In short- Do any posters have any tips on how to defend against getting submitted (by a BJJ blue belt), in a back yard grappling situation? No strikes, no penalty for refusing to engage, basically he has to catch and submit me. Long story- Feel free to skip the rest of the post. Basically one of my friends threatened to have our BJJ friend "rape" me during a pub argument. The BJJ guy will often make people he knows tap to him while drinking (a weird sexual thing maybe?), but I wrestled freestyle for a couple years in junior school, basically one of the only schoolboy clubs in Australia at the time and I was p4p (and probably the open weight, despite being super light) best. Obviously a proud wrestler isn't going to so easily concede defeat here, and I protested that if I just refused to engage it would be almost impossible for our blue belt friend to sub me. (I'm envisioning a shut out Shaub style here). My wrestling credentials were laughed at and basically they both think I will be "raped" (their, quite troubling, words) in seconds. Now what should I do to survive? I haven't grappled since "sixth grade" in 2002, though played rugby union and 1, 2, 3 pin bullrush and other grappling games every week throughout high school. He outweighs me by at least 15 pounds but is 6'2 compared to my 5'10, he also doesn't lift, just does BJJ. I do, religiously, and therefore should be a fair bit stronger. Whenever he's tried "moves" on me before I've been able to shrug him off quite easily, for example I claimed I could easily just stand up out of his guard one night when he was getting boastful of his amazing skills and after starting in his closed guard did just that. So, because of that I was envisioning circling away in wrestling stance, trying to keep a strong posture and not let him grab control of my wrists, push away every time he tries clinching, stuff then disengage if he shoots for my legs etc. Cliffs -is it really possible to simply avoid a BJJ blue belt trying to submit you by refusing to engage? I have a strength advantage and was taught freestyle by ex soviet wrestlers for two years in junior school (training us like little Russians). My friend is a BJJ blue who mainly is a guard puller, long and lanky style (he's mentioned arm drags and trips as his go to takedowns).