Why should people think other people should care that they're offended?
When you are disrespected, what do you do? Stick your chest out? What the fuck is that going to solve? It only proves your insecurity towards words. Something that holds no weight. it also turns you into a target for other shit heads to shit on you. I actually like getting offended, because it teaches me what type of asshole you are, I learn about you and move on with my life. Thats how an adult deals with it. sensitive people blame others for how they feel, they want to be protected, instead of dealing with it. Everyone gets uncomfortable, so deal with it. You're not the only one who gets uncomfortable.
In theory, I get what your'e saying, and I don't completely disagree.
BUT, we live in a society. Societies have rules and laws--social and legal. People learn how to act by either legal enforcement, or social enforcement.
Ignoring people who break these social laws serves no good for the society.
You have to choose your battles of course. I'm not saying you go out and be the 'word police' every time you hear something offensive. If I see a random asshole out on the street say something stupid, I'm more than likely not going to waste my time with him. But, a person I work with, a family member, or really any body that I have to spend some significant time with, it makes no sense to let that person disrespect me without having some words with them.
Having words with them doesn't mean beating their ass, or punking them. But acting like shit is cool, when it's not, I don't see how that is being an 'adult'. If an adult has a problem, they address it. HOW you address it will determine whether you are an actual adult, a child, or a moron.
Has nothing to do with "wanting to be protected". It's about respect. If you disrespect me, I"m going talk to you like a man and try to work out the problem. If it's a misunderstanding, then let's talk it out.0\
As an example, (i'm half black btw) If you and your friends throw around the "N" word (the one that ends in an A) and that's cool between you guys, and you start to try and use it on me, I'm going to tell you it's not cool.
At that point, if we're going to maintain contact with each other, we need to either respect one another, or we need to not associate with another.