Been using tinder for 6-7 years now and spoke to 2000 or more women and only got laid three times. I was in a relationship with one of them for 2.5 years so at least i had that going for me.
It seems there are two types of guys on tinder, the few that are pulling in chicks 24/7 and the many who couldnt even meet one girl no matter how hard they tried.
These two groups exist irl interactions too but it seems like the gap between them is much bigger on tinder.
I am part of the latter group, the worst part is i actually regularly match with a lot of really hot girls (9s) and get a lot of matches in general but i can never get them to meet irl before getting ghosted. I dont have the social skills for it.
It really feels like torture matching with someone everytime and starting the conversation knowing you will eventually get ghosted but you have to keep doing it because you have no other means to meet women since your friends dont want to go out into public.
It feels like that endless nightmare were you are running up the stairs hoping to reach the top but you never do, you keep running until you are so exhausted that you are crawling but you still cant stop moving, because you have to reach the top. But you never do. I had this nightmare regularly for a couple of years. To the point where later on i would realize i am in the dream and id start to panic because id know i would have to run up the stairs until my feet get worn down to their bones. Luckily i dont have that dream anymore.
Sometimes i just hope i get ghosted on the first message because i know how much worst it feels to get ghosted later on when you have dedicated a lot of time and energy into this person and maybe even formed a bit of an attachment. And i think out of the 2000+ women i spoke to, only 2-3 said we are not a good match and shouldnt talk anymore. Every other one just stopped replying one day, no explanation or anything. Even the ones you talked to for weeks or months just one day stop replaying.
Edit: a lot of people saying i must be ugly but if i was i wouldnt even make this thread. Id understand why i am not getting laid and give up. I get a fuck ton of matches and most of them are 7.5+ with a good deal of 9s. I dont like to go on the internet and claim i am really good looking but i need to point that out to put this thread into context.
