Just my experience, but I've found that women on tinder want you to move things forward.

I don't mean come out of the gate swinging with the "let's fuck" talk, but just don't fuck around too long with the chit-chat. They're on there because they wanna meet guys. So offer to meet up. A simple coffee is a very easy, non-threatening first encounter.

I think this is a good idea. I take way too long to ask for a date or coffee because when i do i get turned down anyway so i figure i will wait later in the conversation to ask but i might as well just ask early and save myself the pain. Its not gonna get any worst i might as well just ask them out after a few messages(?) and save myself the trouble.

The worst part about all this is that i am actually kind of hypersexual. I have no material desires and live a simple life. I dont care about clothes watches nice houses. All i care about is doing martial arts, watching combat sports, and getting laid a lot and after 10 years of trying im basically giving up on the third one.

Again, i am quite goodlooking. I dont like to say this but i have to in order to put my ordeal into context. I would have given up a lot earlier if i was ugly. Id be delusional if i thought i could get laid all the time as a 5-7.

 

[Law Talkin’ Guy]

What happens if the 6/7's are really 2/3's with filters, makeup and good lighting....... IRL

Then he may actually have a shot.

 

[Law Talkin’ Guy]

 

[Garnet_StrongerThanYou]

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lol at filter by size.

 

[Garnet_StrongerThanYou]

I’ve slept with a lot of women on Tinder as well.

Easily around 30 in about 3 years.

But it’s been a bit dry for me lately too since COVID.

Maybe too many people are using it at once.

You should practice hollering at random girls in public the way us black guys do.

It works on the younger ones especially. They’ll just come back to your house and smoke a joint and have sex with you. You don’t have to to take them on dates or anything or spend money.

You’d be shocked how many 18-22 year old girls are just casually having sex with 30+ year old men.

 

[William Huggins]

I think this is a good idea. I take way too long to ask for a date or coffee because when i do i get turned down anyway so i figure i will wait later in the conversation to ask but i might as well just ask early and save myself the pain. Its not gonna get any worst i might as well just ask them out after a few messages(?) and save myself the trouble.

The worst part about all this is that i am actually kind of hypersexual. I have no material desires and live a simple life. I dont care about clothes watches nice houses. All i care about is doing martial arts, watching combat sports, and getting laid a lot and after 10 years of trying im basically giving up on the third one.

Again, i am quite goodlooking. I dont like to say this but i have to in order to put my ordeal into context. I would have given up a lot earlier if i was ugly. Id be delusional if i thought i could get laid all the time as a 5-7.

Maybe a good escort service would be a better idea..........