#metoo applies to married couples, too

[ScottE]

If they have to force they aren't in a relationship anymore.

So if a husband or wife says no to having sex one night, the relationship is over?

Are you really going with you can't rape your spouse, but if you force your spouse into having sex (rape) then the relationship is over and it's rape again?

 

[Big Tuppy Hole]

I'm trying to imsgine what position they could be doing where she can hold and read a book while he's fucking her. Drawing a blank.

Lazy dog

 

[AnGrYcRoW]

So if a husband or wife says no to having sex one night, the relationship is over?

Are you really going with you can't rape your spouse, but if you force your spouse into having sex (rape) then the relationship is over and it's rape again?

That was the position of @Thurisaz ..... I think that was his handle , it was good times painting him into that corner lol

 

[indo80]

Although i agree you can be raped in marriage this situation doesnt sound like rape at all. They had an arrangement for years to have emotionless sex and this marriage should have ended the day she uttered the words to her husband to not kiss her.

 

[skaleton]

Another fucking thing!!!

My girlfriend of four years HATES me looking at porn. She has said that it’s akin to cheating and that she loses respect for me whenever I do. Yet she spends most nights staring at her iPad, watching YouTube and gets snappy whenever I try to initiate...

I feel rejected and hurt whenever she shuts me down, so I whack off to porn out of spite.

Just bust out the porn while you're laying next to her in bed and she rejects you for the ipad. Or grab your phone, say "I'm gonna go crank one out then"

That'll get to the heart of it. Right now it sounds like you could be on the road to some of the same ,just read while I bang you type agreements.

 

[Prokofievian]

Another fucking thing!!!

My girlfriend of four years HATES me looking at porn. She has said that it’s akin to cheating and that she loses respect for me whenever I do. Yet she spends most nights staring at her iPad, watching YouTube and gets snappy whenever I try to initiate...

I feel rejected and hurt whenever she shuts me down, so I whack off to porn out of spite.

I bet this woman thinks the same way. Probably cooks a breakfast every now and again in a futile attempt to justify herself as a good wife...

In her world, no sex, no hugs, no kisses, no porn, no wanking...just stress, unfulfilled temptation, low esteem and rejection for the bloke...

Us men have been told that women are the greatest thing on Earth, attractive, gentle, loving, kind but above all, the other half.

I see no other half in that marriage. I see a hole with a plug that refuses to budge so that the hole can be filled...

I think I'd break that off the second she said she ''loses respect'' for me. I either have your respect or I don't. It will soon be Spring: breakup season on campus, and therefore also rebound season. Just something to keep in mind.

 

[bufetadanacara]

That wife sounds like a real cunt.

The divorce laws need to change. Alimony simply should not exist, ever.

This man may very well have divorced this bitch years earlier if it wasn't going to cost him a fortune.

Sex is part of marriage.

 

[Amerikuracana]

So if a husband or wife says no to having sex one night, the relationship is over?

Are you really going with you can't rape your spouse, but if you force your spouse into having sex (rape) then the relationship is over and it's rape again?

There would have to be valid medical reason. If your spouse needs sex, the marriage is consent. If you don't like the sex, a divorce is the punishment. People like you are why marriage sucks and husbands and wives act disgusted by each other in the west, but happily have 8+ kids in other parts of the world without all the weirdness. Women don't like what you're saying irl, bro.. They are disgusted by it.

You never deny your husband. That's part of the deal.

 

[Amerikuracana]

Although i agree you can be raped in marriage this situation doesnt sound like rape at all. They had an arrangement for years to have emotionless sex and this marriage should have ended the day she uttered the words to her husband to not kiss her.

I can see circumstances where there is rape in marriage.. Very rare. I would blame this woman for marital problems and being a cold person wayyyyyy before I would blame her husband for rape.

 

[King Joffery]

Poor husband, bad enough to be emasculated to the point where she doesn't even pretend to be into it and reads a book but then accuses him of being a rapist after the fact lol. These women are out of control.

 

[Headkicktoleg]

There is SO MUCH wrong with this article, it is hard to even begin... bottom line, if the person you are married leaves you feeling like;

"...when we have sex, I feel like I’m being violated.” The unwanted sex at times made me sick: Once I had to run straight from bed to the bathroom, where I retched into the toilet..."

***NEWS FLASH: It is time for a divorce, for both persons sake, (not to mention any kids that may be in the household).***

The author states that the reason for not pursuing a divorce is the potential of 'financial turmoil' and not wanting to 'break up the family'... but you either love your partner or you do not... and it would seem from everything written in the article, the answer to that question is pretty obvious. They feel comfortable enough to suggest their husband is guilty of sexual assault but is willing to remain married to the same individual because they fear the economic and social repercussions.

