Relationships Amicably divorced couples

[StM682]

Oh shush, fuck sake haha. You're just clutching at straws now. I understand that some insecure men can't cope with their women being friends with men, but that's their problem. And most of the time they have proper drag them by the hair caveman issues, which...not particularly healthy. I'm not something that's owned. I'm not someone's property.

How in the fuck am I interfering in their marriage? I haven't seen him since 2018, you really are clutching pearls here with something that isn't an issue whatsoever. And I'm supposed to be the woman in this exchange.

Ok fine one more... You are being the woman, you are delusional. You clearly do not understand what emotional infidelity is. You are talking to your EX ABOUT HIS MARRIAGE PROBLEMS. You are interfering with his marriage. You shouldn't know anything about his marriage. Do I have to post the same thing for you a 4th time?

For god sakes you are lost.

 

[fingercuffs]

Ok fine one more... You are being the woman, you are delusional. You clearly do not understand what emotional infidelity is. You are talking to your EX ABOUT HIS MARRIAGE PROBLEMS. You are interfering with his marriage. You shouldn't know anything about his marriage. Do I have to post the same thing for you a 4th time?

For god sakes you are lost.

Where have I said I talk to him about his marriage problems? The last time was flippin aaaaages ago. Like a decade ago. I have no idea why you are being such a curtain twitching woman about this. It's really weird.

 

[fingercuffs]

Christ I know he's only with her for the kids but I'm not intruding, I never bring it up. We live half way around the world ffs.

 

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[Only Here for Attachments]

I would pay to watch my ex-wives die, but apparently not everyone is like that <45>

 

[Alphaboy]

We just used to argue about stupid bullshit and tried all the counselling stuff. It was pretty apparent that it wasn't a good environment to bring a child up in so we had a talk and came to the decision that we'd both be happier if we split up and it worked out great. She's married and I get on well with her husband, I get to spend loads of time with my daughter and it turns out I don't mind my ex in small doses.

All good.

Good to hear man. I respect doing what's best for the kids, it isn't always easy.

 

[Alphaboy]

Sorry but any man who lets a woman keep an EX as a friend is weak and quite honestly its unnatural. Men are not wired that way. You are committing Emotional Infidelity. His Ex wife is clearly not ok with it.

Are you against it the other way around as well?

I would pay to watch my ex-wives die, but apparently not everyone is like that <45>

Damn. Lol

 

[TeTe]

I'm still sort of friends with my ex of nine years. Granted we were never married. Before I moved here 2.5 years ago, we still hung out with mutual friends from time to time even when she was dating someone else and they were around too. I didn't care.

I still talk to her from time to time now and ask how she's doing and we talk about what's going on each other lives.

Thing is we met when she was 19 and I was 26. After about five or six years we both started changing and grew apart in a romantic sense. We made great roommates and friends but we just kind of moved on emotionally. We really just stayed together out of convenience as she was working a lot and going to grad school and I was off doing my own thing most of the time.

It ended with us cheating on each other but it was probably the best thing that ever happened because it was the catalyst that caused us to finally break up. I harbor no resentment or anger toward her. It just wasn't meant to be. I still wish the best for her and her happiness. She's living with some guy now that's good for her and she deserves it.

 

[Grrrr]

I would pay to watch my ex-wives die, but apparently not everyone is like that <45>

I'm not quite that bad...but I definitely wouldn't shed a tear if anything happened. It would suck for my boys and watching them hurt would be brutal though.

 

[HunterSdVa29]

i have a pretty damn good coparenting relationship w/ my ex wife

not like weird friendly or anything, she's remarried, but we're all cool

 

[colby25]

Where is the disrespect here? And with regard to my ex's wife. She is not in the slightest bit a nice woman. She never has been. He's with her for the sake of his children. And don't try and school me on that when you don't know the full situation.

And what am I "doing"?

Eh you're playing with fire. Everyone can see it.

You're married (i think)...He's married. And he's driving 8 hours to deliver suit cases? C'mon. I'd be surprised if more hasn't happened then what your letting on.

And i don't mean that to be disrespectful. It's honest truth. One of you guys still have it for each other, possibly both, otherwise you wouldn't be still talking to each other.

 

[SalvadorAllende]

I wasn't married but had a GF for 7 years (including 5+ of living together, buying a house, 2 cars, having cats, etc)...

We get along great. The break up was pretty clean and we both moved on pretty quickly. We had zero problems splitting everything close to 50/50.

I got to know his current boyfriend (really nice guy) and she met the girl I have been dating for a while. We hanged out a couple of times with other common friends and we were super cool.
She still signs my rent contracts as my warrant.

I think the breaking up show the true nature of your couple. If the relationship was healthy you only want the best for the other person.

 

[Provocateur]

I'm still sort of friends with my ex of nine years. Granted we were never married. Before I moved here 2.5 years ago, we still hung out with mutual friends from time to time even when she was dating someone else and they were around too. I didn't care.

I still talk to her from time to time now and ask how she's doing and we talk about what's going on each other lives.

Thing is we met when she was 19 and I was 26. After about five or six years we both started changing and grew apart in a romantic sense. We made great roommates and friends but we just kind of moved on emotionally. We really just stayed together out of convenience as she was working a lot and going to grad school and I was off doing my own thing most of the time.

It ended with us cheating on each other but it was probably the best thing that ever happened because it was the catalyst that caused us to finally break up. I harbor no resentment or anger toward her. It just wasn't meant to be. I still wish the best for her and her happiness. She's living with some guy now that's good for her and she deserves it.

Just tell me your Ex is not the chick in your av, because if it is then you should rethink your life.

 

[ultimateriley-o]

I got divorced last year after ten years of marriage. She lives in the US, I’m in Canada. We still talk regularly, she’s a good friend.

 

[Nabs]

Yeah we just didn't have chemistry. And we were both stubborn so I would try to bang and she'd say shave your beard and then I'd grow it longer out of spite. I think it was just us both making excuses because we didn't want each other physically. Then when it came to finances, movies, humor, food, vacations, home decor, etc we were eye to eye.

Was it the same way before y'all got married?

 

[Provocateur]

I got divorced last year after ten years of marriage. She lives in the US, I’m in Canada. We still talk regularly, she’s a good friend.

What was the breaking point? I assume she wasn't banging your brother or something otherwise you probably wouldn't still be friends.

 

[Nabs]

No offense but truly you are a disrespectful spouse to your husband and person to your Exs wife. Your Exs Wife should have gave him an ultimatum a long time ago to either get rid of you completely or leave the relationship.

Your husband is obviously a weak man for letting this happen. This is the truth whether you like it or not.

Gotta agree w that. No disrespect but based on her other threads/comments, there just seems to be a lot of confusion and delusions with her. I just don't get the happy and fulfilled vibe from her. She's still looking for something...

 

[Nabs]

I would pay to watch my ex-wives die, but apparently not everyone is like that <45>

ROTFLMAO! I spit my coffee out on my fucking laptop!!!!

 

[dc007]

Was it the same way before y'all got married?

Pretty much but not as bad as after since it was still new. She was the opposite of all the girls I dated before, classy, smart, educated, successful and a good person so I thought that's what you're supposed to do. Turns out I was wrong and now I'm back to sluts. Although in fairness my new girl is all those good things and still a freak in the sack so I'm going to keep her for a while.

 

[Noveltymortar]

Lots of variables with divorce. While I haven't talked to my ex wife in years I could be friendly with her no problem. Sometimes people just drift apart. Now, if she had taken half my stuff or cheated on me then naturally I would not be so magnanimous!