Finally, it there would appear the author has their own agenda. There are lots of signs in the article (..."I am a humanities professor who teaches feminist theory...) that point to that agenda, but perhaps the most telling for me was when she begged the question;

"...But what if you lie next to that man every night, and prefer to sleep naked? Should he assume your body is perpetually available to him for sex?..."

No is No... and any woman, or man for that matter, has the right to withdraw consent at any time. But let's not pretend that there isn't a reasonable expectation between spouses to engage in some sexual activity. When the relationship falls to a point where that expectation is no longer reasonable, it is time to call it quits. This is not sexual assault, but it is just pathetic...

#ThisIsNotMeToo

Yup. The woman was trading sex for a comfortable lifestyle. Simple as that.

 

[ScottE]

There would have to be valid medical reason. If your spouse needs sex, the marriage is consent. If you don't like the sex, a divorce is the punishment. People like you are why marriage sucks and husbands and wives act disgusted by each other in the west, but happily have 8+ kids in other parts of the world without all the weirdness. Women don't like what you're saying irl, bro.. They are disgusted by it.

You never deny your husband. That's part of the deal.

Holy fucking shit, your position is actually sooooo much worse then I expected.

Yeah, marriage is not blanket consent. Next you're going to tell me you a husband gets to decree that they are going to do anal tonight because marriage means she can't say no. And you think woman like the idea that their husband can force them into sex, hahaha.

You really are one sick puppy.

 

[Prokofievian]

I can see circumstances where there is rape in marriage.. Very rare. I would blame this woman for marital problems and being a cold person wayyyyyy before I would blame her husband for rape.

Wouldn't you at least blame the husband for being a total fuckin' weirdo for agreeing to that arrangement?

 

[Amerikuracana]

Wouldn't you at least blame the husband for being a total fuckin' weirdo for agreeing to that arrangement?

He was the one trying to keep it together and express love. She's a total scum-bag.

 

[plataoplombo]

Honestly, he should've divorced her. Why would you want to stay with someone who doesn't like you. He should've secretly ripped pages out of her book.

 

[Amerikuracana]

Holy fucking shit, your position is actually sooooo much worse then I expected.

Yeah, marriage is not blanket consent. Next you're going to tell me you a husband gets to decree that they are going to do anal tonight because marriage means she can't say no. And you think woman like the idea that their husband can force them into sex, hahaha.

You really are one sick puppy.

Naw you're just completely clueless.

P.S. anal doesn't get the same protection as actual sex.

 

[plataoplombo]

What is the remedy if you do not believe in divorce ?

Car accident.

 

[plataoplombo]

There is SO MUCH wrong with this article, it is hard to even begin... bottom line, if the person you are married leaves you feeling like;

"...when we have sex, I feel like I’m being violated.” The unwanted sex at times made me sick: Once I had to run straight from bed to the bathroom, where I retched into the toilet..."

***NEWS FLASH: It is time for a divorce, for both persons sake, (not to mention any kids that may be in the household).***

The author states that the reason for not pursuing a divorce is the potential of 'financial turmoil' and not wanting to 'break up the family'... but you either love your partner or you do not... and it would seem from everything written in the article, the answer to that question is pretty obvious. They feel comfortable enough to suggest their husband is guilty of sexual assault but is willing to remain married to the same individual because they fear the economic and social repercussions.

Finally, it there would appear the author has their own agenda. There are lots of signs in the article (..."I am a humanities professor who teaches feminist theory...) that point to that agenda, but perhaps the most telling for me was when she begged the question;

"...But what if you lie next to that man every night, and prefer to sleep naked? Should he assume your body is perpetually available to him for sex?..."

No is No... and any woman, or man for that matter, has the right to withdraw consent at any time. But let's not pretend that there isn't a reasonable expectation between spouses to engage in some sexual activity. When the relationship falls to a point where that expectation is no longer reasonable, it is time to call it quits. This is not sexual assault, but it is just pathetic...

#ThisIsNotMeToo

Just the fact that she mentioned "financial turmoil" first means that subconsciously, that the economic change is the bigger reason.

 

[FacePunch]

There would have to be valid medical reason. If your spouse needs sex, the marriage is consent. If you don't like the sex, a divorce is the punishment. People like you are why marriage sucks and husbands and wives act disgusted by each other in the west, but happily have 8+ kids in other parts of the world without all the weirdness. Women don't like what you're saying irl, bro.. They are disgusted by it.

You never deny your husband. That's part of the deal.

Posts like this are how we all know that you're not really a lawyer.

 

[Amerikuracana]

Posts like this are how we all know that you're not really a lawyer.

You're a complete idiot. The FIRST definition of rape you learn in law school has "OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE" as an element. Fail again dumbass.

Yes, the common law has somewhat been replaced, but this is still taught.